What is it with 10-15 years old these days?

[HalleyJ]

I have noticed that kids this age are becoming more and more 'horny' masturbating all day long, wanting sex 24/7 etc etc. I feel that it is wrong, because if you are this egs you shouldn't even be thinking about sex as 'sex' rather play with your self every now and then for fun.

And at this age I really don't think that you understand the purpose of a relation ship, it is not get together and go at 'it'. It should be about loving some one for who they are sharing common intrests together.

So if you are super horny all the time, then fine. But try to love your partner and not try and find a replacement as soon as you loose them for any reason.

Sex is not everything.

[PGHTommy]

Good question....

The response to this could go on and on forever, but personally, I think it starts with how commercialized sex is these days...it's everywhere! TV, music, movies....all becoming more and more sexually explicit. It leads to younger kids experimenting and even younger kids trying to keep up. It's a vicious cycle.

[xxjj87yub]

The fact that puberty is starting earlier also probably has something to do with it. At one time hearing of a 10 year old in puberty was normal but almost unheard of; now it is still rare but more common

[West Coast Sheriff]

I have noticed that kids this age are becoming more and more 'horny' masturbating all day long, wanting sex 24/7 etc etc. I feel that it is wrong, because if you are this egs you shouldn't even be thinking about sex as 'sex' rather play with your self every now and then for fun.

And at this age I really don't think that you understand the purpose of a relation ship, it is not get together and go at 'it'. It should be about loving some one for who they are sharing common intrests together.

So if you are super horny all the time, then fine. But try to love your partner and not try and find a replacement as soon as you loose them for any reason.

Sex is not everything.


I definitely agree with you about this. Love is not all about sex and people are starting to have sex before they are even old enough. I guess they dont understand that sex is the closest way of connecting to someone you deeply love and sharing your body with them is sacred. They are misusing their bodies and 'sex'.

[TigerBoy]

And at this age I really don't think that you understand the purpose of a relation ship, it is not get together and go at 'it'. It should be about loving some one for who they are sharing common intrests together.
Not true. People get together just for sex all the time. Its called a 'sexual relationship' and the 'purpose' is clearly to have sex. Love is not required.

So if you are super horny all the time, then fine.
So ... sex is ok?

Sex is not everything.
No but its great fun. So sex is NOT ok?

It really isn't clear what your question is here: pubescent kids being horny is hardly new or surprising. If you are trying to make a case for sexual abstinence for the 10-15 age group then you haven't given any reasons to convince them. EG - why do you feel love should be a pre-requisite to having sex?

[HalleyJ]

Not true. People get together just for sex all the time. Its called a 'sexual relationship' and the 'purpose' is clearly to have sex. Love is not required.


So ... sex is ok?


No but its great fun. So sex is NOT ok?

It really isn't clear what your question is here: pubescent kids being horny is hardly new or surprising. If you are trying to make a case for sexual abstinence for the 10-15 age group then you haven't given any reasons to convince them. EG - why do you feel love should be a pre-requisite to having sex?

The point of this thread is to let people know what I feel when it comes to -15 year olds and sex, sure sexual relations are great, but not at this age. In general I do not like the idea of a sexual relationship for all ages, but that is just me.

My little sister brought it up during dinner today and she says she sees it all the time at school and she is quite disturbed about it. The rest of my family agree.

[TigerBoy]

sure sexual relations are great, but not at this age. In general I do not like the idea of a sexual relationship for all ages, but that is just me.

Hmm ok - so again, what are your reasons? I know I would have disagreed with you when I was younger, and would have resented you trying to tell me not to do something that other people were doing. I can't see that 'disapproving' is enough to change their minds.

[Elysium]

I think this is a very subjective topic, honestly. Kids used to get married, have sex, and have children at that age. Biologically, we're built to do it. I'm not particularly supportive of the idea either, but that's because society and sex ed have told me that it's wrong. The only reason I can think of for telling kids not to have sex (aside from health risks) is because they might not be emotionally prepared for that. As long as they're having safe sex, I don't see much of a threat. They've most likely been warned beforehand about the possible emotional repercussions, but I think it's really a case by case basis. Sometimes, they may be mature enough. Other times, they may not have been, and may grow up to regret it. It's not such a big deal. Nobody grows up with no regrets and, again, as long as it was safe sex and both parties' health wasn't put in jeopardy, they'll learn from it if it bothered them.

