Not too sure about anything.

[bigfoot]

I want to tell someone, anyone. I want help. I want to be happy again. Please, for the love of god somebody help me stop abusing my ugly, worthless, rodent-like body any longer.
OH THE GUILT!! I don't deserve the right to complain about how unhappy I am, people have it so much worse than me. My dad is one year sober (or so I thought) and my mom is... really a blessing from the LAWD!! I say, in a sarcastic way. I love her though.
Instead of making this another stupid rant, I'll turn this thread into a question. I wanna tell a friend about my self-harm addiction. Any advice?

[that-god-chick]

first of all ur body if not "ugly, worthless, rodent-like"
second if u wanna tell a friend go for it i say, make sure its someone u trust and know, go somewhere that there will just be u 2 so u feel a little more safe and comferterble..
this person u tell can react in a number of different ways they might even get angry at you but dont take this personal as it will just be by shock and because they dont know how to react to what you have just told them, give them abit of time and they will come around..
best of luck, if u wanna chat feel free to pm me xx

[Haunted]

If he/she is a close friend that you think could help you through this then yes. Tell someone. I kept my feelings to myself so much now I hate myself. Don't do that. Tell someone.

[SmexiLexie510]

Sometimes words aren't the best option- I know this may be hard for you, but showing the scars can sometimes do more than any explanation could.. best of luck

[Desuetude]

The way I told mine was stupid, please don't make the same mistake as me.
The best way, in my opinion, is to just tell them straight out. Sit them down and just say "I self harm" of course try and get somewhere on topic but really, a big build up and such just makes you more nervous and the situation more uncomfortable.

You might find his reaction to be startling. The first person I told straight away asked "suicide?" and i had to explain that it was cutting, that was awkward. Then she started chuckling although I think that was just out of shock, I hope anyway :/ The second friend I told I found out that she'd had thoughts of self harm herself and that her twin already does and is trying to stop. You just don't know what might be happening in his life, he could be very understanding or just overly ignorant but the main thing is just to explain so that eventually they understand.

Maybe print out a few pages about what self harm is and how he could maybe support you because it can feel like a big thing on their shoulders when they don't know what to do or how to help. Maybe explain to him what you'd like to happen and talk about how you might go about making it happen. But yeah, you telling a friend definitely sounds like a good idea.
Sometimes words aren't the best option- I know this may be hard for you, but showing the scars can sometimes do more than any explanation could.. best of luck
In my opinion I wouldn't do this nor do I recommend it. Scars will just freak them out even more, it will prove that you're telling the truth, sure but it won't give them an explanation as to why you're cutting. Also, scars to me are something very personal. I wouldn't want to go showing them to people just to prove that I'm not lying about a serious topic and I don't think you should have to do that either.

[Stryker125]

Tell someone you can trust. This kind of thing isn't something you should have to go through alone.

"I don't deserve the right to complain about how unhappy I am, people have it so much worse than me."

^ I used to think that way too. But I've realized that the severity of one's problems isn't as important as the fact that they are hurting. You're hurting, and that's nothing to be ashamed or guilty about.

[bigfoot]

thanks everybody...

[Jupiter]

Okay, listen to me, bud. You are the only person who can decide when you are ready. Me? I was ready right away and I'm pretty open about it to anyone who really asks. Just make sure that the time is right and if you want to keep it a secret you only tell those people who matter the most and who will keep the secret.

[Noirtier]

If you trust the person, and they care about you, then they should be willing to listen to you and not overreact too much when you tell them.. I told my best friend, and I'll admit it was hard to say to him, and he was shocked. But he still supported me and was there for me because he knew that's what I needed him to do--not to condemn me, but to support me. I more or less just casually mentioned it and showed it to him--probably not the best approach, it's a subject I would approach with caution in conversation with someone if I were you. I wish you the best, and it's hard to tell a friend--trust me. But, if they truly do care about you, well, it helps having that person there. And you know you'll always have us here for you if you need to talk too :)