Proving to my parents

[Green Arrow]

So I came out to my parents that I was gay a few weeks ago and they seem to think that I am not and it's "a phase" and i "haven't found the right girl" yet. I have known for about a year now that I am gay and I have told them that but they are not reliving me and I don't want to come out fully until I have their support. :(

Help me.

[Silver Assassin]

Mate, don't take offence in this, but I think your parents are in denial. Also, if you are not supported by them then they clearly can't love you for who you are. I came out as Bisexual earlier this month, and my mum has not treated me differently. So, if they really love you, they will accept you for who you are.

[Pierce]

I don't know how old you are but sometimes people may believe your too young to know or that you had not had enough expirience with the opposite sex ( a bunch of bullshit i know). they may just be uneducated in homosexuality i would tell them one last time and tell them its not a phase. If they still deny it let them learn over time. also your very brave for coming out i haven't yet and im dreading it. so talk to me if you need any more help or just wanan talk. GOOD LUCK!!!!

[Noirtier]

I know it's hard, but they may not accept you for it. At least, not for a while. The bottom line is they, deep down, don't really want you to be gay, because they know it's hard and they want you to be able to live a normal life. If they're religious, that's probably a contributing factor as well. There's not much you can do to make anyone believe anything hun. In time, they will come to terms with it themselves, but it doesn't look like that's going to be anytime soon. I know you don't want to come out fully until you have their support in that matter, but you may have to in order for them to accept it. It's hard, but it may be for the best. They will support you regardless, because you're their son and they love you. It's going to be hard without their complete support of this for a while, but in the end I think they will come to accept it. It just will take time, although I don't know how much. I'm sure it was a total shock to them as well when you told them, you've had time to figure it out and accept yourself--they just had this dumped on them. I know how hard it is--my mother isn't even accepting of gays and never will be, and once I come out I'll probably be kicked out. Your parents love you, though, and they will be there with you. We'll all be here with you too on VT, and you'll always have our support.

[TigerBoy]

Yep give them time to process it. Their reaction doesn't change who you are so just keep being true to yourself and your feelings. My dad was a bit like that at first : he has known I was gay for 3 years now, and he still has this wierd way of kind of not acknowledging it and stuff (even though he's ok with my boyfriend sleeping over).

[The Mockingjay]

As other people have said, give them time to adjust to your news. It was a big thing for you to get used to, so it will be the same for them! Just make sure you constantly remind them else they might think you've got past "the phase" or something - say "Oh, he's hot!" or in a really fem voice, "I lovee Lady Gaga so so so so muchhh!" Good luck! :)

[MartyG]

Parents have dreams for their kids. The dreams typically include stuff that will make them (the kids) happy. Parents almost always want their kids to be happy in their life.

Being parents; they feel that having and raising their kids was one of the happiest things in their life. So; parents as a group are kinda biased in that sense. Their dreams for their kids are gonna include the straight life...having babies...all that.

When you tell them you're gay that pretty much messes up their dream for you and they are afraid that you won't be happy. It's hard; I understand that it was hard for my parents to feel that.

With time...parents can see that their kids are happy....and the acceptance of a "new dream" is easier for them to achieve.

[Brighter.Tomorrow]

Homosexuality and Bisexuality are both still looked down upon,it could very well be that they don't want you to go through the stress from bullying, separation, and other issues.
They'll come around, as for now don't worry to much about it.
Trying to force them to believe you only makes it looks bad.
Maybe instead ask if you could have a boyfriend over(if/when you have one.).

[Brice]

My parent's have thought I was gay since I was little!! They've almost always been loving of me and I think that everyone who has posted in this thread is right!! You're parents are probably in denial because they want you to live a normal and happy life. They'll come around. And they will support you, just like my parents have supported me, even though I'm not gay and I keep telling them. You'll just have to remind them like someone said already!! Good luck!! And I really hope for your sake that your parents come around soon!!!

[RCT109]

give them time they are most likely having a hard time dealing with it

so give them time