In love with a friend, but it's very complicated

[Dawn01]

So, that's a really long story. I have this friend of mine, he's all that I ever wanted, but at the same time, he's crazy... I don't know how to explain, because my relationship with him is very bipolar, we have nothing in common but everything in common at the same time. We've been friends for over an year, and because he is a gentleman and he is very handsome, I fell in love with him, but when we became friends, he was still sad because of his ex girlfriend. So, some months ago, he asked me to give him some time, he said he didn't want to be very close friends with me for while. It made me VERY sad, because we were just friends and he would argue with me when I asked about his intention in doing this. But the I discovered another friends of us was telling me bad things and lies about me, and it was a HUGE confuse. So, in the end, I gave him some time. And by this time, I have kissed other boys, in fact, I never really kissed him, like making out, but I've always wanted to. Since the begining of this month, I'm doing a course in his school and we are in the same class. It's like nothing bad ever happened, he is being kind with me again, I'm a little jealous about some of his friends, but I know that he is still single. I always try to ask him to go on a date with me, but he still haven't found time for it, ok, we are both studying a lot. Some of his friends already noticed that I'm in love with him and they call him "gay" for not giving me a chance, and they made a lot of jokes. There's something wrong with this guy, really, why the fuck it's taking so long?

I'm writing this mostly because yesterday he was a true prince with me, I wasn't feeling very well and he was always by my side, he asked if I wanted him to be by my side as my mother would come to take me home, he really took care of me like, really, like a boyfriend would, and it was amazing! He also said sorry for not hanging out with me and he said we could go next saturday after the course :wub: But still, no kiss until now, and he is not answering my texts (ok, he may be studying or without credits to answer, he is rarely with credits) . I don't know what to do, I don't know if he likes me or not, I don't know why is it taking such a long time since I'm not considered ugly by the other boys and I'm definetely not a bitch, I don't know if he would be sad if he discovered that I've kissed other boys by the time we were not talking, I don't know! What should I do about it? Is there something wrong with him or with me?

PS: He is shy, and I'm shy too, we are both virgins and 17 years old and it's said that he or never kissed a girl from his school or has kissed very few girls from there... Can he be gay?!

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

Well he sounds like a true guy from this! And I dont think he sounds gay... He sees you as a friend for sure and maybe something more. When you and him are alone, ask him gently if he likes you as more than a friend... If so talk about stuff and see where it goes. :) Good luck!

[FreeFall]

He doesn't sound gay to me, I mean he could be I don't know. He's probably getting tired of hearing the "oh your gay because you won't go out with her" comments from his friends, please don't doubt him now.
Just keep giving him time. Don't wait for him forever though, that's just too much to ask of you. Don't push him, don't prod him to date you, I agree with Nirvana have a talk with him and set a course of plans from there (ie waiting, dating, just being friends).

[West Coast Sheriff]

I think you should try to take it slow, and from what it sounds like is he might start being ready to date. Just give him time. And he doesn't sound gay so don't bring that up.

[Dawn01]

Thanks you all <3 Too bad that I'm going to see him only in the weekend, but I think I'll call him today and ask him to hang out with me after the course on saturday.

But really, I don't see why he wouldn't like me, I'm a good person, I'm honest, I'm not a bitch (ok, I kissed other boy when I was mad at him, but I regret a lot doing it, at the moment I was so sad and feeling lonely and at a party, but then I saw a text that he sent me, man, I wanted to die when I saw his text that day!) and others boys think that I'm not ugly, so, why not giving me a chance? :what:


Well he sounds like a true guy from this! And I dont think he sounds gay... He sees you as a friend for sure and maybe something more. When you and him are alone, ask him gently if he likes you as more than a friend... If so talk about stuff and see where it goes. :) Good luck!

Yes, he is a gentleman! And I actually don't think he is gay, but all his friends keep telling me that... I will follow your advice :)

He doesn't sound gay to me, I mean he could be I don't know. He's probably getting tired of hearing the "oh your gay because you won't go out with her" comments from his friends, please don't doubt him now.
Just keep giving him time. Don't wait for him forever though, that's just too much to ask of you. Don't push him, don't prod him to date you, I agree with Nirvana have a talk with him and set a course of plans from there (ie waiting, dating, just being friends).

Yeah, I agree, his friends are really bad with him in this point! I'll definetly ask him in the next time we meet *can't wait* and I hope that we finally kiss *this is taking insanely long to happen* but I'll be prepared for the worst scenario for sure too!

I think you should try to take it slow, and from what it sounds like is he might start being ready to date. Just give him time. And he doesn't sound gay so don't bring that up.

I don't think he is gay, but a lot of people have told me that he is ;p I think he is just a little slow, so I'll take it slow too! ^^