My Lips Are Sealed!!

[MikeyWilliams2012]

Okay, so recently Ive been talking more to a guy I know whos a year younger than me. I know him through school. I barely see him anymore as Ive moved on to college. About a week, week and a half ago, he and his girlfriend split up after a long term relationship. I was pretty gutted for him when I saw it on facebook, as I know how much he liked her. Whenever I saw them in school, they were together. So I thought "aww, shame" and messaged him saying Im always around if he wanted a chat, he's a really nice kid so Im happy to offer my support. My problem here is I'm bi-curious (he has no idea) and I think he's really cute (he has no idea of that either)!! obviously I have no problem talking to him. We actually put a <3 at the end of every message we send, its kind of a friendly, casual thing we do. And once or twice, Ive jokingly told him "I love you" - which he sees clearly as in a friendly way; he says it back :) but I just wanna turn around and say "no, I mean I love love you...." I cant though because itll devastate our relationship, and I cant have anyone knowing my secret!!.....HELP :what: !!!

Feel free to comment your thoughts or PM me for anything else - Mike :)

[nfs4394]

I know it's a lot harder saying to do something and then actually doing it, but i mean it when i say the best thing to do would be to talk to him about it. You honestly never know what people are going to say or how they are going to react. Yes, it is possible that he may not want to be your friend anymore but that would be his loss. It is absolutely ridiculous that some people would stop being friends over someone's sexuality. If he judges you, than he has the problem, not you.

You could also take a different approach and just talk to him about the "i love you" messages. You could just say that they are making you feel uncomfortable and he would probably understand and stop.

A third scenario is that he could possibly be having mixed feeling about you as well. In that case, talking about it would make you both feel a lot better. Trust me, you are not the only person out there who has ever been curious about a friend.

I hope this helps!

[horizonlooker]

Sometimes it's best to keep things to yourself. I don't know your friend, so I can't tell you how he would handle it if you told him your true feelings. Sometimes it's better to just play it cool, then in all seriousness just let him know, but make it seem as it's just something you think he needs to know and that nothing's going to change (even if you want it to). Then, maybe what he says will surprise you. But if you value your friendship, it's best to do what you can to keep it. What I mean is, if he wouldn't take it well, don't tell him.

[josh_9]

i feel the exact same...

[xXl0sth0peXx]

This isn't puberty. :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[emanual]

wow uh im pretty sure he knows you are gay and he is either gay or bisexual too. i mean, seriously, look at your chats. <3? i love you? i mean come on.

[MikeyWilliams2012]

Ive tried approaching it without him realising.....like Ive said "so do you wanna talk about anything?" but he says "naah im okay".....this is really putting me off because I want to maybe stumble across his feelings through general convo, but don't know if he thinks I mean talk about his break-up....!!!