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Cicero
October 12th, 2012, 11:46 PM
So I've been told by a few people that I'm a Heteroromantic Homosexual, and it seems like im stuck. Like, I love girls romantically, and barely sexually. But I dont like guys much romantically, but i like them sexually. I feel like I can imagine 'cuddling' with a guy my age, yet I know that when I get older, i couldn't do that (as in i really wouldn't want to). I know I could cuddle with a girl my age, and I know i could when i get older. i cant imagine doing anything sexual with a girl now, other than kiss and make out. when i see movies, i just think "i wish i had a girlfriend to go to that movie with" i can imagine doing a bunch ofstuff with my 'girlfriend' if i went to go see a movie with her (i dont have one, but theoretically speaking). yet, i know i cant imagine going to see one with a guy, unless were both just friends. does this mean im mainly straight, but i might be slightly bi, but mostly straight? like from a scale of 1-10, 1 being super straight and 5 being bi, and 10 being gay, what would I be? i think i would be a 3-4 do you agree?

so i was reading an article, and it had read that peoples sexuality is based off of who they imagine being with when there older. i imagine being with a wife when im older. this isn't something that i was taught when i was younger (i was told that i think that way cause i was exposed to both ways of living, but i know i imagine living with a wife). so to sum up how i think. i love guys physically, and sexually. i love girls physically and emotionally. but not sexually. i can imagine making out with a girl and such, but i can also imagine doing that with a guy. i ONLY like guys that look 17 years old. I dont like guys who look old. or who look like ther older than 17. so i know i couldnt stand doing anything with a guy when i get older, cause he wouldn't look 17 lol

i do find myself sexually attracted to a select amount of women, like when i saw the kimkardashian porn video, i got, umm, 'excited', as if i did watching gay porn. but straight porn its hard to get excited, but i eventually do (it just takes time) while gay porn i get excited almost immediately.

dontfiguremeout
October 13th, 2012, 12:42 AM
Your just going through puberty, which because of your hormones are going crazy now, your going through a phase. It's just to see who you will want to be with when your older. So just go with the flow right now! Do what you gotta do! By the end of puberty, your hormones will die down, and you will be able to tell what you are. Just don't label yourself right now, till your done in this phase!

Jaaawsh
October 13th, 2012, 02:08 AM
I kind of feel that way too. I think that it's really up to you in some ways. I can't really imagine myself being married to a guy, or growing old with a guy; but right now I'm really attracted to guys and can't see myself with a girl.
At the same time though I can see myself with a wife and kids in the future and growing old with a woman.

Just go with what feels right, right now; which is what I'm doing. I'm accepting myself as gay, and I'm planning my life based around me being gay. You though, could plan your life around being straight. Really you need to decide what's best for you, who you're attracted to sexually and emotionally and who you want to be with.

Don't put yourself on a scale, try to discover who you are inside.

TigerBoy
October 13th, 2012, 05:20 AM
Just go with what feels right, right now; which is what I'm doing. I'm accepting myself as gay, and I'm planning my life based around me being gay. You though, could plan your life around being straight. Really you need to decide what's best for you, who you're attracted to sexually and emotionally and who you want to be with.

Don't put yourself on a scale, try to discover who you are inside.

Excellent advice.

I think part of the problem is that society's conditioning is VERY deeply programmed in. Looking at how many people have hang ups about even sleeping naked or showering with others. These ideas are just absorbed through habit and constant example around us.

"Normal" is just a result of conditioning, and "normal" is comfortable and easy.

As you experience more you may find that it either confirms or contradicts what is already programmed in. What you imagine of your future now may in large part simply the 'default' perception that society has placed in you.

It is hard to act on homosexual romantic feelings in some societies, and then there is the whole 'finding Mr Right' thing. You may simply need more experience to be able to let subconscious inhibitions go.

Equally with girls, you may find if you have experience that you enjoy the sexual side after all, however I'd be worried about planning a lifetime arrangement on something which you can only tolerate.