Becoming relatable and likeable

[apr2367]

I have a problem relating to people and becoming likeable does anyone have any tips how to improve

[elishakate15]

Personally, I think trying to become likable keeps people from liking you for YOU. If you change who you are so people like you then they aren't liking the real you, right? So, my advice? Be yourself. I know, I know...such cliche advice. But if you are confident in yourself and the things you like, you'll find people who can relate to you. :D I promise. It takes time, but it is completely worth it.

[dontfiguremeout]

Hmm, well I think first you should start talking to people! Open up! I mean those two things will help you relate to others! Then you'll be able to make good conversations! And then for people liking you, if you try to make people like you, you'll only fail, and have people hate you! Just be yourself, and people will see you're yourself, and then they'll like you because you are yourself!

[SimSailorNick]

Ask people what their interests are then if you find something interesting, you can talk to them about that but don't like something for the sake of becoming relatable. Like something because you find it interesting and it just happened to be the same as the person you're relating to.

Likeability, just talk about who you are and what you like doing. Every person is interesting, you just have to let them know that. And don't say anything that can turn people off. (happened to me)

Be yourself but a more "equipped and upgraded" version of yourself. Try out new things, add them to your experiences. Always be a good sport and you'll do fine.

Good luck!

[MartyG]

Let your "friends to be" talk to you....ask them what they are involved in and what their interests are. Only talk about yourself if you are asked a question.

People like it when others show a sincere interest in their activities.

[Swagamemmnon]

Open up but be yourself. If you have to pretend that you like something your friends do, for example, then you aren't being genuine.

[Allbutanillusion]

I think that one thing that may help you in the way which you perceive this is to realize that you are not going to be liked by everyone/ not everyone is going to like you. No matter what you do or how well you approach people, some people may have no intention of ever liking you(as silly as that may seem). I know that may seem harsh but if you learn to that reality then I think you will be able to handle your perception of not being likeable better.

[ArsenicCatNip]

Just start talking to people. Find out what they like and compare your interests to theirs and talk about it. Like say video games, say you had a friend who really likes games. You could just talk to him about your favorite or his favorite. I think what would make someone likable is not arguing or constantly bickering with their friends and family, being someone who isn't reserved, etc. Good luck :) but above all else you don't have to change yourself to be relatable to someone. If you have no interests or nothing to talk about then I don't think it works..

[Freiheit]

I find it pretty hard too. I mean, I'm a pretty un-popular person. People tend to not like me because I'm not interested in dating and parties. Also, because I'm weird and I speak weird and yeah. I dunno if this help but at least you know, you're not alone on this.