Going to ask him...

[confusedboy]

Setting: End of a college class with only 2 classes left.

Situation: Never have talked to him before. HUGE CRUSH.

So there's a guy in one of my classes who I think might be gay but I'm not sure. He tends to only talk to the girls he sits with vs. joining a group of guys (All the other guys work with guys, including me lol). He also dresses very nice (Not that these are solid hints as to being gay...) So I've decided I want to ask him if he is or isn't on the second to last class (this way I don't have to feel uncomfortable for too long if he isn't). I asked a straight male friend how I should ask and he said to just ask him and say I don't mean to offend you. Usually I wouldn't be so straight forward in asking but I feel confident for some reason.

Here's my mental script:
Hey ****, can I talk to you for a second? My name's ******. I don't mean to offend you in any way but I'm gay and I was wondering if you were?

He seems very chill and smooth, not the type that would want to fight if he took it wrong. I just see it going smooth if he says yes or no.

What's everyone's advise? Suggestions? Stories of success? Other ideas? I thought I could write some kind of note and give it to him. Idk...

Thank you guys!!

[Gandalf]

Just in case you havent done anything yet... How about looking him up on facebook and just casually add him as a friend and get to know him.
But yes if you feel comfortable with the possibility he is straight or wouldn't mind spreading gossip you have nothing to lose by being 'straight' up with him (sorry about the pun) and asking him.

Just remember there could be consequences good or bad for what ever you choose.

Hope I've helped. :)

[jegoss02]

I'd say become friends with him. Prolly the best thing to do is get close to him. And ask later on. Or. If you feel it would be better, ask him while he isn't your friend so the it wouldn't have to possibility of making it even more awkward. There might even be a possibility if you befriend him and you tell him your gay then he might just tell you a little secret of his own. :)

[confusedboy]

Thank you guys for your opinions and input.

There are only two classes left so it would be hard now to befriend him. I'll try to find him on facebook but that might be hard. I think I'll just ask him Tuesday after class as originally planned. It's a rather large campus so I doubt I'll ever see him. Plus, it takes balls to confront someone... maybe he'll recognize that later on if not in the moment.

[HunterSteele]

Just ask him. It sounds like you have nothing to lose.

[confusedboy]

Just ask him. It sounds like you have nothing to lose.

Thanks man. You're right.

Wow... tomorrow is Tuesday already.... I'll let you all know how it goes.

[confusedboy]

Lmao, he wasn't even there yesterday. I'll have to wait for the last class I guess.

[Skyhawk]

The suspense is killing you, I bet. ;)

[Magnus Bane]

good luck it sounds like you have a very huge crush if you are going to ask him str8 up like that

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Good luck trying.

[TurboDieselBandit]

Darn, I guess the OP forgot about this thread....