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Dzemo
October 5th, 2012, 08:05 AM
So this is the situation.There's a problem in my home, and it's not directly connected to me, but i get really stressed about these situations and have my crises. So while my grandma has been cleaning mine and my sisters room, and \i guess she went through my sister's stuff in her drawers and found a box with some really old letters my sister had when she had broken up with her boyfriend (btw, she kept that a secret from everyone at home). So I guess she read them all, and then hid them somewhere, and my mum saw her reading something. Then one day my grandma told her she needs to give her something so that she reads it, and then my mum told my sister about this. Then my sis saw she was missing her box, and she told me about it. She searched for the box and finally found it, took the letters and threw the box.My grandma hadn't mentioned the letters to my parents. Everything was fine until at least a half hour ago. My grandma called my sister for lunch, and she was on the PC. And then my grandma started yelling at her, ''you're always on the computer, you don't help arround at home at all, bla bla'' and then they were fighting, and my grandma stormed off in the living room and then i heard her saying '' i'll see what you'll do when i give the letters to your dad''. my sister never actually heard that, but i did. Now I know what might happen, but my only problem is how I will deal with it. I can't do anything to solve the problem. I'm just really stressed now by thinking about it, all i need to know is how could I try to keep myself calm and not let the stress get to me in such a bad way. Everytime there's a fight going on at home, even though they don't involve me most of the time, i start worrying, getting stressed and nervous, and I just need a way to relax myself and not let everything get to me, so please if you have any advice i'd appreciate your help.

Danny.Robertson
October 5th, 2012, 04:10 PM
Have you tried, this may sound silly but it works, meditation. Just sit on the floor quietly and breath in and out for a while until you feel a bit better with yourself. I do this daily. It does actually work.

laylaseidel
November 2nd, 2012, 08:20 AM
Have you tried, this may sound silly but it works, meditation. Just sit on the floor quietly and breath in and out for a while until you feel a bit better with yourself. I do this daily. It does actually work.


I have to agree with you on this. Meditation helped me relax my mind and feel better about myself. You can try this Isochronic Tones From Itunes (http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/isochronic-tones/id496874615) to help you feel more peaceful while doing something.

LetsKillTonight
November 2nd, 2012, 08:38 AM
Besides the fact that your family didn't know about your sisters boyfriend, is there anything in the letters that would make her react that way? I don't really see why she would essentially freak out so much about it...

If your getting really stressed about it you might try doing something that you really like to do to get your mind off of it. (it really isn't your problem anyway, as evil as that sounds...) If you like art maybe work on a drawing or something? If you enjoy a certain tv show watch a few episodes... (you get the point.) :)