[StoppingTime]

Honestly, there is no set age where kids aren't "kids" anymore, and become interested in sex, and sexual activity.
Sure, you may not be happy with the number of 15-17 year olds who are sexually active; but the question is why? If they are being safe, mature, and responsible (which the majority of them are, you generally only hear about the cases which didn't end so well), then why is it a problem?
I don't think it has anything to do with "kids starting puberty earlier," because, well, where's the proof for that? It's possible that they have access to all the sexual education and information they could ever want at a much younger age than before (the internet), therefore making them aware of it all faster. But, if this leads them to be more mature about it all, then I think it's actually a good thing.

Also, this is becoming more of a debate.
:arrow: Ramblings of the Wise.

[Pipo]

Not true. People get together just for sex all the time. Its called a 'sexual relationship' and the 'purpose' is clearly to have sex. Love is not required.


So ... sex is ok?


No but its great fun. So sex is NOT ok?

It really isn't clear what your question is here: pubescent kids being horny is hardly new or surprising. If you are trying to make a case for sexual abstinence for the 10-15 age group then you haven't given any reasons to convince them. EG - why do you feel love should be a pre-requisite to having sex?

I think it's not okay in my opinion if you've sex with multi table persons specially if it is unprotected sex. Risk to get sex disease is way higher than having a guy/gal you love and have unprotected sex.

Of course it's their body and if you want to take that risk then go for it I'm not in the charge.

Cuz usually you've sex with a person who you love and are close with, having sex with a person who you love is like showing how much you love him/her and want to be really close to him/her, emotion sides too and so on.

Okay you can have sex without love but I don't see what's the idea on that I'd never consider doing with my friend or whatever. Of course people have different views on it and stuff but I don't answer to those just talking about myself.

[Jolty]

And sexual relationship at that age is unhealty.
I heard of a girl that died for some vaginal cuts
And it make people lose love, that is really a great thing. When i saw a girl that goes in class with my sister that was dressing very light t-shirts and showing her bra when the guys in class ask to her, i was shocked

[FreeFall]

I have noticed that kids this age are becoming more and more 'horny' masturbating all day long, wanting sex 24/7 etc etc.
That's actually nothing new. They're just not as shy as generations before them used to be because times are more laxed and we don't have the "shame the family" like before.

I feel that it is wrong, because if you are this egs you shouldn't even be thinking about sex as 'sex' rather play with your self every now and then for fun.
I'm having trouble following this but masturbation's normal and healthy no matter the age, even toddlers masturbate. Maybe not for pleasure, probably just comfort and curiosity, but they touch themselves. If they know about sex, they're good actually. They know what is and what isn't, they can protect themselves from predators and trickery.

And at this age I really don't think that you understand the purpose of a relation ship, it is not get together and go at 'it'. It should be about loving some one for who they are sharing common intrests together.
Don't generalize. At their age there is no real purpose to a relationship. It's just for fun and socialization more than "find the soul-mate", sex included. I'd rather them be monogamous though, than having sex with 17 different boys a week.
But there are some 12 year olds that can grasp the value and benefit of being in a relationship with the right guy for the right reasons, better than most 16 year olds.

So if you are super horny all the time, then fine. But try to love your partner and not try and find a replacement as soon as you loose them for any reason.
This isn't a fair point. there are 40 year olds that rebound worse than some teenagers ever will.

Sex is not everything.[/QUOTE]
I agree. But when you're in a mature relationship and the sexual lines have already been breached, it does become important to maintain and nurture.

[Jupiter]

maybe kids have always been this way and have just now started being more open with it.

[HalleyJ]

My little sister is generally disturbed by the teens around her at school. She can home complaining about these two kids that where talking about sex. It's affecting my little sisters schooling, for the worse.

[TigerBoy]

Cuz usually you've sex with a person who you love and are close with, having sex with a person who you love is like showing how much you love him/her and want to be really close to him/her, emotion sides too and so on.

Well this describes me (virgin until a few months ago), and you are right, it is excellent in that context, but I don't see that as a reason to prevent others from acting differently if they wish.

And sexual relationship at that age is unhealty
10-15 represents a huge spread of physical development, and different individuals mature at different rates. Which 'age' are you referring to and how exactly is it unhealthy?

