I want to try!

[Clevdawg]

So I met this girl a few weeks back at a football game, 15 and sophomore both of us. I got her # and we've been texting and stuff. And to skip past some 3 weeks of texting, I flirt a little over text. Ive been busy and haven't hung out with her since but she seems really chill. I get this special feeling for her too at times. Now skip to last Friday, I asked her to my homecoming dance in 2 weeks. I'm hoping I can meet her next weekend, she can't this weekend. The thing is that she is going to a different homecoming with someone else. I have a feeling she might get close with this other person.

This brings me to the heart of my problem. During homecoming, I want to make a move, express my feelings and go for a nice kiss. BUT I think this might be too bold so soon after meeting her. I don't even know how she truly feels about me. What do you think?
Girls: how would you respond? Does this seem reasonable?
Guys:Any advice in the next few weeks to get her closer to me?

[dontfiguremeout]

Umm, well my advice is take her on a date! I keep saying this to every guy on here who likes a girl! You will never know if the girl likes you, until you go on a couple dates, and see if she loves being with you! Plus doing that, make your relationship much stronger! Now sorry she's going with this other guy for homecoming, but if you don't want her to be with that other guy, you need to show her that your the guy for her! Like I said, take her on dates, sell yourself to her, but don't act desperate! And i think a stupid move for you is to go up and kiss her if you haven't meet her for so long! Wait on that!

[Clevdawg]

Umm, well my advice is take her on a date! I keep saying this to every guy on here who likes a girl! You will never know if the girl likes you, until you go on a couple dates, and see if she loves being with you! Plus doing that, make your relationship much stronger! Now sorry she's going with this other guy for homecoming, but if you don't want her to be with that other guy, you need to show her that your the guy for her! Like I said, take her on dates, sell yourself to her, but don't act desperate! And i think a stupid move for you is to go up and kiss her if you haven't meet her for so long! Wait on that!

Like I said, I wanted to hang out with her next weekend, but I wasn't sure on to whether to make it seem more like a date or just a time to get together:confused:

[dontfiguremeout]

Well take her on a date then!! But if your too nervous, then take her as a friend.

[Clevdawg]

Well take her on a date then!! But if your too nervous, then take her as a friend.

It's not that I'm nervous about taking her on a date its just I only met her a few weeks back and I just am focused on trying to send the right message. But your right, it's probably the good decision to man up and make it a date instead of just a meetup.

Edit: Except I really don't know how to go about asking to go on a date without sounding too... Idk just open I guess. I do want to go on a date with her but I don't want to be that person that she just met and go straight for heart? It's kind of hard to explain, but can you see my point?

[Swagg]

Yeah totally agree

[Clevdawg]

Bump, I really want some input here!

[dontfiguremeout]

Just ask her out, saying you want to get to know her more! First date doesn't have to be that one you need to go for her heart! It can be simple as getting to know each other type of thing! So don't be shy, and ask her!

[Clevdawg]

Just ask her out, saying you want to get to know her more! First date doesn't have to be that one you need to go for her heart! It can be simple as getting to know each other type of thing! So don't be shy, and ask her!

Thanks again realgone, I'm gonna ask her right now.

[Clevdawg]

ok update: i asked her and she asked if i was opposed to a group since we still dont know each other really well. I told her im fine with a group. She didnt say no or "just as friends"
is it the right move to say im fine with a group? Do girls say that usually just because they are nervous of being alone with a guy, in a good way, or because they just dont want tohave a date with the guy? She seemed pretty chill with going to a movie with me.

[dontfiguremeout]

Umm actually she's telling you the exact truth! She doesn't know you that well, so it would be kinda awkward to be just you two on a date! Once you guys get to know each other better, then you guys can start going on dates as just you two!

[Clevdawg]

Umm actually she's telling you the exact truth! She doesn't know you that well, so it would be kinda awkward to be just you two on a date! Once you guys get to know each other better, then you guys can start going on dates as just you two!

