I cant tell people.

[AngryDuck]

So im pansexual. I know i am. And im proud. Id admit to it no problem. I dont care. But i cant tell people. Cuase if he wrong person knows. Things will get ugly.
I have a boyfriend. He come from a very religious family, and his family hates gays. He doesnt. he loves that i told him my sexuality and he is proud of me. but his mom would never be so accepting. And why would i worry so much? Oh, well she works at the school we go to. She is a teacher. And she found out about us having sex once because i told my best friend and she is a bitch and told a bunch of people and his mom herd. Its not even their business... But they act like it is. So he got in trouble for that. And im scared the same thing would happen if it got out that im pansexual. But i hate lying about who i am when im actually proud. I dont care who knows. But when someone asks, i have to lie. for fear him mom might find out from the rumor mill.
Should i be completely open about who i am. Or lie to everyone, even if i love who i am.

[Stronger]

I don't think you should lie, you will only hurt yourself in the long run. Even though it maybe hard, maybe you should just not tell so many people, avoid it, so that those rumors don't start up, and all that. And you're right, its none of there business, but in this case, the mom will probably make it their business, and she can't tell her son who to love, its his choice not hers. But if she did find out, what kind of trouble would he be in, would he be able to still see you and what not?

[AngryDuck]

He probably wouldn't be allowed to still be with me. Thats what im scared of the most.

[Stronger]

Hmmm, how many people know that you're pansexual?

[HunterSteele]

Why do you need to tell people? Unless it's directly relevant for some reason, you don't need to tell anyone.

[TigerBoy]

Why do you need to tell people? Unless it's directly relevant for some reason, you don't need to tell anyone.

Its not so much about telling, as it about not being able to be 100% truthful and constantly watching what you say. Because she's having to lie to people (i.e. stay in the closet) to stop the rumours getting back to her bf's family.

So honestly, I really don't have a lot of respect or time for the views of your boyfriend's family : I'd be worried about what is the greater harm to you guys. Lying as you feel you are is frustrating, but seems the lesser risk and lesser pain unfortunately. If you are in a stronger position in the future and it seems important for them to know, you still have that option, but obviously once it gets out you can't reverse it.

Good luck!

[AngryDuck]

Hmmm, how many people know that you're pansexual?
Only him and my best friend who lives about 3000 miles away.
Oh and i accidentally let one of my boyfriends friends know because i forgot about it keeping it a secret.

[RCT109]

nothing says u have to tell people
i still have told many people im bi yet so
you dont have to tell people

hope it helped
shawn

[LiamC]

I am the same with telling people I'm gay, I used to have the 'well they don't need to know' attitude but I'm fed up of keeping it in now. Only my two best friends know, I was going to tell another the other day because it cropped up in conversation but I freaked out and missed my chance :(

Just take it slowly, only tell who you trust and don't make a huge deal of it or they will too :)