I heard of a girl that died for some vaginal cuts
If death was normal or common outcome of sex it really wouldn't be a terribly popular passtime, and mankind wouldn't have lasted terribly long.

When i saw a girl that goes in class with my sister that was dressing very light t-shirts and showing her bra when the guys in class ask to her, i was shocked
LoL stuff like this was happening at junior school when I was 6 before we even knew what sex was. Not limited to the 10-15 age group.

[StoppingTime]

My little sister is generally disturbed by the teens around her at school. She can home complaining about these two kids that where talking about sex. It's affecting my little sisters schooling, for the worse.

How old is she? If she's a teenager, she should be mature enough for this to not bother her at all. It's common, and natural for teens to discuss this.

[FreeFall]

My little sister is generally disturbed by the teens around her at school. She can home complaining about these two kids that where talking about sex. It's affecting my little sisters schooling, for the worse.
If she's 10, why's she surrounded by teens? What sort of school is it? k-12? o.O

If she's a teenager, that's too bad for her. She should've learned about sex, puberty, and hormones. She should know that's happening and whether she likes it or not, people are doing it. That's fine though, she's got her own life, she doesn't need to worry about Johnny having sex with Susie. Tell her to just brush it off, she's walking her own path.

She's going to really hate when she's surrounded by 20-30 year olds. They're more discrete of their own sex life than most teens, but they too speak of it, and they're "adults".

[ArsenicCatNip]

I dunno about 10 year olds, but teens in general have always been like that, the difference is we have all sorts of Social Networking and a more comfortable mindset it's more out there..

[HalleyJ]

She is 15! I think I should talk too her. What should I tell her? That it is normal and get used to it?

[Castle of Glass]

only 14, never had sex, don't think i will have it till i turn 18, hopefully. i just play with my self a lot because about a year a go i had a problem and playing with myself made me forget it. but i am trying to stop doing it so often. but it isn't only 10-15, its pretty much from age 7 and up.

[Thepolice5291]

I Personally Think people have lowered their Sexual morals, Back when I was 15 Most girls my age still had their virginity, Now you ask a year 7 or 8 (12-14) and 35% in My school have lost it

[TigerBoy]

I Personally Think people have lowered their Sexual morals, Back when I was 15 Most girls my age still had their virginity, Now you ask a year 7 or 8 (12-14) and 35% in My school have lost it

Juliet was 13 to Romeo's 17. They had a 3 day relationship during which they both plan to have sex on their wedding night, but it all goes pear shaped and 6 people end up dead.

I don't think young people having poor judgement in relation to sex is anything new :)

[FreeFall]

She is 15! I think I should talk too her. What should I tell her? That it is normal and get used to it?
Yep. Pretty much, maybe not as you said it since it sort of sounds harsh but that's the gist of it.
She'll be 16, it'll get worse. Way worse. She'll turn 17, that's when most pregnancies occur in a row, an obvious sign someone had sex. 18, some more babies and sometimes engagements (5 kids in my school got engaged before graduation, personally that bother me more than their talking about sex).
If she's so bothered by sex talkings and tales of sexual relations that she cannot for some reason focus on her work and is failing, she may either need to switch to a religious school (if she's in one, whoa there kids) or home-school.

[Mortal Coil]

The fact is, something about the lifestyle of most people in industrialized countries is affecting our hormonal state, which means that kids are hitting puberty at younger ages. I know that I got my first bra when I was in 4th grade (and I wasn't overweight at all.) It isn't our fault that hormones dictate basically everything, including sex drive. Of course, the commercialization of sex also comes into it, as well as more social openness about it leading to "competition" - to see who can be the most sexually active - but I think the lifestyle changes are the main factor.

[PurpleReign]

maybe kids have always been this way and have just now started being more open with it.

Bingo!

Ten years ago, most places like this didn't exist. I'm sure teens have been horny since the dawn of time, the difference being, now they have places on the internet to go talk about it! Even better, it's on the internet, so most people aren't shy about talking about it.

[Human]

Sex is not everything, that doesn't have anything to do with masturbation. I either masturbate or rape someone in the streets, take your pick.

