The Locker Rooms

[Riku16]

Well, basically me and a friend (not going to mention a name, for obvious reasons) went on a Saturday to play Badminton at the leisure center (basically a gym for you guys outside the U.K). After playing badminton we went to get changed out of our sweaty clothes and we both showered in separate cubicles. I know, shower cubicles, awesome right? Anyway, Our cubicles were next to each other though so we could talk.

When we got out I was naked (I'm pretty open about my body) and he had a towel rapped around his parts. I think theirs a rule about telling stories on VTF so I'll just cut to the point. When I was dressed I waited for him and he told me to close my eyes. When I did he kissed me.

I had always thought that he was straight and he has a girlfriend, what can I do? He hasn't replied to any communication methods I have tried (Facebook, text, Twitter, etc...) and any time I see him in school he rushes off down a corridor and I don't see him for the rest of the day.

So my point is: It's obvious he's obviously embarrassed about this and doesn't want to talk. Should I just leave the situation be or should I try something else? :confused:

[DerBear]

To be honest I would attempt to talk to him but if he doesn't want to talk then just give him some space he is obviously confused and upset about the entire situation and perhaps even his own sexuality.

I would attempt to talk to him but if he doesn't want to talk then leave it for awhile then see if you can salvage your friendship.

You could always attempt to talk about something else with him and then put the entire situation behind both of you as he might just never want to talk about it ever again.

Its entirely up to you on what you want to do, but just try not to push him to talk about it and except that if he doesn't want to talk about it and give him space.

Just try working on keeping your friendship and not so much about that one incident as surely the friendship is more important than one small thing that happened.

[Danny_boi 16]

Well it seems he wants to forget it, and he's embarrassed. But he must be a little curious then. You should talk to him again when you play badminton. That way its ... closing the ties in a poetic way.

[The Mockingjay]

Confront him about it, face to face, would be my advice. Make it clear that you are fine with him being confused and embarrassed etc, but you need to know what's going to happen and how he is because you're his friend. If he wants to forget it and move on, do it. If he actually likes you? Well, that's for you to decide. Either way, try to help him, he sounds confused!

[dontfiguremeout]

Hmm, make an attempt message, persuading him to actually talk to you! What I mean by that is, tell him no need to be afraid to talk to me about this stuff, because I just want to know, and also tell him you won't tell anyone at the school what happened. I think by sending him a message about that, showing your open to talk about this, and not to rant on him what he did, will help him feel like he can trust you and tell you why he did it. And you just got to remember that hormones are raging during this time, so he was probably experimenting what it would be like to kiss another guy, or even see if he gets turned on by kissing a guy, just things to see what his sexuality really is.

[TigerBoy]

I don't know if he knows if you are gay : I'd let him know how you felt about it .. i.e whether you'd be ok if he wanted to do that again.

He is probably worried he's pissed you off or that you are going to tell people, especially if he doesn't know that you are gay. You need to clear that up for him asap.

He is probably embarrassed and confused : again you need to make him know that its all cool.

Just be a good friend and hang out and stuff, and if he knows you weren't offended or grossed out, he might be open to more happening.