College roommate

[TheBassoonist]

Not sure if this should go here or in education/career, but this is more friend-related than school related.

So I'm currently in college. My dorm room is a 4-person apartment, all guys. There's 1 common living area and 2 bedrooms with a bunk bed in each. The roommate in question is the one who sleeps in the same room that I do. Now to the issue.

Earlier today, a little over 5 hours ago, me and the roommate in question were at a desk on our computers doing our own things, when I noticed that he was watching porn on his computer. I didn't have a problem with that, but then I noticed that he was masturbating under the desk while he was watching it. While I didn't see his penis, I saw his arm moving up and down. He finished and went back to normal. In case there was any doubt, I could smell it when he was done. This was the first time I had noticed it, but I think he was watching porn one other time a few weeks ago.

I don't care that he was masturbating, I just care that he was when I was sitting right next to him. I don't know if he knows that I know or if he cares. Does anyone have any suggestions about how to proceed?

[Haunted]

Just politely ask him to do it in private. Be nice about it and I'm sure he'll be nice about it.

[Mortal Coil]

Yeah, like Porter said, just ask him nicely to wait until he's alone. You guys should lay down a couple of ground rules on both sides so that you can live in relative peace.

[Aves]

I'd just let him know you don't think that's cool. I know that if my roommate did that, I'd be grossed out a bit and walk out of the room.

[TigerBoy]

He could do with learning that this isn't automatically socially acceptable and understand that he should at the very least ask if you mind. Perhaps he's grown up with friends or brothers and simply assumes that the same rules apply with other guys.

[Apollo.]

That seems like a distinct lack of social skills and failing to see what is acceptable in society. You should talk to him as soon as you can and let him know you aren't comfortable with him doing it when you are around. If you don't want to directly say to him try dropping subtle hints about not being comfortable with stuff like that when your with him.

[Straight]

Like as said above ^ He could of judged you as being a person who would of been alright with it.. Just ask if you could make some rules so you dont argue