Best Friend

[VEight]

Let me be direct. My female best friend is a bit crazy. We've known each other since middle school and I've been like a brother to her ever since we became friends. But of course she doesn't appreciate anything I do for her, I was always there for her, even when she didn't have any other friends... So anyways here's the problem: She's somewhat clingy. The second I start talking to a new group of friends she has to immediately swoop in and pull me out of the group. And the second I have to change plans, or something she calls me "a fake friend" or says she can't count on me for shit. Even today I was hanging out with a girl I recently started dating, and she started cussing me out because I apparently ditched her... Fuck my feelings. Any advice?

[conniption]

You should talk to her and say what you feel. Maybe she likes your as more than a friend or maybe she just feels like you'll get new friends and forget about her. Just try talking to her as nicely as possible.

[Gandalf]

Don't let her push you around, as the previous person said just carefully explain how you feel and that maybe you could include her (as a compromise) with your plans with your new friends.

I would try and continue this friendship since it has lasted so long already.


:) Hope I've helped.

[West Coast Sheriff]

Just tell her that you will still be friends no matter what, but you're entitled to have other friends. When she tries to pull you out of a group, you pull other in. Good luck:D

[TigerBoy]

She's being manipulative. Manipulative people are usually selfish and are trying to get everyone else to serve them in some way. She sounds like a very bad friend to me.

You need to call her on this and talk to her. If she doesn't change, then ditch her : she is bad for you. You can't allow her to keep pushing you around and being afraid of her having a tantrum : she's acting like a bully from what you've described.