date him just for the experience?

[mynameisjane]

i havent had a boyfriend before and i met someone who likes me. would it be wrong to just date him to see what its like?

[Maverick]

I don't think that's a good reason to date someone. You should date someone because you like them not because they're someone to keep you entertained and because you haven't had a boyfriend.

[mynameisjane]

so what do i tell him? i dont want to be mean rejecting him, but i'm not attracted.

[byee]

I think you might be putting the cart before the horse here, Jane. I didn't hear anyone mention 'Going out' (that's with a Capital 'G', if you know what I mean). What I'm hearing is that he wants to see a movie with you, maybe grab a bite to eat.

I say you should lower your expectations, look at this as just 2 people who have something in common spending an evening together. It's not necessarily a 'Date'. Go for it, just enjoy the evening and maybe eachother and see how you feel at the end. Don't read anything into it.

[theschmizz]

i agree see how the first date goes and then make a desiscion

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Well, I think that if you dont like him, you shouldnt date him. He will just have his heart broken.

[mynameisjane]

but it also seems messed up to reject him before giving him a chance.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Doesnt it seem more messed up to give him hope, then stomp on him?

[Frosty]

but it also seems messed up to reject him before giving him a chance.

girls have done this to me like twice, i just have to get over it and so will he...

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

well, i guess id rather be immediatly rejected than be rejected after a series of dates... maybe thats just me?

[mynameisjane]

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[mynameisjane]

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[byee]

Hel-OH!

You're already talking about rejecting him when you haven't even gone out with him! Can you just suspend judgement, not call it anything but 'time together' and see how it goes?

People who have that 'instant attraction' to someone usually aren't responding to them (they don't know them yet, really), they're responding to their own fantasy about them. Those don't last long, anyway, b/c they're not based in reality! The best relationships start off slow. There's nothing here to back away from, but because there's nothing obviously exciting about it doesn't mean you're necessarily wasting your time, either.

See what happens.

[mynameisjane]

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