nervus about my sexuality

[Vteenboy 1]

I am gay.
I mean i must be because(correct me if I am wrong) guys give me boners and girls never do, I get horny in the changing rooms because of the guys inntheir underwear around about me and when I masturbate I am thinking about guys.

Any way homophobia is very strong where I live. I know this as a fact because of the way everyone talks about gays and how the last guy at my school who came out to being gay was(literally) hospitalized(thank god scotland has free and one of the best healthcare systems in the world) and I am terrified to come out. Every one calls me gay but I know they are using that as an insult but even my best friends are homophobes. I tried telling my mum and dad this but they are as useful as a piece of paper is protecting you against a nuklear blast.

I just dont know what to do

P.S. i turned 15 on the 2nd of october

[The Mockingjay]

First, how old are you? If you're very young I would definitely not advise you to come out yet as your hormones are still going crazy inside your head and you need to wait for them to settle to decide your sexuality. Gay people should have a romantic connection to men too.

Also, if you're in an area where you will be severely hurt for coming out completely people generally agree that you shouldn't. Really, if it's going to affect your health and safety, leave it until you can move to somewhere more tolerant. Being yourself is good but your well being is more important.

Good luck and I'm always here if you need help! :)

[MartyG]

Yes; your sexuality is a private matter. I advise you to keep it that way; at least for now. I know its hard and it shouldn't need to be that way...but in some areas being openly gay is just not fun at all.

Start planning your life in the sense of where you can ultimately live. It's way too important to just lock your feelings away and try to live your life in an area that despises you that way.

((HUGS)) MartyG

[dontfiguremeout]

Okay first off, your going through puberty to where sexually you will "like" guys sexually for a while! You need to have both sexual and emotion likeness to a guy, for you to become fully gay! I mean this is mainly a phase, and guys find out whether they are or not during this phase. And honestly we can't help you as much as you probably want us too, because you didn't get enough info. Yes we know you sexually like guys, but do you like girls emotionally? how old your you (this can help a lot to see how far in puberty you are in)? Do you see yourself with a girl in the future? Giving us this info, will help us out more to help you.

[Drew5]

just don't come out and i thought the scots liked gays.

[Magnus Bane]

the mockingjay is right what you need to do is keep it quiet. Then when you move to a more excepting place come out to the bestest friend you have made if ur parents wont listen to you.:cool: