How to Let Someone Know You Like Them? (Gay)

[TaylrJ]

I am 15 year old guy and I like my friend. He is 14 and I also think he may be gay. I even posted a question: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=153137 to see what other people thought of him. (You can answer it if you'd like.) But we seem to be really close and we talk to each other constantly, same goes for texting. We are always flirting with each other and laughing together. I just like him so much. But the thing is, I want him to know that. Just without telling him. I wanna let him know that I care about him more than anyone else. The reason I don't wanna tell him is that I don't want to risk anything. We are so close, if I told him, I am afraid it'll end. I really don't want a friendship like the one we have to end. So what are some ways? Talking to him always? Looking at him? Just name anything. I've tried doing some of this stuff before. I just always play it off as a joke though. Since that's all we ever do is just goof off when we are together. I think he has even tried to show me that he likes me. I have it posted in the other question if you wanna read. But what are your ideas? Thanks..

[TigerBoy]

In your other thread I suggested you make an effort to respond to any advances he makes (putting his arm around you etc) and that way it is at his pace, and you make it clear his affection is welcome. He's already set the precedent that showing affection like that is ok, so I think it should be ok for you to initiate that at times yourself.

I'd carry on with that, and you really have to stop sending mixed signals by passing stuff off as a joke : you'll just be confusing him and making him less likely to make his move.

Talking is important, so you will need to find some courage to say something even if its "I really like you". I know you are finding that one difficult as you said in your other thread, but remember the only pressure is coming from within you.

[kenoloor]

If he's a true friend, he'll get over any awkwardness that could result from you saying you like him. So, in accordance with that assumption, try saying this...

"Hey, I like you."

[TaylrJ]

In your other thread I suggested you make an effort to respond to any advances he makes (putting his arm around you etc) and that way it is at his pace, and you make it clear his affection is welcome. He's already set the precedent that showing affection like that is ok, so I think it should be ok for you to initiate that at times yourself.

I'd carry on with that, and you really have to stop sending mixed signals by passing stuff off as a joke : you'll just be confusing him and making him less likely to make his move.

Talking is important, so you will need to find some courage to say something even if its "I really like you". I know you are finding that one difficult as you said in your other thread, but remember the only pressure is coming from within you.

Thanks! These past few days have been the best with him. He has made it so obvious. And I have too. We live nearly two miles away from each other and he wanted me to walk ALL the way there after school today! I couldn't because I had to do something. Wish I would have been able too though. He gets sad if I say I am not going to go to an event like a football game. And before we both go, he always wants to know if I am. If I don't go, he doesn't either. I also do the same thing about going places with him. He wanted to ditch some event in the school gym and make it just me and him alone in a different class. But then he didn't want to because he was afraid of getting caught. Instead, we just sat through it and listened to music together. Even though I am not that good as he is of showing that I like him, I think he gets it anyways.

He also shows WAYY more signs of being gay. I told him jokingly "For the past like, 2 hours, you've had this white flakey thing on your face. I was just seeing how long it would take you to notice." He tried to be funny saying "Awwww man. I told him to clean it off last night!" I know, it's sorta stupid. But I see what he was tryin to say, lol. But it is just stuff like this all the time. He is starting to put his foot next to mine, lean against me, and he even makes up reasons to touch my hand. Like if we are listening to music together on my phone. He puts his hand under mine, and holds the phone with me trying to choose a song. Another thing we do is text constantly. Nearly every day. Just joking around and he sometimes puts it on instagram, saying how funny I am. He wants to have a bunch of stuff that's mine too. I don't really know why.. We have ended up trading flip-flops, phone cases, and wirstbands. Just for the heck of it. And I told him I didn't want to trade back cause they were his. Haha, he just shook his head at me and agreed.

But he doesn't do really most of the flirting either. I do all of this stuff back to him and he is ok with it. Tomorrow, I am going to try to go to his house too. Haha, Even if it means walking. And I do realize this can't go on forever. I am going to have to eventually tell him that I am bi, and I like him. But I am not really afraid of it as I use to be. I Have a feeling he'll be ok with it, and hopefully show the same feelings back. Lol, Surprised that someone is actually following these threads and giving me advice. Didn't think anyone would even care. But thanks for helping and please keep doing it! Really need it!

[Matt_2012]

awww, your in you lucky dog! haha just tell him sounds like he'll open up even more :)

[disassociation2016]

Sounds like you're on the right track bro. Just don't be to creepy about it and tbh even if he isn't gay you're to good of friends for something this simple to mess it up.