Worried...

[Erickdoe]

I'm worried that i might grow to be attracted to young boys. I'm currently 16. i do not have feelings towards young boys but wonder about certain aspects such as boys going through puberty. I'm worried that this is unhealthy and not right. any advice?

[StoppingTime]

:arrow: Teen Sexuality, this fits better here.

Most likely, this is just a phase that you are experiencing due to the fact that you are still going through puberty. I wouldn't stress about it too much.

[Noirtier]

Like Steven said, you're still going through puberty--you're actually smack dab in the middle of it. Having those thoughts and curiosities is nothing out of the ordinary, and from what you described it doesn't seem to be anything serious at all. I highly doubt you will obtain an attraction to young boys as you get older. I wouldn't get worked up about it, it'll pass fairly soon.

[dawsonj]

I agree with what the others said. I am not comfortable with the negative tone with the topic though.
I think most people have some sort of weird sexual preference that goes against social norms. Some people like slightly taboo things like sniffing underwear or watching somebody pee. Others like scat and torture. I think having a preference for younger boys/girls falls into that.

The issue lies with the law and the fact it isn't usually good mentally or sometimes physically(for girls) for "young" girls and boys to be used or taken advantage of sexually.

As long as you obey the law and never HURT anybody, I think it could just be your kink that you have to deal with in life. As long as you control yourself I think it's fine.

[Skyhawk]

It's most likely your hormones screwing with you. If anything, don't act on your thoughts. ;)

[TigerBoy]

Its ok to look at younger guys and think "he's beautiful". If it wasn't we wouldn't have so many amazing sculptures or paintings of boys through history. It doesn't seem like a big jump between finding someone beautiful and considering them attractive / sexually arousing, and when I was a gay 12/13 year old I know I was turned on by young guys so it happens.

What is wrong is engaging in sexual activity with someone who is not ready for it mentally or physically as you could cause them harm.

You'll need to check for where you live, but in the UK the law is clear that it considers that age limit is 13 (below which any sexual activity becomes rape and/or child abuse). This is different to the age for giving consent (i.e where you can't get into any trouble with the law for having sex) is where both of you are over 16.

[MartyG]

Dawsonj and Tigerboy....very sound advice. There are feelings and there are actions. We all have feelings; choosing to act on them is another matter.

If your feelings evolve to where you are aroused by young boys that does not make you a child molester; just as a person who has feelings for adult women is not therefore a rapist.

Be careful who you discuss your feelings with. In some localities it is required by law that a psychologist or school counselor report to the authorities when they even suspect that someone is apt to act out on children.

Marty

[Magnus Bane]

I agree with Dawsonj, tiger boy, and marty g It happens so move on with life and let guide you through out.