Advice

[what the?]

I'm not entirely sure if this is where this should go, but I need some advice. Basically, there's this guy I've liked for a long time. He's straight and is one of my best friends, infact he's probably my best guy friend. That makes it even worse, 'cause I feel like I shouldn't fancy one of my best friends. I sort of want to tell him, I think this might help me get over him. It's stupid really, 'cause I know nothing could ever happen, but it doesn't help. I can't get him out of my stupid head lol.

I just wondered if anyone had any advice they could offer. Thanks :)

Ashley x

[AutumnDae]

You should tell him how you feel about him. Basically, I have been debating whether I like my best friend, who is a guy. But just say something to him about it, like "I think I might like you" or something. Being blunt is probably the only and best way to go. Hope this helped.

[byee]

Always ask yourself: 'What's the point'?. Really, ask yourself what you hope to accomplish with this (or any personal issue). Think carefully about the possible outcome, and if it's worth it.

Alot of times people ask questions or make statements about themselves without really thinking it thru. Then, when the unexpected happens, when they get a reaction they weren't intending, it's pretty devastating. If your friend is totally unspecting that you're gay, it might end the relationship. You have to be prepared for that, and ask yourself if it's really worth it.

Alot of times, people say they want to get stuff 'off their chest'. But, that can be not only very risky, but a little selfish, too. Because you're thinking only of your own needs, not the feelings of the other person involved.

I'm not suggesting that you not share things with your best friend. I mean, that's what best friends are for. But, maybe if it's to 'feel better', you might come up with a better way to do that, privately within yourself, that doesn't risk losing something nice, and messing someone else up, too.

[what the?]

Lol he knows I'm gay, he was my first kiss haha. We were both drunk, not that I needed to be, but yeah. Thanks for your help :)