I think my boyfriend is taking things fast.

[xlntjen]

I been dating my boyfriend for about a week or so ( September 12th) and he goes to a different school then I do, so I only seen him twice in person.. We kissed, held hands, and I even opened up about something I use to do. Since its a new relationship I'm trying to develop connections with him and get to know him as a person ( We been talking for a month BEFORE we started to date )
I feel hes moving fast since he says stuff like..
" I love you." ( I do like him, I just think its too soon)
" You mean the world to me"
" I would be heartbroken if anything happens to you"
ETC ETC ETC..

How should I tell him hes moving fast without hurting his feelings.?

[FreeFall]

...that sort of stuff always creeped me out, even if those involved had been like best friends since 2nd grade.

Just gently say "hon, I'm happy you care about me really I am, but you're moving way too fast for me. I'd appreciate if you could tone it down with the "you're my precious" talk". Something along those lines.

[PinkFloyd]

"I love you" is a crazy thing to be said after only a week. I have been dating the same girl for a year and a half and have done everything together and even we haven't said anything like that. Just tell him that you would like him to slow down a little bit.

best of luck - Rob

[Mortal Coil]

That is moving pretty quickly. Tell him something along the lines of, "there's no rush babe, we're still young! Let's take our time/savour the moment!"
But it all depends on the situation: his personality, yours, choose whichever way of telling him you think is best for your unique situation.

[Zarakly]

I'm not sure if that is actually taking things to fast. Nowadays, it seems as though the word "love" has barely any meaning. I see it all the time on facebook and hear them talking. "I love you" "I love jon doe" then a week later relationship status single. They make a huge deal about it. Sure if it is only 1 person saying it maybe it is going to fast, but when they both say it then they break up a week later?

[Thepolice5291]

Personally I would say "I Think we are moving to fast"
After a week wow, Maybe those 3 words don't matter to him?
Lots of people think "I Love You" means nothing anymore
I Still find it pretty special

[xlntjen]

Thanks guys <3 You are really helpful, I'm gonna text him soon to talk to him n.n

[dontfiguremeout]

Then how bout you tell him! Tell him that you want to build up the relationship! Most relationships fail because people speed everything up, and don't realize who the person they are dating is! That's why most divorces happen, because people don't date long enough to know who the person really is, and if they can cope with them forever. So tell him you want to be slow, and when you both feel like you know each other better, and you guys have been going out for a long time, then start saying that! And honestly it's only been a week since you guys are going out, and I don't think he really means it! I think his friends told him that you need to say "I love you" or "Your everything in the whole world to me" to your girlfriend so they feel wanted. You can tell him he doesn't have to say that in the relationship right now when you can mean it so much more later on.

[Swagg]

WHat I keep telling people is that u need to talk! It solves everything! If they only came to these realisations during wars....

[Taryn98]

He does sound like he's jumping the gun. Anyway, you need to be direct about how you feel. Guys don't pick up on things very well, so you need to talk to him directly about what you think. Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship.

[TigerBoy]

I totally get how that would feel 'too much' if you've not been together long. Chances are he's being overwhelmed by all these feelings and everything is really intense. I feel like that too with my bf sometimes. Partly because I'm an emotional person, but I also think its because its all new to me. Luckily my boyfriend is the same back, but also we've known each other all our lives, so that makes sense to know how you feel for each other.

I wouldn't say that he doesn't mean it - perhaps he is that shallow, but I suspect he's just feeling a lot of intense stuff right now and may just need a while to get used to it.

[DerBear]

You need to have a talk with him and explain exactly how you feel. Say that you do want the relationship to work but you want to take things slow. You need to tell him how you feel about what he says and explain that you do like him but you need time to figure out if you will truly love him. Plus also say relationships don't grow over night. Things take time to grow.

Make sure you word things correctly cause you don't want to hurt his feelings. But you need to do this or you might end up moving too quickly and the relationship could be disaster or mistakes could be made.

If he likes you enough he will understand.