fashionably.late
October 5th, 2012, 09:16 PM
Hey, guys...
I just want to start off by saying that although I have never cut myself, I am in no way judging those who do. I may not be able to understand why you cut, but I can still accept that cutting is your way of dealing with life's struggles, and sympathize with you. Life is rough, and we all have our own ways of dealing with it. If anyone ever wants to talk, I'm here.
Now, to the point. I am pretty quiet person, and tend to keep to myself around people I don't really know. I also am cold all of the time (thyroid problems), and wear long sleeve shirts or hoodies the majority of the time in school. A few years ago, I started talking to a new girl at my school, and we were starting to become friends. She was friends with many of my other friends, as well. One day at lunch, the new girl and a few of my friends asked me to walk to the bathroom with them. When we got there, they basically cornered me and starting assuring me that they cared about me, and what to help with my problem. Thoroughly confused, I asked them what they were talking about. They asked me to roll up me sleeves, and let them see the inside of my wrist. Not realizing what was going on, I of course asked them why they wanted me to do this, and they took my hesitance as evidence of my cutting problem. One of them grabbed my hand, and another pushed my sleeve up (later, they admitted this was probably not the best way of going about this, but we were young and they thought they were helping). I didn't resist, because I was confused, and decided that if they really wanted to see my arm, well, then they could go right ahead. Well, weren't they surprised when my arm was free of cuts and scars. They finally explained their wrong assumption and I thanked them for being caring friends, and assured them that I did not cut.
So, now I'm curious. Has anyone else ever had an experience ike this? My friends assumed I cut because I was quiet all of the time and never wore short sleeves. I have also seen people accused of self harm because of the way they dress, wear their hair, the makeup they wear, and the things they are interested in. What other stereotypes/misconceptions do you guys believe people have about self-harm?
I just want to start off by saying that although I have never cut myself, I am in no way judging those who do. I may not be able to understand why you cut, but I can still accept that cutting is your way of dealing with life's struggles, and sympathize with you. Life is rough, and we all have our own ways of dealing with it. If anyone ever wants to talk, I'm here.
Now, to the point. I am pretty quiet person, and tend to keep to myself around people I don't really know. I also am cold all of the time (thyroid problems), and wear long sleeve shirts or hoodies the majority of the time in school. A few years ago, I started talking to a new girl at my school, and we were starting to become friends. She was friends with many of my other friends, as well. One day at lunch, the new girl and a few of my friends asked me to walk to the bathroom with them. When we got there, they basically cornered me and starting assuring me that they cared about me, and what to help with my problem. Thoroughly confused, I asked them what they were talking about. They asked me to roll up me sleeves, and let them see the inside of my wrist. Not realizing what was going on, I of course asked them why they wanted me to do this, and they took my hesitance as evidence of my cutting problem. One of them grabbed my hand, and another pushed my sleeve up (later, they admitted this was probably not the best way of going about this, but we were young and they thought they were helping). I didn't resist, because I was confused, and decided that if they really wanted to see my arm, well, then they could go right ahead. Well, weren't they surprised when my arm was free of cuts and scars. They finally explained their wrong assumption and I thanked them for being caring friends, and assured them that I did not cut.
So, now I'm curious. Has anyone else ever had an experience ike this? My friends assumed I cut because I was quiet all of the time and never wore short sleeves. I have also seen people accused of self harm because of the way they dress, wear their hair, the makeup they wear, and the things they are interested in. What other stereotypes/misconceptions do you guys believe people have about self-harm?