[TheBigUnit]

listen kids these days have nothing batter to do good for nothing, not only is our generation the most openly horny
it is also the fattest and spends the most time indoors

[Thepolice5291]

Maybe If these kids weren't inside having sex they could be doing exercise and loosing weight?, i have no sympathy for Most fat people they could be losing the weight but they chose to go to maccas instead, (There is the occasional person who cant help it)

[Fire16rescue]

You can argue this until the cows come home.
Personally I'm not a fan of promiscuity, but that's just me.
I've seen enough teen pregnancies and rapes thanks.

[TheBigUnit]

Maybe If these kids weren't inside having sex they could be doing exercise and loosing weight?, i have no sympathy for Most fat people they could be losing the weight but they chose to go to maccas instead, (There is the occasional person who cant help it)

Bingo!

[Tilico18]

I kinda hate my peers for being so sex-obsessed. There is this girl that for whatever reason creep on my friends that is 13, not virgin. I have no idea why I don't conform to this, but I'm glad I don't.

[Reina]

I agree with you. I am 15, and many of my peers have lost their virginities already. None of them are still with the boys that they had sex with.

I can't imagine doing anything but kissing until I'm 16, and I plan on waiting until I'm at least 17/18 to have sex.

[TigerBoy]

listen kids these days have nothing batter to do good for nothing, not only is our generation the most openly horny
it is also the fattest and spends the most time indoors

Well aside from the fact that I've already pointed out the fallacy of the whole "kids these days" line, if you do a bit of research ... sex uses calories.

10 minutes of vigorous sex is as much as doughnut's worth (240 calories).
Masturbation is about 150 cals for a session.
Kissing is about 120-135 cals an hour.

(source 1 (http://www.dailymuscle.com/2006/05/12/lets-talk-about-sex-and-calories/), source 2 (http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/many-calories-burn-having-sex-detailed-list-153900270.html))

Sex drive is linked to physical fitness, so the fat kids won't be the ones having as much of the sex.

You want kids to lose weight you should be encouraging them to have sex perhaps. Its pretty compatible to spending the same time doing cardio at a gym and doesn't cost a membership fee ;-)

[Apollo.]

Well aside from the fact that I've already pointed out the fallacy of the whole "kids these days" line, if you do a bit of research ... sex uses calories.

10 minutes of vigorous sex is as much as doughnut's worth (240 calories).
Masturbation is about 150 cals for a session.
Kissing is about 120-135 cals an hour.

(source 1 (http://www.dailymuscle.com/2006/05/12/lets-talk-about-sex-and-calories/), source 2 (http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/many-calories-burn-having-sex-detailed-list-153900270.html))

Sex drive is linked to physical fitness, so the fat kids won't be the ones having as much of the sex.

You want kids to lose weight you should be encouraging them to have sex perhaps. Its pretty compatible to spending the same time doing cardio at a gym and doesn't cost a membership fee ;-)

Hate to sound bad but maybe it's a vicious circle, get fat, don't get sex then get fatter with less chance of getting sex. It's a downward spiral! ;)

[TigerBoy]

Hate to sound bad but maybe it's a vicious circle, get fat, don't get sex then get fatter with less chance of getting sex. It's a downward spiral! ;)

Well I was being a bit mischievous rather than totally serious but the maths works, doesn't it? :cool:

I think there is a valid point about available activities for young people. The UK government cut funding to a lot of youth centres a while back which really didn't help us here. I'm not sure it would have a huge impact on their sexual activity but its been shown to help with things like petty crime and underage drinking.

[Apollo.]

Well I was being a bit mischievous rather than totally serious but the maths works, doesn't it? :cool:

I think there is a valid point about available activities for young people. The UK government cut funding to a lot of youth centres a while back which really didn't help us here. I'm not sure it would have a huge impact on their sexual activity but its been shown to help with things like petty crime and underage drinking.

I gathered it wasn't serious:P It does add up though not everyone likes cardio but everyone likes sex!:D I agree with the last bit there is a distinct lack of activities for young people, where I live I could not think of one thing to do other than aimlessly drive around talking to friends! Saying that there wasn't much before the funding was cut anyway!

[TheBigUnit]

Well aside from the fact that I've already pointed out the fallacy of the whole "kids these days" line, if you do a bit of research ... sex uses calories.

10 minutes of vigorous sex is as much as doughnut's worth (240 calories).
Masturbation is about 150 cals for a session.
Kissing is about 120-135 cals an hour.

(source 1 (http://www.dailymuscle.com/2006/05/12/lets-talk-about-sex-and-calories/), source 2 (http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/many-calories-burn-having-sex-detailed-list-153900270.html))

Sex drive is linked to physical fitness, so the fat kids won't be the ones having as much of the sex.

You want kids to lose weight you should be encouraging them to have sex perhaps. Its pretty compatible to spending the same time doing cardio at a gym and doesn't cost a membership fee ;-)

Yea true to a degree but fat peoples hormones flow more do to the fact that they are fat, yes u burn calories having sex but i dont think i usually kiss my gf for a hour straight

[TheMatrix]

Sex at low ages is nothing new. It started way back with the early humans, and went on until maybe the 1600s. At that time, people started to develop different ideas of "acceptable". We still have it today, to some extent, but more and more youngsters have sex at earlier ages because they see it everywhere. The internet, especially: porn, literature, all kinds of places.

All they are doing is doing what humans were intended to do: multiply, like all life forms. Humans were not meant(by nature) to live as long as they do now, but science and medicine have made it possible to live longer and longer. Therefore, when humans started making organised civilisations, standards and traditions were set and kept throughout the ages, frowning upon premature sex.

And what can we do about it? Nothing.

[squibles976]

I agree its disappointing and makes most relationships empty and fake

[wizard25]

i dont necessarily think having lots of sex is harmful for teens. it all depends on what feels ok for u n does not hurt other people. im very sexually active but it does not interfere with other vital areas of my life. sex is fun and im responsible.

Yea true to a degree but fat peoples hormones flow more do to the fact that they are fat, yes u burn calories having sex but i dont think i usually kiss my gf for a hour straight

hey shane. im wizard, pm mw if u wanna chat, ok?

Merged double posts. Next time please just edit the first post. ~Masked

[OldSchool]

It's just the ways things are in society.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

I have noticed that kids this age are becoming more and more 'horny' masturbating all day long, wanting sex 24/7 etc etc. I feel that it is wrong, because if you are this egs you shouldn't even be thinking about sex as 'sex' rather play with your self every now and then for fun.

And at this age I really don't think that you understand the purpose of a relation ship, it is not get together and go at 'it'. It should be about loving some one for who they are sharing common intrests together.

So if you are super horny all the time, then fine. But try to love your partner and not try and find a replacement as soon as you loose them for any reason.

Sex is not everything.

Its not. It is something that stimulates the human mind though. Maybe once a day or two days is fine. Constantly? No.

[philosophizing]

I have noticed that kids this age are becoming more and more 'horny' masturbating all day long, wanting sex 24/7 etc etc. I feel that it is wrong, because if you are this egs you shouldn't even be thinking about sex as 'sex' rather play with your self every now and then for fun.

And at this age I really don't think that you understand the purpose of a relation ship, it is not get together and go at 'it'. It should be about loving some one for who they are sharing common intrests together.

So if you are super horny all the time, then fine. But try to love your partner and not try and find a replacement as soon as you loose them for any reason.

Sex is not everything.

I think it's always been this way (I think it's just more openly discussed now thanks to the internet), and it's natural for teenagers to be sexually aroused a lot because of hormones. It's not something a person can control. It's like asking a guy to not have morning wood because you believe it to be indecent. It's not something one has control over.
And you're judging a lot of people based on a very limited source, unless you've made studies which I doubt.

And just because you don't like it doesn't mean nobody else should be allowed to like it. If you want to be in a committed relationship then that's fine, you can do that. But if Philip wants to be philanderous then that's fine too, I don't understand why you are so upset about it. Just because he's happy in another way than you doesn't mean he is wrong, in any way or shouldn't be allowed to follow his desires.
Live and let live. Nobody is being hurt because of this.

[Charles Finley]

I have noticed that kids this age are becoming more and more 'horny' masturbating all day long, wanting sex 24/7 etc etc. I feel that it is wrong, because if you are this egs you shouldn't even be thinking about sex as 'sex' rather play with your self every now and then for fun. Why not?

And at this age I really don't think that you understand the purpose of a relation ship, it is not get together and go at 'it'. It should be about loving some one for who they are sharing common intrests together.
There are sixty year-olds who don't understand the purpose of a relationship.

