family member weight?!

[SmexiLexie510]

A close family member, a girl, weighs 147 pounds (10.5 stone and 66kg.. i think) at 5'2 height. I've told her this isn't right but she refuses to believe me.. I guess I just kinda want some conformation that this isn't healthy.. thanks

[FreeFall]

It depends.

If she's all fat she's a bit overweight, nothing too life threatening and probably easy weight to lose. If she's big but not fat, she's probably got a lot of muscle. Muscle's heavy so it adds more weight making it seem like you weight a lot. You do, with the muscle, but I mean more in the fat sense.

[Mortal Coil]

Weight has very little to do with how "healthy" a person is, especially if we're talking over average instead of under average. The fact is, what you're doing is really judgmental towards her and she probably is just trying to defend herself since she feels like you're trying to make her feel like shit.
It's not your body, and while her body isn't necessarily healthy, it's probably doing more harm than good for you to confront her about it.

[SmexiLexie510]

Please do not judge when you do not know the full story evil.angel.

Her family, parents and older siblings are incredibly overweight to the point of very serious health problems and not being able to climb stairs or leave the house without a wheelchair. I am scared she is going the same way and have tried to help her. All i wanted was to know whether you thought this weight was an issue.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

A close family member, a girl, weighs 147 pounds (10.5 stone and 66kg.. i think) at 5'2 height. I've told her this isn't right but she refuses to believe me.. I guess I just kinda want some conformation that this isn't healthy.. thanks

Not exactly life threatening, but thats a bit heavy... She definitely has a hard time exerting herself physically...

[Noxail]

Please do not judge when you do not know the full story evil.angel.

Her family, parents and older siblings are incredibly overweight to the point of very serious health problems and not being able to climb stairs or leave the house without a wheelchair. I am scared she is going the same way and have tried to help her. All i wanted was to know whether you thought this weight was an issue.

Don't respond to helpful posts in a negative way. Honestly, you should've said this in your OP and it would've solved everything.

And I have to go with E.A on this one. It's counterproductive for you to confront her in such a way. Maybe instead of just flat out telling her it's not heathly, show her. Ask her nicely how far she can run, or how many stairs she can climb. Then explain that she would be much happier at a lesser weight. And if she doesn't believe you, go online and look up the healthy weight for a child her age and height. And remember, all people are different. If she is happy with her body, and is confidant in the way she looks, allow her to remain that way. A lot of people lack that confidance even when they aren't overweight at all. ~holli

[SmexiLexie510]

I was just expressing my opinion.

No one has actually answered my question to be honest... but I understand what you have said and I do take that on board. I know how many stairs she can climb and how far she can run, I see her almost every day, she's my family. I have tried confronting her, I have tried talking to her, I have tried showing her.

[FreeFall]

As wonderful as it is that you're concerned about her, I'm sure she's aware of how her parents and siblings have to live because of their weight.
All in all I think you've already done what you can.
Maybe you can try again, just be gentle and let her know one last time you don't want her to end up as they have, maybe even offer to do the regimes just like her by her side. But in the end everything's her decision no matter how frustrating or heartbreaking it is.

[TigerBoy]

No one has actually answered my question to be honest...

That's partly because we'd need to know her age to map her onto the various BMI data there are out there.

Try the NHS BMI calculator (http://www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/Healthyweightcalculator.aspx?Tag=)- feed in the values and it will map your relative on a scale that shows where they sit according to various tables out there (sources are provided).

For example if she's 14 she would be classed as "overweight" and very nearly in the "obese" category.

[Jackson L]

Well if your trying to tell her to lose weight encourage her tell her why she should and coach her through.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

A close family member, a girl, weighs 147 pounds (10.5 stone and 66kg.. i think) at 5'2 height. I've told her this isn't right but she refuses to believe me.. I guess I just kinda want some conformation that this isn't healthy.. thanks

Please do not judge when you do not know the full story evil.angel.

Her family, parents and older siblings are incredibly overweight to the point of very serious health problems and not being able to climb stairs or leave the house without a wheelchair. I am scared she is going the same way and have tried to help her. All i wanted was to know whether you thought this weight was an issue.

I was just expressing my opinion.

No one has actually answered my question to be honest... but I understand what you have said and I do take that on board. I know how many stairs she can climb and how far she can run, I see her almost every day, she's my family. I have tried confronting her, I have tried talking to her, I have tried showing her.

Honest to god, you might not like what I'm gonna say. But I've got a few points to highlight.

First, 147 and 5'2 is a BMI of about 27, which means overweight, and 3 points away from obese. Not necessarily good, but I wouldn't say bad. You can never fully trust a BMI calculator though. Honestly, it depends on so much more. How she eats, does she exercise at all, etc.

Second, My advice is to just let her know you care, and you're willing to help, but leave it at that. Don't try and force and help. You can't help someone who doesn't want it. I totally get where you come from. I've had family have bypass surgery and I know people who've needed wheelchairs to get around and seen people who struggle to go up/down stairs. But you can't help her if she doesn't want it. Maybe she doesn't even really need it. Maybe you're embarrassing her. It's really, really sweet that you care. But coming from someone who was a chubby preteen, it SUCKS when everyones trying to tell you to lose weight bla bla bla when you really don't need it. And she's still young; she might even out. Her refusing to believe you isn't really her denying a problem, I think it's her way of saying 'Stop'.

But to answer your question, which I bolded above, and which is what other people, including Alex said (which you said was wrong and rude), I don't think her weight is an issue, YET. I can't say it never will be, but it isn't really yet and honestly, just let it go.