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Thigg
September 24th, 2012, 03:53 PM
Hey!

I have known this friend like 3+ years and in the beginning I didnt see her more than a friend and now I do. We are both 16 years old. The problem is, she doesnt feel the same way right now. I could say that I'm in love and this isnt anything like crush and my feelings are much deeper. But yea, she rejected me when i told what i feel. (she said many reasons, but she said she could date with me if i would be better looking she wouldnt even think about it, because everything else isperfect) Anything diddn't change and we still speak all the time to each other (msn/txt) because we live in different citys (not so long way to meet her but still).
That day I told her we had after it argue and I said something that we shouldnt speak to each other ever again and she like "begged" and said i couldnt ruin this our friendship that i dont leave him and she told me im the only she can trust anymore (she doestn have very much friends and many of her friends has already left she in the past). She said that im the most important person to her now..
But I cant stand this anymore, Im thinking that I should leave her. At least then, if she finds a boyfriend..I just couldnt watch them. I have thought this long and really dont know what to do anymore. Shes the most importamt person to me aswell but yes, I would leave her if i had to. I'm very sad right now and I have also cried because of him more than ever or because of anything.. I also start almost crying when I think about leaving her but also when thinking she with some another..:(
So could you give some advices or something I could do? She still wants to see me. (just two of us) and last sunday when I met her, she didnt do anything like when i sat next to her and i pressed myself to her..and touched her hand and touched her jacket all the time when sitting.. And stared at her..she didnt looked like uncomfortable or didnt move away. We havent had much physical contact before..so

I could also say that we dont see each other very often because that distance so we usually just speak in net/phone so could that help if we see each other more often? Any other stories you ciuld share with me? I would do like everything for her and for that I could get her! Thank you very much!

Stronger
September 24th, 2012, 05:36 PM
Okay, let's say she gets feelings for you, is it worth potentially ruinning your relationship, should things not work out? You two seem to have a great relationship and I think you should push your feelings aside. In my opinion don't leave her like that, she seems to trust you a lot and you the same, is thqt something you would want? You need to ask yourself, keep a beautiful friendship or risk something close to you. As hard as it sounds, you may find someone else that you will love you and you love her back and still have your bestfriend in your life, something I think will suit you better.

Clevdawg
September 24th, 2012, 09:05 PM
She didn't want to date you because of your looks??? I know she may be a good friend to you but don't work yourself up about you being one of her few friends because she seems to have prioties a bit mixed up

Thigg
September 25th, 2012, 12:13 AM
Thank you, but now I just feel that it would be better to leave her then. I have to think that.

And yes, she said that..Im just "normally/okay looking" and if I would be handsomier she would dare with me immediately... And because of that I dont even want to meet new girls or anything like that because Im very shy and now that so..

She also did let me see her every txt message on her phone..just showed those. I was only person she didnt have delete any message and I saw she had told to her good female frien tht she is going to be with me (just told that and nothing else that day to her female friend) and had talked more about me before but she scrolled those so fast I couldnt see..

Thigg
September 26th, 2012, 02:43 PM
I just read something about body language things and I noticed that leg crossed think and leg pointing to me. I remember when we sat that she sat like that all the time (left foot top and toward me). And she was also mirroring me what I noticed.. when I looked somewhere she did etc.. and she is usually putting lipstick on all the time and last time she first time said me that "I must put some lipstick on" and started to search that on her bag.. and all the time she is correcting her look, like going to bathroom for make up more.. and she randomly start laughing and laugh at my not very funny things that I just said..

That happened last time we met, and then she did know I love her..

I'm maybe imagining, but yeah maybe that may be going somewhere?