Being Gay - Annoying Sometimes

[Jasey]

So I'm not sure If It's just me but...., being gay can be so annoying and stressful, I mean It's hard to find a good guy, and sometimes when you do he's straight! I mean I fell in love with my best friend around 2 years ago, it sucks and he knows.... then there's the negative atmosphere my school provides, no wonder I dont want to come out i just feel uncomfortable in my skin, does anyone else feel this? my best female friend is in love with me and it would be so much easier if I could just love her. The whole being gay thing can push you to the ropes sometimes, here's hoping it pays off x3! Does anyone else find this to be accurate?

[TigerBoy]

You have to deal with a background of a lot of little stuff that all adds up, even if you aren't getting major bullying or anything, and it can hit your confidence. Its really tough to be gay for some people, no question.

Finding love can be harder for gay guys because there are fewer of us and you can't spot us from just looking a lot of the time (which is why some guys camp it up). But gay guys use internet dating a lot for that reason so you might be able to save time that way and still be discrete. There may also be gay youth groups locally, that wouldn't mean you had to be 100% out but possibly easier if you were out to parents.

If it doesn't feel safe to come out, then of course you shouldn't rush to do so. At school people can get away with a lot of shit they would be arrested for if they were an adult, so leaving it until you are older isn't a bad idea.

[Apollo.]

Yes, I totally agree! I always find guys I really like but they turn out to be straight! I sort of denied being gay to myself for a while and being a straight guy is definitely easier it didn't feel right though. I've not attempted to come out to any except one person yet but I imagine when I do it won't go down very well. Even though straight is easier for me it's not right and personally I would rather struggle slightly with people's reactions and finding the right guy than pretend to be straight all my life

[Swagamemmnon]

I agree it is so annoying, especially as i don't even know any other gay guys (GSA is full of straight guys/girls, while I appreciate it its sort of lonely).

[Sonic Boom]

Yes, it's tough being gay. Even if people decide to be more accepting, there are very few candidates to choose from, and even fewer that are relationship material. D'oh! And online dating isn't exactly a very safe or reliable option where I live. D'oh! But I could befriend someone who is openly gay (even if it takes 10 years) and meet others through him.

[Cognizant]

Yeah, it sucks. All the gay people at my school seemingly hate me.
I'm glad I like women as well...