Was I expecting too much?

[Scotfiddle]

Hi everyone,

A couple months ago, I went through a really rough time. I won't go into specifics, but I was considering suicide (I am now getting help by the way). Anyways, the first person I told about my suicidal thoughts was my girlfriend. After I told her this, she didn't do anything to try to help me. She never wanted to spend time with me, she never made an effort to spend time with me, called me very mean things, blew off plans with me to go be with other people, and in general was just a real b*tch. When I told her about my thoughts of suicide, she said this word for word, "I can't be bothered with that.".

Maybe I'm wrong, but shouldn't you try to help someone you love and be there for them if they were considering suicide?

What would you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend was thinking about suicide?

[Manjusri]

Your girlfriend sounds like quite the asshole, hopefully she's your ex-girlfriend by now.

If someone i had feelings for was having suicidal thoughts of course i'd help them. It's rude for your girlfriend to basically just shrug off your feelings.

[Noxail]

Good jesus dump her. That is totally unacceptible and repulsive. You deserve much bettert than a bitch.

[Noirtier]

Good god, what the fuck is wrong with her? You're NOT expecting too much, if you're dating someone and they're going through a rough time to the point where they're thinking about suicide, if you really love them you should help them and be there for them in that time. Even if you're not dating you should be there for them. What she did is, frankly, unacceptable and the worst thing she could have possibly done. It shows that she didn't really even give a fuck about you. If you're still with her, hun, drop her like a stone. If you're not still with her, you're much better off without her and you deserve someone who will actually care about you. The fact that she did that just makes me mad.

[wild1]

She was very mean to say that to you. Look to other people to help you out like your friends and family.

[OrKing]

I'm with everyone else. If someone you care about is going through a hard time you should do everything humanly possible to be there for them. What she did and said is freaking despicable, if you haven't already please do yourself a favor and dump her.

[Wayne92]

As everyone else said, she is a heartless bitch. You need to kick that ho to the curb, talk to someone you can trust and that cares about you whether it be in your personal life or on here. Once you gotten better, find someone who is worth your time because she does not. If you want to talk, Im here for you bud. :hug:

[Scotfiddle]

Thanks everyone. I always thought I was expecting too much and that's why she didn't help me! And I took your advice and we aren't together anymore. Thanks again guys!

[Wayne92]

Good for you! I'm sorry but that kind of behavior just pisses me off to no end. You deserve much better than that.

[Mob Boss]

Wow...she's rude. I'm glad to hear you're done with her. That didn't sound like a healthy relationship, especially if she didn't care about you or your feelings. I'm glad you're getting help though, and I hope things go smoothly. :hug:

[FreeFall]

If my boyfriend were suicidal, I wouldn't flat out tell him that I can be bothered with him. What fucking sort of girlfriend does that? I'd stand by him and be his rock, like a girlfriend's supposed to be, but if I really felt I couldn't, then I'd at least say I can't be his hindrance in such a rough time and set him free to find someone better suited to be by his side.

So glad you're through with her, good for you!

[Dawn01]

You did the right thing!! Even if just acquaintance of mine was thinking about suicide, I would care, really, because I feel a lot of empathy for people! Your ex girlfriend was an apathetic asshole and you should never have dated her! I hope that you find someone better very soon, and I think you should see a psychiatrist to help you to get through with your suicidal thoughts :hug: