I don't know how to phrase it...

[Noxail]

How would you tell your extremely relgious, anti-gay family you're Bisexual and athiest? I can't just say "hey grandma I'm bi!" or tell my dad I like girls. I'm terribly afraid they wouldn't understand, as I'm currently in a Hetrosexual relationship with the man of my dreams, but I'm still Bisexual. :confused: damn it sexuality. ~holli

[Noirtier]

Hun, there are some things that might be best to wait to tell people. Telling your friends is one thing. Your family... is another. Right now, you're dependent on them to survive. For food, shelter, clothing, etc. I've decided not to tell my family until I move out. Because at that point in time what they think of me won't affect me anymore. And when I do that, it's just coming out. For you, you seem to be closer to your family. I would still wait until you move out, though, to tell them, because it's a lot for them to handle. And they could get upset with you for a while. If you don't live with them anymore, they can't do anything to punish you to try and "make you straight or religious" or anything. I know it's hard, but sometimes it's for the best to wait to do it hun... If you ever need to talk, just shoot me a PM..

[TigerBoy]

Agree strongly with Noirtier - some very religious families end up putting kids through some horrible times thinking they are doing the 'right thing', including various types of "therapy" (some quite horrific and most of which are considered unethical) and intensive religious indoctrination. This is why California have just banned 'gay cure' therapies and such, because there are still enough homophobes in religion to drive such things even when the medical profession states such things have no basis in science and are frequently harmful.

For the sake of just keeping quiet I'd go through the motions until you are a legal adult. Remember your parents might be loving but their wider religious contacts might persuade them to do something unpleasant 'for your own good'.

I'm assuming NC is North Carolina - so I'm assuming from what I've read that 'extremely religious' is at the more fanatical and narrow minded (http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2012/05/22/video-north-carolina-pastor-calls-for-the-death-of-gay-and-lesbian-people/) end of the spectrum. .

[Harley Quinn]

While yes it will be hard, to be honest it just takes time. I come from an extremely religious Irish family, so me telling them I was gay, and didn't believe in God, shocked them. However, in time they became okay with it. Any way you do it, whether it's by a letter or face to face, you just have to come out with it and you need to expect that you aren't going to get the greatest reaction you have ever wanted, but that doesn't mean you should be disappointed. It's easy to do that, but in the end it's not worth it. At the moment, you're in a relationship with a guy, and if they know that they'll probably be more accepting towards you being bisexual. You know though, you don't actually have to tell them if you don't want to.

[The Mockingjay]

Hun, there are some things that might be best to wait to tell people. Telling your friends is one thing. Your family... is another. Right now, you're dependent on them to survive. For food, shelter, clothing, etc. I've decided not to tell my family until I move out. Because at that point in time what they think of me won't affect me anymore. And when I do that, it's just coming out. For you, you seem to be closer to your family. I would still wait until you move out, though, to tell them, because it's a lot for them to handle. And they could get upset with you for a while. If you don't live with them anymore, they can't do anything to punish you to try and "make you straight or religious" or anything. I know it's hard, but sometimes it's for the best to wait to do it hun... If you ever need to talk, just shoot me a PM..

This. Wait until you've moved out to tell them so that their reaction doesn't force you to be homeless, etc.

[StoneColdNicky]

Like others have said, there's no need to rush it. But in the meantime, you might try things to test the waters, like maybe contributing to discussions if the topic of homosexuality comes up or is in a headline or something. At least let them know that you don't feel as strongly against it as they might, even though for the time being you are only speaking generally. Maybe it will soften the blow a bit for when the time is right too.

[Straight]

Maybe, If you leave it until you move out.. they may have time to realize that the world has changed (For the better) and they would be more willing to accept you.

[danny7]

yea, I dont think I can either cuz my parents believe in god and i dont... im not sure what they think about gays