How do I get a girlfriend?!

[BrainsBrawn12]

I'm depressed because I don't have a girlfriend. You see, this whole year since June, I've asked a total of 5 girls out, and each one said no. The one I'm sad about in particular is when I asked this girl I've known for years, and her name is Makayla. When her mom went to go somewhere with my mom (some workout place or something), Makayla was playing with my rabbit, and her sisters were gone too. So, since I've built a friendship with her for the past 5 years, I asked her out. She just said, with barely any emotion, "No." For the past year I've had dreams about her, and it was like God was telling me to ask her out because the dreams were so vivid and real and it was like seeing the future. So, that's why I asked her out, but alas I've given up on her and it was honestly the best decision I made.... But, unfortunately, a couple months later my feelings of freedom and happiness abated when this really cute girl named Caitlin came around some time during the beginning of the school year. She was so cute, with a cute smile and a hell of a personality. She smiled at me, so I thought, "Hey, maybe this girl likes me." So, I've tried to be really nice to her in hopes of getting her to ask me out, I mean I would ask her out, but I'd probably make an idiot of herself because she always hanging out with her friends and plus, she's of a different social strata than me. I know she's out of my league and it would be impossible to talk to her alone at school (school's the only time I see her), but I really want her so bad more than any girl I've met! It's been a couple of months and she still has yet to do so, so I've decided to give up on her too. And now, I regret it a lot, and now I'm really mad at myself for being to shy. Then a couple of days ago I was asked out on facebook, I said yes, only to be single again. She had a boyfriend, but she said when she broke up with me that she asked me out despite that because, "The temptation was overwhelming, but I can't be unfaithful to Diego, my boyfriend." Then the next day she apologized and I told her one day she's going to have to make a decision, and she understood that as well. I've done everything to come out of my shell, but it really isn't getting me anywhere and all the girls seem to be going after all the fakes. For all these years I've wanted to fill the depths of my heart with something, but...I'm just too shy! But, the last time I had a girlfriend I was in the 5th grade and I really want a girlfriend, but maybe I should just wait for the right one to come to me or should I keep trying. And also, how do I break my reserved persona? I'll change anything to get a girlfriend.

[jojorob]

No offence guy i feel like theis story screams desperation im not the best looking person but my confidence SHINES hella confidence and keys is what they...... wait i mean confidence is key lol but anwa leave girls alone for a minute get to know yourself

[BrainsBrawn12]

No offence guy i feel like theis story screams desperation im not the best looking person but my confidence SHINES hella confidence and keys is what they...... wait i mean confidence is key lol but anwa leave girls alone for a minute get to know yourself

I've tried being confident, but I either end up making a complete and total idiot of myself, or I just fail trying altogether. And how the fawk can I get to know myself?

[jojorob]

Okay so i know its hard to try being confident, thats cause its not normal. Okay so getting to know yourself mean knowing you what aspects do you most like about yourself why do you want a girlfreind truly, i complete understand trying to be confident is hard its cause either you are or arent, you can however become confident if you view yourself in a better manner (i.e like yourself better than the urge of wanating a gf if you start comepletely[not saying you dont already] liking yourself for what you are who you are and relizing faults about yourself and things you like aout yourself, i dont have the full right to judge you but i feel like you may be a little insecure if you want a girl this badly "For the past year I've had dreams about her, and it was like God was telling me to ask her out because the dreams were so vivid and real and it was like seeing the future. So, that's why I asked her out" i think its rather unhealthy to think of someone who shouldnt be this important to you. But i belive truthfully that these feeling are only because your hormones are racing.

[BrainsBrawn12]

Okay so i know its hard to try being confident, thats cause its not normal. Okay so getting to know yourself mean knowing you what aspects do you most like about yourself why do you want a girlfreind truly, i complete understand trying to be confident is hard its cause either you are or arent, you can however become confident if you view yourself in a better manner (i.e like yourself better than the urge of wanating a gf if you start comepletely[not saying you dont already] liking yourself for what you are who you are and relizing faults about yourself and things you like aout yourself, i dont have the full right to judge you but i feel like you may be a little insecure if you want a girl this badly "For the past year I've had dreams about her, and it was like God was telling me to ask her out because the dreams were so vivid and real and it was like seeing the future. So, that's why I asked her out" i think its rather unhealthy to think of someone who shouldnt be this important to you. But i belive truthfully that these feeling are only because your hormones are racing.

I like the fact that I'm real cool, a little cold (the mean cold), calm, calculating, and intelligent. I think I want a girlfriend so bad because I've never felt the feeling of true love, but that doesn't mean I don't like myself more than that. But, I'll admit this, if I had the perfect girl, then I'd die content. I've never thought about thinking about my faults, maybe my mom was right about me being self - righteous.... But, I guess my faults would be that I'm self - righteous, insecure, unkind, melancholy, and kind of a wet blanket (JSYK, I can't believe I admitted that I'm a wet blanket). Now, about my insecurity secrets and stuff, I'm going to let you know that I've never, ever[/I] admitted this to anyone, but.... You see, before I moved to this new city when I was in the 3rd Grade, I was extremely confident and I was always helping people and sometimes I got in trouble at school because of my Autism I guess. Anyway, but at home...I was smothered with kindness by my mother, but my Dad left me and my family when I was like 3 to go do B - Ball coaching (which barely paid any money, still doesn't, but my sister was different. She hated me, she couldn't stand the fact that I existed I guess. My mom keeps telling me different and I know she's right, but her manipulating makes me think different every time. And you know, she still does be mean to me like last Thursday she wanted to use my computer and I told her to use it in my room. She said it stinks in there, and it hasn't recently because the cat hasn't had one of his nuclear bomb dumps recently. So she tried to take the computer and then my mom hid it. My mom asked me why, and I said because she, once again, chastised me but on Wed. last week it was just the last straw. Mom called her in to apologize, and she provoked me worse than she ever had before, so I stormed into her room and I punched her on her cheek and she charged to me and I threw her in her closet and stormed right out. Then, my mom took the computer to her classroom (she's a teacher), but the gate was locked and no one was there. So, she just gave it to me in the end. I apologized to her telling her, "I'm sorry mom, for making your night a living hell. But, me and Olivia cannot coexist no matter how hard we try." Then the next day, Mom told me, "Isaiah, everyone's at fault for the past few years. Olivia for provoking and chastising you. You for being self - righteous and selfish. Your dad for never being there for us. And, me for not beating you when you two were little...." She was right of course.... Since I came to this new city when I was in the 3rd grade, I've been bullied, annoyed, tortured, stressed out, unpopular, and etc. So yeah, you're right, I'm insecure.

