Is it possible to be love sick?

[Apollo.]

Basically what I mean is can you feel physically sick and unwell? I've recently been pretty down about some stuff with a guy I know and since I've started to feel down about him I have felt sick quite a lot when I think of stuff with him in detail and I just have no energy, I usually train (using weights and run) 5 times a week but I have not been to the gym once since I started thinking about him more. Tonight after I dropped this guy off at his house I had to stop the car and I was physically sick and I'm pretty sure thinking about things I should of done was what brought it on. So can you be lovesick or is it just me being stupid and getting it into my head that this is what's making me sick when it could be something totally unrelated?

[Dangoblin]

Assuming that this post relates to your other one, then yes, from what I've read, you could be love sick. I remember when i had REALLY bad crushes on people. I sometimes wouldnt eat for days and all i wanted to do was sleep. It will get better though. Also, the fact that you want to tell him doesnt help. I dont know if it would be your first time telling someone about yourself, but the first time is ALWAYS the hardest. It's even harder with the people you love. I remember when i told my mom. She was sitting outside smoking. I was shaky, but i walked out, sat down and said "Can I tell you something". After she said yes, i actually started to stutter, and i never stutter.
So, I bet you will feel better once you tell him that you have feeling about him. It will make you feel a lot better knowing that he knows.

[Apollo.]

Thanks, yeah is all the same guy, I feel kinda bad I feel like I never shit up about him on here and yeah it would be the first time telling anyone, thanks that's kinda put my mind at rest about another one of my problems! I'm feeling its harder with people you love because this is the hardest thing I've been through in my life and all I have to do is tell a friend something!

[Dangoblin]

Haha, dont worry. The reason you're posting here is because you need help. And its really not that bad that you dont shut up on him. (Be sure to keep me up to date if anything happens between you two xD). I also know the feeling to tell a friend. She was actually the first person i ever told i was gay. I texted it to her, and even then i was a nervous wreck. She was fine with it though. So you kinda have a double hill to get over (considering you love him and hes your friend). But trust me, you'll feel so much better in the end.

[Apollo.]

Thanks:) I will be letting everyone know if anything does happen between us so you won't need to worry about being kept up to date! Really? How did you work up to texting someone that? That's given me an idea that texting might be the best way for me to tell him cause its probably the only way ill be able to!

[Dangoblin]

Haha well actually, I was so love sick that i felt the need to tell someone, yanno, so i could talk to them about my crushes ;). I started it with the usual hey, hey, whats up, nothing much, etc. Then i was like "We're best friends right? No matter what?" when she said yes, I was like "I'm gay. Please tell me we can still be friends." (hehe my subconscious was acting up). Then she replied with "So whos your crush??".
And let me tell ya now, when i told her, it felt like ages before she texted back. So if you do text him, dont freak out right away if he doesnt text back.

[Apollo.]

That's the big problem, I don't have a best friend I can tell about it cause he is the best friend:/ I have plenty of friends but nobody I would trust with something like that. Do you think telling someone that you like them through text could mess things up a bit though? If they feel you don't have the guts to tell them to their face? Or am I just over thinking things?

[Dangoblin]

First off, I kinda know how you feel about the not trusting people. I think I've finally found the third person I'm going to tell next, and i might text her tonight.

In my opinion, you should text him and tell him you are gay or bi. Then let him digest the information and then wait like a week (maybe a few days if you can wait a week *wink* *wink*) before telling him that you have feelings for him.

And don't worry about over thinking things.. i mean, isn't that better than under thinking things?



*Edit*
So i just found out that texting isnt always the best option. I told my friend and she was like "Is this still Dan?"... so i guess i have to prove it in school tomorrow.

[Apollo.]

Thanks for the advice, yeah I get what you mean, what I'm thinking of doing is texting him when we are alone together, it will let me see his reaction and although it will be a bit weird for him I'm almost 99.9% sur he will be fine with it. To be fair I don't know why I'm so worked up about it I'm almost sure he will have one of his typical answers for it something along the lines of "Aww that's so cute am I the first you have told?" that's just what he is like everything is cute to him and he's really understanding. Talking to everyone on here has actually made me feel much better about the whole thing:) maybe I will get some sleep tonight! :D

[MartyG]

Go for it :) This guy sounds like a great friend...someone who would feel even worse if he thought that you couldn't/wouldn't be up-front with him. That is the kind of friend to have; you never need to feel that you can't be honest with each other.

And; for your other question...can it make you physically sick....you bet it can. Seriously. You need to take care of yourself.

[Apollo.]

Thanks, he's coming to mine tonight to watch some dvd's it's just me and him so I'm gonna try and grow some balls and talk to him:)

[Texas warrior]

Yea, I have almost puked a few times from lovesickness. Not fun.