Should i change who i am?

[dman1220]

Im a 15 year old guy. I have never had a grilfreind, ive never been kissed, ive never even held a girls hand. I have ADHD and im a musician, but i can be kind of annoying. I want a girlfreind more than anything but no girls ever really talk to me. How do i get girls to like me? And Im a guy that loves makeing jokes and being random and fun and playing music and acting and just being who i am, but would it be better if i stopped being that person? No one likes who i am so would it help for me to completly change?

[HalleyJ]

You really never know if a girl likes you. They might, but just haven't approached you.

[dman1220]

why would any girl like me?

[HalleyJ]

There is always a woman for her man. They just got to find em' first.

[dman1220]

do you think i should change who i am?

[HalleyJ]

do you think i should change who i am?

Absoloutly not, Is a said there is bound to be a girl that like you even if you don't know it. Changing yourself would make that girl loose interest and you could ruin your best chance at finding your real perfect match.

[dman1220]

one of my few freinds are telling me not to change, but to me it seems like a better option

[West Coast Sheriff]

Don't change who you are. That's what is unique about you. And... Don't worry, you'll find the right girl in time. :D

[dman1220]

i hope i do

[dman1220]

yah i love who i am, but i hate the fact that im the onlone that does

[HalleyJ]

Why do you need a girl anyway? You are 15, you should not be worring about it. Get a hobby or something. Have fun!

[dman1220]

i just feel so lonely sometimes.....well almost all the time and i thought maybe having a girlfreind could help

[Dawn01]

I know your feel. I'm 17, and I never had a boyfriend, although I've had some "affairs"... It's not easy to find a good person! I feel alone sometimes too, but I know now it's not my time to have a boyfriend ^^

Well, do you have some girl friends? Is there any girl you know that would like to kiss/have a relationship with? Hum... You can wait, or ask a friend of yours to introduce some girls to you! But really, you don't need to change, you should just try to be a better person, I mean, you should be very nice to girls!

Everything has it time, so, don't freak out if it takes a long time :)

[Dawn01]

Sorry, double post :/

[Apollo.]

Never change who you are, you might be happier for a little while but it won't last. I've tried telling myself I'm somebody else for the past year or two and it's finally caught up with me and I've now to try and pull myself back together and sort things out. Trust me be who you are and find a girl you really like it will be better than changing your personality to try and get someone.

[dontfiguremeout]

You shouldn't change at all! The right girl will love you, and that's all that matters! And you don't need to date a lot actually! A lot of people date a lot, because they just haven't found the one yet. Plus girls hate when you change for them, because they actually like the old you better! And also, you don't need to be dating right now, or it's not mandatory to have a girl right now! You can have one later, and it's okay!

[Dangoblin]

Just like everyone else said, Don't change. Dont worry about the fact that you sometimes find yourself annoying. I do too xD. Try talking to more girls, or get some of your guy friends to introduce you to girls. I know, easier said than done. But hey, in the end, you will find that special someone :) .

[kamono_kath]

DONT ever change yourself for someone else. It's never worth it and you will lose the real you.. :(:(:(:(

[ArsenicCatNip]

Changing yourself would be like wearing a mask. You can ACT like someone else, but you'll always be you. Regardless wouldn't it feel better to be yourself around people who act the way you do? Who knows, you might find a girlfriend with your interests :P but you won't if you try to change yourself. You'll just be acting for people.

[Fire16rescue]

If you change and find a girlfriend, do you think you'd be okay with her liking something about you that's fake?

Boet, you can't find someone to love you until you can love yourself, trust me I know where you're coming from, I was 17 before I had my first real relationship but you need to be able to be happy alone before you can be happy with somebody. A relationship needs a foundation to build on and it won't work if it's intended just to make you feel better.

Having said that, try paying less attention to girls you like, It drives them insane, if they don't have to make an effort for your attention they won't, but if they can see you're happy without them they'll be alot more interested. Trust me.

[LitBlackRose]

Hehe no you shouldn't change becuase if you do that's not who you really are . Let's say that if you were to change THEN get a girl then you wouldn't be happy . She be the girl that likes the "changed" you and not the REAL you . Plus you never know if they like you. Girls are shy when it comes to having a crush on a guy . So I'd say no don't change just be who you are and you will find a girl ^-^

[Mondevil]

its not about changing who you are. You are always you. It's about improving yourself. Life is about improving yourself. If you do something annoying, find what it is and work hard to change it. I can't stand it when people say "but this is who I am". No. You are who you want to be. If you want to be better with people and less annoying. Change it.

[Nihilus]

Never, ever, change who you are. You will evolve with time and eventually you will find a woman who appreciates you for who YOU are. Being oneself is how you make your self unique and interesting. I wish you the best of luck and remember: give it time and who knows what can happen :yes:

[Lotsofhumor.com]

First of all, DON'T DON'T DON'T change who you are. That will just make you feel bad about yourself. From what you have said, you have a very likeable personality.

You just have to start talking to a few girls and find one that you like and become more than friends with her. Yes, it would be hard for you to get started but you just have to do it.

[Jackerlus]

I wouldn't change who you are or what you do, instead maybe improve your fashion sense. Girls seem to like guys with good fashion sense as it compliments your looks and personality, kind of adding to it. Don't go all spendy spendy brands though, experiment and see what you like, maybe add to whatever style you have now. Hope this helps :) also the people up there have some good advice, a girl's gonna come along one day that's gonna just click with you. Talk to different people, see who you get along with and feel comfortable with.

[Jackerlus]

Double post, sorry

[SimSailorNick]

When i read the topic, i immediately thought, no.

No you should never change who you are but you can improve yourself. Enhance the positive qualities that you have and tone down those that seem to bother others.

And about having a girlfriend, you just have to be patient. There's always someone out there for each one of us. Love when you're ready and not just because you want to.

[Gazmo]

never change who you are, you sound like an amazing person so just be you. you'll find the right person some time, but your young so you dont need to worry. tbh relationships arent that great, sometimes they can be, but a lot of the time you end up hurt and worse than you felt to begin with. or maybe that just me, i dont know, but just dont change yeah?