When do you mind your own business?

[FreeFall]

A friend and I just had a big fall out, we just caught our mutual friend's boyfriend full on making out with a girl we don't know in the park.

She wanted to go over there and find out what was going on. I instead snapped a picture, and texted our friend. I only did that because I was terrified the friend I was with was going to scare him and he'd change his story to make us out to be liars and cover his ass. Thus getting his cake and eating it too.

She's pissed saying I had no right to have done that, it's not my relationship so I had no place and I've probably just killed our friend's heart.
I understand that, but would you rather I walk in on her boyfriend having sex with a girl and not tell her, and just let her be happy until she thinks she's too itchy down there for it to be normal? He should've been faithful, he broke her heart not me. I'm somewhat shocked she can have this mentality when this includes our friend, I'd love for someone to tell me the second they see me being cheated on.

That lead us to arguing whether or not it's right to step in when we think a child's in danger, if we see that someone's stealing from someone, and if we see a crime in progress or if we see an animal being hurt.

I say we need to step in when the well being of a person or animal's on the line or at least being threatened. She says you never make a move unless it includes you, so unless we're affected we need to mind our own business. I personally say she's dead wrong. Who says she's right?

[Gigablue]

I think you we're justified in what you did. There might have been a somewhat gentler way to tell your friend, but she needed to know the truth. The heartbreak would have been worse when she eventually found out, so you made it somewhat better for her. She also could have been at risk for as STI if she didn't know.

I think that you should intervene in situations where you can spare someone suffering, provided you don't put yourself or someone else at risk. If someone's in danger, you should do what you can to help them. Ignoring them because the situation doesn't affect you is selfish.

[FreeFall]

I do feel bad for having been so blunt, I would've been gentler but Lady Do Good was on her way over and made me panic cheater boy would beat me to the punch if she'd been quicker.

I agree. If I saw someone leave their purse like on a public table and walk away, and someone took some money from it, I may not do anything. Shouldn't have left something valuable out in the open unattended, here's a lesson. But I don't think it's right to keep your mouth shut when it's like a baby left in the hot car in the sun with all the windows rolled up.

[Cicero]

I believe no relationship is no ones business, but I think that you were looking out for your friends best interests. You should've maybe actually talked to your friend about it face to face, instead of just texting it to her, its kinda like when a guy texts a girl saying he wants to break up. Just give her space for a week or two, and then say I'm really sorry I did that, and I see why you were mad at me. Her emotions are probably all over the place, shes probably angry at him and just took it out on you because your the one who brought it to light. Cause for some people, its better thinking a lie, than actually seeing something that no girl would ever want. The only thing I would've done differently if I were you, is shown her the picture face to face, instead of texting it. But you are just being a good friend, looking out for your friends best interests at heart :)

[Human]

You were looking out for her, but maybe taking a picture and sending it her isn't the best way :P

[FreeFall]

I know. She's "fine". She's angry at the situation, life and the friend that wanted to keep me quiet. She dug her own grave by telling the mutual friend that she tried to stop me, it didn't work out in her favor to try and throw me under the bus.

I just don't know how someone can feel it's fine to sit quiet when wellbeing's being threatened.

[Mob Boss]

I agree. You were just looking out for her. Maybe you could have had a better method to do it. But those were your resources at the time, and you did what you thought was best. I do agree with her point in certain circumstances - to mind your own - but I think what you did was necessary. If the guy's sneaky enough to be cheating, he'd most likely come up with a lie, ultimately, making you look bad if you didn't have proof.