Its not a bad thing though right? I mean she seems pretty happy to go and stuff. And I'm fine with going with a few friends. I just wasn't sure if she was telling the truth but it seemed like it. Not going to lie I feel pretty dumb asking all these questions

[dontfiguremeout]

Nah! It's not bad at all! I think you would do the same if you barley new this girl, and she asked you out, and you said maybe we can have other friends come along since I don't really know you that well! Plus it's better for the relationship anyways! Relationships aren't a one day thing you make! It takes baby steps into making a good relationship!

[Clevdawg]

Nah! It's not bad at all! I think you would do the same if you barley new this girl, and she asked you out, and you said maybe we can have other friends come along since I don't really know you that well! Plus it's better for the relationship anyways! Relationships aren't a one day thing you make! It takes baby steps into making a good relationship!

Thanks for all the advice, ill be sure to keep this updated as things happen.

[Clevdawg]

Gah! Had the classic missteps today. Ends up basketball and stuff is real busy for her so she might not have time to see a movie this weekend. Then I make one of those compliments that turn out to surprise her, and made it a little awkward. I've been complimenting her a lot and she seems to be thankful be she isn't really returning it...

[dontfiguremeout]

Because your trying too hard!!! If you compliment her too much, then she will seemed freaked out!

[Clevdawg]

We seem so good friends now. We text everyday, ends up it wasn't as awkward as I said. Ends up she can't hang out this weekend. This makes me want to make my homecoming more special for her. My friends and I are planning dinner and maybe a group limo but I am thinking of other ways to make it nice. Any suggestions?

[Gordo]

You're good dude. RealGone has given solid advice. As much as you can, put yourself in her shoes.

Personally, I have movies as dates. there isn't any interaction. I'd rather not call it a date and go do something you'd both like to do. I'm a fan of getting together and not calling it a date. Less pressure for you because then the date isn't this discrete thing that can be graded by her. I think it's better for you to do things so you can get to know her and more importantly for her to get to know you.

Whatever romance you have in your head requires her being comfortable around you and that comes from knowing something about you and having some level of trust.

She can get to know you and vice versa over the phone and text, you've done some of that already. So that's good.

[Clevdawg]

You're good dude. RealGone has given solid advice. As much as you can, put yourself in her shoes.

Personally, I have movies as dates. there isn't any interaction. I'd rather not call it a date and go do something you'd both like to do. I'm a fan of getting together and not calling it a date. Less pressure for you because then the date isn't this discrete thing that can be graded by her. I think it's better for you to do things so you can get to know her and more importantly for her to get to know you.

Whatever romance you have in your head requires her being comfortable around you and that comes from knowing something about you and having some level of trust.

She can get to know you and vice versa over the phone and text, you've done some of that already. So that's good.

I've tried my best to make myself seem friendly and caring to her. I never specifically made it sound like a date but you are right, it may seem too much like a date. She seems to trust me a lot recently, and I trust her. I'm just focused on making my homecoming, fun, memorable, and a chance for her to know me a lot. I really want to make it just a little romantic but i don't know if I should. I want ideas for as to do this.

[Clevdawg]

After 2 weeks, I finally got homecoming tomorrow but I'm nervous to make any moves on her mostly because of an earlier conversation. She accidentally texted me " I love him so much" she said it was meant fo someone else. She said it was actually about one of her good friends. She ten told me she loves me too but I'm worried whether she was serious about loving him, or if she meant to love like as a friend, or if she was talking about me instead. I want to be close to her tomorrow but I'm nervous on whether I'm just "in line" behind another guy.

[Dawn01]

Man, you just need to try! I think since you are good friends, she could give you a chance if she is single. You can ask her if she is having some kind of affair with another boy or if she is in love with someone... You better ask that before seeing the thing with your eyes if it's really the case!
You can actually ask that by text :)