Younger "Friend"

[Johnuey1]

I have got a guy at school who is infatuated with me. He is 12 and in grade 8. I am 17 and in grade 12. He keeps giving me hugs and likes getting close. What should I do because it is illegal for me to do anything with him. Btw I also like him but don't show it.

[DerBear]

Puberty for boys :arrow: Family and Friends

[Pipo]

I have got a guy at school who is infatuated with me. He is 12 and in grade 8. I am 17 and in grade 12. He keeps giving me hugs and likes getting close. What should I do because it is illegal for me to do anything with him. Btw I also like him but don't show it.

It's simple don't do anything.

[Collin97]

you better wait till he isnt underaged anymore and then you can do whatever you want;)

[FreeFall]

First, do know he likes you?
Maybe you're a big brother figure to him and he's just a cuddley little 12 year old that looks up to you.

But, don't do anything.

[TigerBoy]

I'm in a relationship with a guy two years younger. Trust me, that is hard enough to deal with us being in different stages in our education and is only going to get more tricky next year. That is before you add in whatever anyone else thinks, legal issues etc.


he's very unlikely to be mature enough for hugs to imply anything sexual.
if he's physically mature enough he still won't be emotionally mature enough (i.e. he'll break your heart or vice versa, things will just get very messy and embarrassing etc).
for the above resason, in the UK (dunno about Aus) you are looking at charges of rape & child abuse for any sexual activity with <13 year old. You could be looking at a life term in prison for these offenses.


So purely from a selfish viewpoint what you should do is not expect or allow a relationship other than a platonic bromance. As someone you obviously care about, it is even more important you look out for his best interests and keep things platonic.

[emanual]

That would honestly be disgusting if you had sex with a 12 year old. There's a reason people who don't obey the norm end up in prison.

[TheAppleProsS]

I have a friend who I have the same thing

[MartyG]

I think it's sad that; in response to your question...people here assume that you are asking about/thinking about sexual activity.

Be his friend, be a mentor....be a buddy. Of course you are the older of the two; it's up to you to set rules and take time to talk to him if it does become apparent that he wants "more" from you.

I doubt there's anything like "that" thats going on with him.. For whatever reason he's latched on to you...like an older brother or whatever.

Don't hurt him (emotionally) just be there for him to whatever degree that you can.

He's not doing anything wrong...and neither are you. You should feel proud that the kid looks up to you. You must be doing something right :)

Marty

[TigerBoy]

I think it's sad that; in response to your question...people here assume that you are asking about/thinking about sexual activity.


What should I do because it is illegal for me to do anything with him. Btw I also like him but don't show it.

Since platonic relationships are not illegal, what did you infer that the OP meant by mentioning legal concerns about "doing things" with the boy? Perhaps the rest of us missed something.

I think your opening comment was a little disrespectful to the other people posting in this thread tbh. By contrast most of us (with one notable exception @emanual) have been respectful of the OP.

[FreeFall]

I think it's sad that; in response to your question...people here assume that you are asking about/thinking about sexual activity.

Be his friend, be a mentor....be a buddy. Of course you are the older of the two; it's up to you to set rules and take time to talk to him if it does become apparent that he wants "more" from you.

I doubt there's anything like "that" thats going on with him.. For whatever reason he's latched on to you...like an older brother or whatever.

Don't hurt him (emotionally) just be there for him to whatever degree that you can.

He's not doing anything wrong...and neither are you. You should feel proud that the kid looks up to you. You must be doing something right :)

Marty
That rubbed me the wrong way. He said it's illegal for him to do anything, so we're going to assume he means sexually.
I mean, pretty sure an adult's allowed to hug a kid or pat them on their head so...yea.

But I do agree with your advice. I has the depth that really helps.

[Steve Jobs]

If by doing things you mean reciprocating the hug, seriously dude, what the fuck is wrong with half of society today. It's not gay to give a hug to another guy irregardless of age. It doesn't have any sexual implication unless you specifically do so. If that's how you describe "getting close", it definitely isn't illegal at all.

If you're talking about an emotional attachment where you feel like doing more like in a sexual way, I'd definitely give it a second thought.

[DerBear]

I am not going to repeat everything everyone else has said but honestly. Just tell him to stop in a nice way and you never know he might just look up to you and therefore he thinks it is just showing a sign of affection he probably doesn't even think he is doing anything bad.

Just tell him gently to stop and it is not appropriate and then if he continues then maybe talk to his parents. They will probably understand and then they will have a chat with him. Finally you could just distance yourself from him, that way he can't give you hugs and what not.

[Mikedamaniak]

You can still be friends with each other and where i'm from jacking off together and jacking each other off is still legal.

[bushy]

Dude hes fricking 12. whats wrong with you

[Castle of Glass]

if you are gay, curious or bi, then wait for him not to be underage, then i think you can come up with ideas ;)
if you are straight and like it, same reason as above
if you are straight and don't like it and feel harassed, then report it.

[ThatGuy69]

Talk to him if he is sure he wants to do stuff go for it

[StoppingTime]

Please don’t bump old threads. :locked: