Do You Think This Guy I Like is Gay?

[TaylrJ]

I am a guy, 15, and bisexual. There is this guy who goes to my school, he is 14 and I also like him. It's been since the first day of school. We just sat beside each other and started talking. I've known him longer than that though, about two years. Before, it was just always awkward between us. But since the first day, we've been real good friends. In class, he always wants me to sit beside him. We save seats for each other and stuff like that. He always talks to me now, and same thing with texting me. He also thinks I am hilarious, which is a pretty big reason why he likes hanging out with me.

He seems sorta gay too. At least I think he is. The stuff he does makes it sorta obvious. Like the way he acts. A few examples are: I've noticed he has a limp wrist. Him standing there, he'll have his arm back with his wrist bent next to his side. After gym, he always gets this girl's hairbrush and fixes his hair with it. I was even with him getting it out of her purse. He said he wished it would be OK for guys to carry purses, lol. I agreed with him and told him I was going to think of him differently after telling me that. It was funny, and he said he was going to think the same of me for agreeing. Yesterday, He came over to my house and we both walked around my neighborhood. Just walking down the street, he made like these sex noises and moans. Lol, I don't really know why either. After that, he played a Taylor Swift song and sung every line to it. Then, we went to the park. He put his arm around me for a bit, I guess just to see how I would react. I just said "Um.. What are you doing?" Then we both started laughing. But he has NEVER had a girlfriend, at least in the past 5 to 6 years. I haven't even seen him check out a girl, or even talk about them. He does a lot of other gay stuff too. It's not really body language like the "limp wrist" thing. More like how he acts towards other guys. He comments on some guys' facebook photos, and writes "sexxxxy" and stuff similar to that. But the way he does it makes it look sort've like a joke.

What is your opinion on this? I really like him too. Please don't answer telling me to tell him this either, or ask if he is gay. I am afraid it'll just ruin everything. It's that I've never been such good friends with someone like him, I don't want it to end. I want to try to show him signals of me liking him too. I guess what I'm saying is I want to show signs of being gay and let him know that I like him. Just without telling him, like what he does to me. Lol, basically flirting. First, do you even think he is gay? And how should I flirt with him and let him know that I'm bi, just without telling him? Thanks..

[TigerBoy]

When the guy puts his arm around you, don't ask him what he's doing, just go with the flow. Lean into him, put your arm round him too. Maybe you could put your arm around him sometimes first. Definitely keep hanging out with him, it sounds like you guys have some fun together already, and building on that friendship means it will be easier to eventually talk to him.

A lot of the stuff you say about him is all a bit stereotypical and may just be his personality, but then again some guys act more camp to try to make it obvious they are gay. Odds are he is gay from all the clues but its not a guarantee.

You're telling people not to tell you to do one of the things that will really help you - talk to him. These things are always a risk even for straight couples, but if you have a good friendship first you'll probably find it easier.

[randomalien]

Yes. It sounds like he is trying to see wether ye are or not.
If he puts his arm around ye again, ye should lean into him.
Good Luck!

[dontfiguremeout]

Yeah, I'm sorry, but talking to him is the best way! I mean if you guys are close friends, then why wouldn't a close conversation be extremely hard? And I wouldn't really ask him if he is, maybe talk somewhere around that area, and see if he ends up saying anything! If you say maybe one huge secret, maybe he will, since you did, because you guys seem really close! Plus friends help out each other!

[JDubs]

Well, since your not comfortable just asking him or telling him, just try to drop little hints that you like him, but be oblivious about it. So, do something that is kinda gay, just act like it's the most normal thing to do. And also go with the flow, when he Puts his arm around you, just be chill with it.

And yes, he does seem like he's either gay, or, more likely, not sure what he is, and he might even like you back!

[Dangoblin]

From some of the stuff he said, it sounds like he could be gay. Don't let the using a hairbrush thing after gym fool ya though. That fooled me once and turned out he was straight :P. However, the purse comment was.. different haha. I think you should just 'go with the flow' when he's doing something that seems gay. Also, you could try bringing up the topic of gay people and see how he reacts. Or be like "Did you know (some famous person) is gay?" and see what he does.

Goodluck!

[Brice]

This kind of subject is really hard to answer. I know very many guys who play around like that with other guys. I don't know any straight guys at all who like Taylor Swift though... I know a lot of straight guys who would use a girls brush and joke about purses too. I hope he is, just for your sake though!!! I have friends who will completely fall for someone and they'll keep quiet because they don't know and it's painful. I hope you don't have to go through that!!! You seem like a smart dude.

[fallenLethal]

Sounds like me. So yes.

[kamono_kath]

how about u just create a conver topic on gay relationships.. like say u seen on some articles etc... and see how's his response?