[jojorob]

i find you strong you should find yourself strong i think you know that you were inthe wrong for hitting you sis but i know it was beacsuase of how she is i have a twin exactly the same but mabye worse she tells all my secrets over small things..... anyways i say your strong i say belee your strong i say if you belive yyour strong you will be strong if she starts again end all anger tell your momm right then and their so its no longer between you and your sis its either between her and mom or you and mom but either way you dont have to deal with the anger then the extreme compassion towards you sis it will no longer be that roller coaster you loed and dread/hate you will be strong independent and mabye even what a girl wants, i know personally the girls ive known like it when a guys flatters her all the time but knows their will never be anything their for that realationship, but im not saying thats the case but girls are like guys once you figure yourself out it easier to get a sense of others and see where you stand and eventually not want to hurt your self anymore stop allways trying to be the one to rely on thats not you you want more than a 90/10 realationship you want a 50/50 if your honest with yourself
sorry it took so long correct me anywhere im wrong

[BrainsBrawn12]

i find you strong you should find yourself strong i think you know that you were inthe wrong for hitting you sis but i know it was beacsuase of how she is i have a twin exactly the same but mabye worse she tells all my secrets over small things..... anyways i say your strong i say belee your strong i say if you belive yyour strong you will be strong if she starts again end all anger tell your momm right then and their so its no longer between you and your sis its either between her and mom or you and mom but either way you dont have to deal with the anger then the extreme compassion towards you sis it will no longer be that roller coaster you loed and dread/hate you will be strong independent and mabye even what a girl wants, i know personally the girls ive known like it when a guys flatters her all the time but knows their will never be anything their for that realationship, but im not saying thats the case but girls are like guys once you figure yourself out it easier to get a sense of others and see where you stand and eventually not want to hurt your self anymore stop allways trying to be the one to rely on thats not you you want more than a 90/10 realationship you want a 50/50 if your honest with yourself
sorry it took so long correct me anywhere im wrong

Okay. But, a lot of people say I'm kind of the strong, silent, and independent type so maybe I already know I'm strong. Maybe I don't need to figure myself out.... I love myself more than anyone, but not so much that I'm desperate and mean. But, I really do want a girlfriend, not because I'm desperate (in fact, I've never been desperate for love in my life because of my independent nature), but for these reasons:

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1. So I'll have something to brag about (not to be mean, it would be for that reason before, but I've decided to change, thanks to you). I want to be able to tell people, "Hey, I've got a girlfriend!" But, to be honest I'd probably tell my friends that, my really close friends.
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2. So I can walk and talk with the popular people and finally be accepted by the popular kids.
3. So I can live my life to the fullest. For years, I've been waiting for the right one to come, so if I could just find the right one I'd die content, like I said. And for years I've wanted to have children, grandchildren, great grand children, and so on and so forth so my family will still live on for generations to come.
So, I'm going to ask you again, knowing these reasons, how do I get a girlfriend? What's preventing me from getting one? Is my shy nature getting in the way and do I need to be confident and get out of my comfort zone? Do I need to be more friendly? Or is it something else?

[jojorob]

Okay. But, a lot of people say I'm kind of the strong, silent, and independent type so maybe I already know I'm strong. Maybe I don't need to figure myself out.... I love myself more than anyone, but not so much that I'm desperate and mean. But, I really do want a girlfriend, not because I'm desperate (in fact, I've never been desperate for love in my life because of my independent nature), but for these reasons:

[LIST=1]
1. So I'll have something to brag about (not to be mean, it would be for that reason before, but I've decided to change, thanks to you). I want to be able to tell people, "Hey, I've got a girlfriend!" But, to be honest I'd probably tell my friends that, my really close friends.
[LIST=1]
2. So I can walk and talk with the popular people and finally be accepted by the popular kids.
3. So I can live my life to the fullest. For years, I've been waiting for the right one to come, so if I could just find the right one I'd die content, like I said. And for years I've wanted to have children, grandchildren, great grand children, and so on and so forth so my family will still live on for generations to come.
So, I'm going to ask you again, knowing these reasons, how do I get a girlfriend? What's preventing me from getting one? Is my shy nature getting in the way and do I need to be confident and get out of my comfort zone? Do I need to be more friendly? Or is it something else?

Okay i now that i know this all i think you might have to wait for the right one who will love you for you no more advice on trying to get a girl from me

[Lotsofhumor.com]

In order for you to get a girlfriend, you have to first make girls like you. In order for girls to like you, you have to be friends with them.

Start out with talking more to this girl and making her your friend. Make her laugh and be there for he when she is sad. But, only be a friend. Eventually, she will get tired of her current boyfriend and also seeing how much you care about here, will come to you.

The main thing you have to do is to be a little patient.