Sex is not everything.

Evolutionarily speaking, that just isn't true. :D But I see your point.

[Heavyrain4life]

I have noticed that kids this age are becoming more and more 'horny' masturbating all day long, wanting sex 24/7 etc etc. I feel that it is wrong, because if you are this egs you shouldn't even be thinking about sex as 'sex' rather play with your self every now and then for fun.

And at this age I really don't think that you understand the purpose of a relation ship, it is not get together and go at 'it'. It should be about loving some one for who they are sharing common intrests together.

So if you are super horny all the time, then fine. But try to love your partner and not try and find a replacement as soon as you loose them for any reason.

Sex is not everything.

With all due respect, I agree with certain things you say. The whole "And at this age I really don't think that you understand the purpose of a relation ship, it is not get together and go at 'it'. It should be about loving some one for who they are sharing common intrests together." is absolutely true. I certainly agree with that. The fact that you're labeling the ages between 10-15 is what gets me. I'm 15, and I have always seen a relationship as a beautiful thing. Do I get horny? I'm a teenager. You'd be hard pressed to find one who isn't. Do I want sex? Hell yes. Am I in a relationship JUST for the sex? Absolutely not. I love my girlfriend, and I'd probably be heartbroken for years if she left me, but life goes on. I have to at least TRY to find love again. But at least you arent all like "THOSE KIDS ARE HORNY LITTLE F*CKS AND WE NEED TO LOCK THEM ALL UP BEFORE THEY DO ANYTHING NASTY" You're at least being chill about it. But I've gone on too long. Good points, I got mine across, so dont hate. Later!

[TheSocialInspector]

There is no such thing as bad students, only bad teachers.

Look at the entertainment industry in the 1920's. Little to no vulgars, swears, dirty or sexual topics were touched upon. Many movies were either on Romances or Comedy. Songs were just classic music for people to dance to, to relax.

Note the changes when society expands and changes into a more aggresive but also, fun state. Look at the 1960s and from there. Words and dialogue in books and movies become more colourful. Music has evolved to rock and roll, dark metal and also takes a turn to more emotional levels.

Now to the 2000s. No more Mario Games. We have video games like Call of Duty, Assasins Creed, Battlefield that consists of vulgars in their stories. Almost every movie you see must at least have one curse word in them. Music is now more open and sexual relations are touched upon in almost every thing you see that is supposed to entertain you. Cartoons now consists of mentally retarded starfishes going along with happy-go-lucky sponges. Heck, there's even a cartoon about an overweight man who hates his neighbour.

It's society that has taken a more drastic turn. It may seem taboo now, since it's recent. But environment is something we might as well get used to. 20 to 40 years down the road, words like "shit" and "dickface" might even become more commonly used, even in the formal representations of society. We change.

"Pants" used to be considered a vulgar in the 1880s. What happened now? We're now using the used-to-be-cuss to adress someone's garment when ice cream falls on it and makes it look he peed.

Society changes and so does their children. You either put in enough effort to change something that may not be bad, or sit back and wait.

Sexual relations were inspired, not coming out of the blue. Nowadays, children find it less taboo to talk about because the elders are less sensitive. Which will, in turn, spark of a chain in which when the children grow to become "civilised" elders, what has used to be considered taboo will be a common topic in the near future.

[Human]

gotta say i don't know anyone my age or older who has sex more than once a month if that

[lhatchy1]

I don't like to think of myself like this, I have never had sex, or done anything 'sexual' with a partner before. And I masturbate, when I want, not because I can, and roughly 1-2 times a week.

I really enjoyed reading, good points made.

[aldabanana]

It's so crazy. It's all because of American culture

[DerBear]

I don't know if this has been said before in this thread or not because I only read the first post but...

Teens are going to do what they want, when they want. This includes sex. I mean do I think some people are mature enough? No...some people ain't mature enough to handle a sexual relationship. However people are going to have sex no matter what and they'll learn if they make a mistake.

[Danielle757]

I believe it doesn't matter what age just as long as you really LOVE the person first and have discussed it with them.

[Archimedes]

I think there's 2 reasons: mass-media\internet, where references to sex appear more and more often, so developing childs feel more freely to talk about sex, than older generation, because they see it so often so they think it's OK, and, of course, raging hormones.