I need help.

[brisk]

I'm trying to get to know a girl I like. Now, don't call out a monotonous or casual answer without reading (as you so often do); "ask her out" won't help me. I need some real answers.

We're in Spanish and math (sixth & seventh period) together. We've been friends for about two years now. I sit relatively near her in both classes. She knows that I have feelings for her (I was an idiot; I confessed over Facebook when she posted a status about it!). She seems interested, but honestly, I've never been in a relationship before and am next to clueless. I can't drive yet (I'm on the younger side of my peers/class). There's not much I can do unless I want my mom to drive us, which would ruin me with embarrassment. I don't want to waste any time or this fantastic opportunity (for lack of better terminology -- I'm not a player). I feel kind of silly coming to the Internet for answers and pouring my heart out on a forum with little emoticons flashing to the right of my personal problems, but I've helped many on Virtual Teen and other similar sites. What are some ways I can break the ice? How can I let her know I am interested (and thinking about it for twenty-four hours every day)? Please help me! :what:

Thanks in advance,
Rob

[PinkFloyd]

Hi rob, It's rob. :D

Okay, onto the matter at hand. Do you have any mini-marts or fast food restarounts within biking distance? If you do, Dairy Queen or McDonalds would be nice. You should ask her to go with you as a friend. Before I was in my relationship (which i've been in for a year and a half now) I was in your situation. I went on a couple of friend bike rides to a mini mart with her. It was super inexpencive too. We both had monsters lol. (I paid, but you don't have to.)

But what I'm trying to say is that you should grow closer and closer to her and maybe she will come on to you. I know it sounds crazy but Just grow closer to her in any way you think would be good and maybe eventually you two can take it to a new level.

[brisk]

Thanks, Rob! ;P
So, just an update and a few questions -

My district has Friday off this week. I know it is incredibly short notice, but I'm thinking of asking if she'd like to do something. For the past few days, I've been trying to get closer to her. We talk very often and we've followed each other on Instagram (she's liked every photo I've posted since). Progress, but it's going slowly.

I've been waiting for an opportune moment to ask, but I think it's time to take initiative. I've talked to my sister in what could have become an opportunity for blackmail or ruining my life in general, but she took it well. She offered to drive us, so I've bridged the transportation gap. Phew.

I think now all I need are some encouragement and pointers to make it less awkward. Can anybody help me feel prepared? :P

thanks so much
R

[Sir Suomi]

Well depending on where you live, ask her and some other friends to go somewhere. Where I live, I'd always go down to a little pond near town that was a short bike-ride away. We'd always just have fun, relax, and occasionaly sit around a fire and talk. A few times, thing got a little intresting, with some skinny dipping( Won't spare you details, but fun time there). Just do something fun, and maybe she'll fall for you :)

[brisk]

Well, damn.
I had a plan to talk to her and see if she'd like to do something.
Then I had to see my Spanish teacher about the essay on the back of my exam. Gone.
I revised my plan for math. Had to leave immediately after to catch a ride from my friend who was on his lunch break. Missed 'im. Walked home for miles in the sun. The escapade doesn't end there; I came home to find that my dog had walked across the paste set for the tile during our kitchen remodel. Tracked all around the house, hours of labor and innumerable furniture ruined. Tonight, I won't be visiting my friend's house with her. I'll be at the vet trying to get a glue similar to cement off my dog. I'll be yelled at by my father (though it isn't my fault).

My day has completely collapsed. Please excuse my language, but I feel like shit.
I'm about ready to drop this completely.

[Nathan Numberless]

Don't worry bro, just call her or something. It's only one day of bad luck. By the way try and get a little... romantic with her if you're in the friend zone. Sit close to her, when you're giving something to her, touch her hand. Compliment her hairstyle. It's the little things that get her intrested in you.

[Apollo.]

I know the feeling man, if you can't drive yet how about just going out a walk with her? Every time I have asked a girl to go a walk it has gone really well, it gives you lots of time to talk and be alone its a great time to tell her exactly how you feel without fear of being humiliated in front of people. Also every girl I've asked thinks its so cute that I just want to walk and talk instead of having distractions, it shows that your interested in her and your not just bothered about being seen about with a hot girl.

I'm not even close to a player either, I much prefer a girl I actually like to someone that's just hot. I'm more into relationships than just a hook up and if you want to show her you really care you will need time alone with her instead of only being around her with friends.

I know I'm not much use but I hope at least one thing I've said helps you, good luck with her!