My God.... I Just Can't Do It!!

[Arther443]

Every day, I tell myself "Okay, you're going to ask out ***** today." But I just can't do it! I don't have enough confidence. I know, I know.... "The worst she can do is say 'No.'." We walk together up to this one class we have together often and she's in my circle of friends. I feel like the only way I could get the courage to do it is if I were under the effects of the cannabis plant. ***NOT PROMOTING THIS, MY CHOICE DOESN'T HAVE TO BE YOURS*** (First time asking any girl out)

[Castle of Glass]

here is a good tip. practice in front of a mirror or with a very good close female friend. extremely good way to become confident

[Dimitri]

Honestly, ask her this..."Wanna get a soda..." OR, depending how old you are..."Hey, wanna get a coffee" I have been with the same person for almost 9 months now...and that is how we started...

Yep, that is him in my pic...

[Arther443]

I'm 13, forgot to mention.

[Dimitri]

Well, to be quit honest I do not see anything being actually benificial to having a relationship begin so young...I just do not think it is needed.

You are at the age when the only thing you should be worrying about is having fun as a kid , making sure you are in the house before dark and making sure you piss mom and dad off AT-LEAST once a day XD <--- that was me at that age.

If it has been pre-ordained by the stars then she will be there when you do get the nerve to do it but until then bud, don't.

Having a girlfriend at that age is nothing but a pain in the neck that your parents have to pay for everything for.

Let me know if there is anything I can do for yah. Have a wonderful day.

[The Mockingjay]

Well, to be quit honest I do not see anything being actually benificial to having a relationship begin so young...I just do not think it is needed.

You are at the age when the only thing you should be worrying about is having fun as a kid , making sure you are in the house before dark and making sure you piss mom and dad off AT-LEAST once a day XD <--- that was me at that age.

If it has been pre-ordained by the stars then she will be there when you do get the nerve to do it but until then bud, don't.

Having a girlfriend at that age is nothing but a pain in the neck that your parents have to pay for everything for.

Let me know if there is anything I can do for yah. Have a wonderful day.

Exactly this. :yes:

[dontfiguremeout]

yeah, I agree you are pretty young. Enjoy your life! But if you really wanna have a gf then, don't think about it! Just do it! More you think about it, the more you get nervous! But less you think about it, the less nervous you are! That simple! So when your talking to her, just say it, don't let your thoughts get to you!

[Arther443]

Not much of my life is very enjoyable...
My parents wouldn't pay for me,
I can't not think about what I'm saying,
Maybe around here, having a girlfriend is different than where you live.

[Dimitri]

Not much of my life is very enjoyable...
My parents wouldn't pay for me,
I can't not think about what I'm saying,
Maybe around here, having a girlfriend is different than where you live.

Bud, no matter where you are this part will remain the same...you are 13, you have time.

[Sir Suomi]

Just ask her if she wants to go to the movies or something. You don't have to make it sound like a date, and if she says yes, see where things go from there :D

[FreeFall]

Not much of my life is very enjoyable...
My parents wouldn't pay for me,
I can't not think about what I'm saying,
Maybe around here, having a girlfriend is different than where you live.
Your age is showing. And what do you mean your parents won't pay for you?

A girlfriend is not a band-aid.
She will not magically make everything go away, she will not automatically make your life happy sunshine and rainbows where you're happy 24/7. You may end up wishing you'd waited to start dating.

Relationships are work.
You've got to communicate, listen to her, please her, keep her happy, keep yourself happy, keep the chemistry going, when you fight you've got to learn to work through it. Think of it as a plant, you've got to both take care of yourself and emotional/mental state, while keeping in mind your girlfriend's state. You cannot ignore the plant or it will wilt and die. You've got to feed it, nurture it and make sure it's getting its adequate sunshine, even when there are times you don't feel like watering the plant. There's so much more to it than kissing and cuddles. There are days where I'm drained and my boyfriend feels like a chore, it sucks to feel it but I know it's because I'm stressed and tired, so I can overcome it and avoid letting myself be the awful girlfriend. You're inserting another person into your daily life.

Mostly before you date someone, you've got to have yourself in a good place. You don't sound like you're in a good place. So just wait awhile more.

[Arther443]

"Your age is showing. And what do you mean your parents won't pay for you?"

I mean they won't pay for me.

"A girlfriend is not a band-aid.
She will not magically make everything go away, she will not automatically make your life happy sunshine and rainbows where you're happy 24/7."

I know

"You may end up wishing you'd waited to start dating."

Doubt it

"Relationships are work.
You've got to communicate, listen to her, please her, keep her happy, keep yourself happy, keep the chemistry going, when you fight you've got to learn to work through it. Think of it as a plant, you've got to both take care of yourself and emotional/mental state, while keeping in mind your girlfriend's state. You cannot ignore the plant or it will wilt and die. You've got to feed it, nurture it and make sure it's getting its adequate sunshine, even when there are times you don't feel like watering the plant. There's so much more to it than kissing and cuddles. There are days where I'm drained and my boyfriend feels like a chore, it sucks to feel it but I know it's because I'm stressed and tired, so I can overcome it and avoid letting myself be the awful girlfriend. You're inserting another person into your daily life."

I already do most of this stuff with her.

"Mostly before you date someone, you've got to have yourself in a good place. You don't sound like you're in a good place. So just wait awhile more."

I'm actually in one of the best places of my life

[FreeFall]

No you don't. You do that stuff as friends, as crushes.

Boyfriend and girlfriend is completely different territory. Totally on its own. Once you'll get into that territory, you'll see.

Your parents don't have to pay for things you don't "need", beyond your necessities.

You sounded as though you hated your life since most of it wasn't "enjoyable" so I assumed you weren't a happy fellow. Sorry to assume.

[Arther443]

We both REALLY like eachother

K

No, they won't pay for anything

It's all good (:

Aaaaaannnnnddddd I'm doing it!!

Merged. -StoppingTime

[Sir Suomi]

Go get her kid! :D