How important is sex to you?

[Aaron55]

So I wanna get involved with this guy I've met, but when we talked about relationships and stuff, he was saying sex is a very important part of a relationship for him. He said he's very sexual and wants to do a lot of different sexual things with me. I'm not sure what he means by different though; rimming, bdsm, other stuff like that. He also said he would need it almost everyday too.

Anyways, it makes me wonder, is sex really important to you guys? Are there certain sexual things you NEED from your partner? Certain sexual things that you are afraid others won't want to do with you?

[StoppingTime]

:arrow: Teen Sexuality.

[colz]

Sex is the last thing I think about. My first concerns are whether the guy will be there for me when I need him to, as well as be willing to have a committed relationship with me. Some people may see this as strict, but for me I say it's because I value love and don't give it away. Hence why I am about the only 'gay' virgin I know of at my high school of 2,000. I say sex will only become reality between me and someone else is if we have a loving AND committed relationship for at LEAST one year. Because if a relationship revolves around sex than where is the point of that relationship? Where is the love? Anyone can solicit their body for sex... But that's just me, hope you like my take on this subject...

[Apollo.]

Sex is an important part of a relationship but not the most important. I'd rather be with someone I really liked that I could talk to, tell everything and just sit a and cuddle into all the time than some sex crazed maniac! I value real love over sex any day. There have been times I've had sex with people I don't have any feelings for and it's not great. I've now identified myself as gay and I'm a gay virgin although I have had sex with girls and I'm definitely going to wait for a guy I love. Sex is great but not the main part of a relationship

[PICAHO]

yup its important for relaxation of human

[justinglives]

Agree with colz !!

[ackmedsgirl666]

sex is a very important key to keeping as relationship strong(in my opinion)
it helps build a stronger bond with your partner. me and my boyfriend pretty much partake is sex everyday but its nothing new. we dont go crazy or anything its just the sort of bond we have. its how we show our love to one another
of course reading others comments here i dont wanna sound like a total jerk. there is the emotional part of it where we do try and be there for one another. infact ive spend the past week taking care of my spouse cuz hes been sick. point is sex is good... but its not like mandatory for all people.

[Skeptical Bear]

I'd say it's a component of a relationship, but I don't see it as important. There are certain things I'm afraid others might not want me to do or want to do, but I'm an open person and considerate so I wouldn't really care. I think communication, trust, and many others are much more important than sex. I think that if you don't go around having sex with everybody, and only with those that you feel are the right one's for you, than it would mean something because you're opening up to someone which you would usually not do. Different if you're promiscuous.

[horizonlooker]

I don't think it's thee most important part of a relationship. It's a way of opening up to your partner, in a way that you don't (or at least shouldn't) open up to just anybody.

[TigerBoy]

sex is a very important key to keeping as relationship strong(in my opinion)
it helps build a stronger bond with your partner. me and my boyfriend pretty much partake is sex everyday but its nothing new. we dont go crazy or anything its just the sort of bond we have. its how we show our love to one another.

Totally agree - same with me and my bf. We're totally in love, and we can snuggle and talk nonsense for hours, but I'm amazed by how fun the sex is to be honest, and we both love it, but its great BECAUSE its a chance to make the person you love feel incredible, and I that is an amazing experience. Its also great stress relief after school :)

[Eliza Snark]

To me, being satisfied sexually is every bit as important as being satisfied emotionally. You can be the sweetest person I've ever met, but if I'm not feelin' it, I'm just not feelin' it. I'm sorry.

[ReginaGeorge]

To me, being satisfied sexually is every bit as important as being satisfied emotionally. You can be the sweetest person I've ever met, but if I'm not feelin' it, I'm just not feelin' it. I'm sorry.

I agree about the satisfaction.

It also depends HOW sexually active that person is, like, how often they get frustrated, or how often they want to do it too. Some people may want it everyday, others only once a week, once a month, or twice in one week and then nothing for a month. It all depends, but relating to the above, you need to be satisfied in both aspects, but it varies person to person. :)

[Eliza Snark]

It also depends HOW sexually active that person is, like, how often they get frustrated, or how often they want to do it too. Some people may want it everyday, others only once a week, once a month, or twice in one week and then nothing for a month. It all depends, but relating to the above, you need to be satisfied in both aspects, but it varies person to person. :)

Communication and finding a person on the same wavelength is key as well. Never get with someone and try to change them to your liking- Sometimes, you're just better off finding someone else who's looking to get the same things out of the relationship that you are.

[KifoThaKid]

Tell him he needs to wait. And you make him wait as long as you can to make sure he's not using you. Not saying he is but just to be secure hold out on sex. I do believe it can strengthen a relationship but can just as well break one. It's a make or break move. make sure you're making right decision when you do decide to go for it and please...USE PROTECTION!

[Thepolice5291]

No, Sex is not important, As long as my Girlfriend and I can talk and go to movies and dinners and talk again we are fine, Sex is not a big factor in my life and I'm happy to wait till marriage

[squibles976]

Cut him off for a little bit if he gets angry or upset then sex is his primary motivation in the relationship, not necessarily only one though

[kye.]

So I wanna get involved with this guy I've met, but when we talked about relationships and stuff, he was saying sex is a very important part of a relationship for him. He said he's very sexual and wants to do a lot of different sexual things with me. I'm not sure what he means by different though; rimming, bdsm, other stuff like that. He also said he would need it almost everyday too.

Anyways, it makes me wonder, is sex really important to you guys? Are there certain sexual things you NEED from your partner? Certain sexual things that you are afraid others won't want to do with you?

All I 'NEED' is a guy lol I can careless about sex, but right now I need company and that is much more important to me than sex. I agree with others, sex is important but not as important that it has to be done daily in my opinion.

[wizard25]

Agree with colz !!

me too justin!

[wizard25]

Totally agree - same with me and my bf. We're totally in love, and we can snuggle and talk nonsense for hours, but I'm amazed by how fun the sex is to be honest, and we both love it, but its great BECAUSE its a chance to make the person you love feel incredible, and I that is an amazing experience. Its also great stress relief after school :)

i totally agree, tiger. sex is way fun lol especially with a terrific dude

[MattT]

If I could actually get in a relationship that would be the last thing on my mind. I actually think I'd care more about how many times honey cocaine got shot , or if a tree falls and there is no one around to hear it does make a sound, and then
sex.

[PinkFloyd]

Well I'm not gay so I don't know if this will help but I'll just put down what's important for me and my gf. We both like sex and want to do it A LOT but we don't depend on it. If we did then we wouldn't see eachother as not just long time bf/gfs but truely best friends. It sounds like this guy is just trying to use you for sex. What I'm getting at is that I don't think he would care about you as a person. I don't know this guy. I could be completely wrong.

- Rob

[Pierce]

I have so many things on my mind. Sex really is only thought about when im really really horny lol

[Iron Man]

At the moment, I don't really care about sex. To me, it is just a thing.

[Cognizant]

To me, I want her love, not her vagina. At least at the moment, that's the case.

[ChickenCasseroleYum]

oh dear God. I'm 17 and I've never had a boyfriend sex is still a billion light years away for me

[Halcyon]

In a relationship, I value the romance the most. I want to be able to hold his hand when we're together, give him a hug when he's down, tell him he's gorgeous when he thinks he's not. I want to go to the cinema and go for long walks with him. But I think sex is a very romantic thing when done in a relationship, so it's an important thing in my opinion. Not the most important thing, but important nonetheless.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Not that much. Love though, COMPLETELY DIFFERENT STORY. :)

Sex can be though a good thing to do to keep it going. Just, don't get obsessed.

[wish_master_TWA]

Sex is certainly a part of a good relationship! It shows trust, love, & intimacy. So yeah, sex will have to come into a relationship sooner or later. :D

[dontfiguremeout]

Honestly sex isn't even on my list for dating at all! Not till I'm married. I wanna enjoy the girl I'm with, but I don't need to do it sexual, plus I would then be using her just for sex, which is totally not cool!