What's wrong with me

[denicha97]

There is a boy that i'm starting to like a little and well he used to like me about a year ago so there is a possibility of having something with him. BUT one of my friends likes him too, not too much but she does, i told her once that i like him but i don't know how things could change between us if something does happen with him. anyway, he is such a gentleman, nice, funny, i can speak with him all day long, etc etc but he is not too mmm handsome. I've never been someone that judges by looks but it still feels weird because of what some people might say of think, or how they would bother me. and also, i am confused because last year, i REALLY REALLY like another boy and i don't even speak to him anymore and well i think i'm totally over him but i can't help thinking about him sometimes, so i am VERY confused :S

Please help me or tell me how terrible i am for worrying about appearance or just advise me or support me /:

Thanks :P

[Lost in the Echo]

Well even if he isn't "handsome" you should probably ask him out, relationships are built on emotional connections between 2 partners, not physical. So yeah, if you really like him and he likes you, then who gives a shit what others think? You seem to like him a lot, so I don't see a reason why you 2 can't be together.

As for the other guy you keep thinking about, just try to block him out of your mind, if you liked him at one time, then it's normal to have feelings and thoughts for him sometimes. Like I said though, block him out of your mind if you are serious about wanting to date this other guy.

[TigerBoy]

I strongly believe emotional attraction is more important than looks in a loving relationship, however that doesn't mean that looks aren't important. If you don't like the way someone looks, its less likely that you're going to enjoy sex with them. It doesn't make you shallow, it just means you don't fancy them. And if you don't fancy them, why not just have them as a friend rather than a boyfriend?

Your peers will probably reinforce this whole thing about being shallow if you judge by looks because its all very moral and grown-up sounding, but that doesn't change human nature : you fancy what you fancy, and everyone's tastes are different.

Whatever your feelings are, don't worry about what others might think or say : it only matters whether you feel this boy would make a good boyfriend for you.