Old mind, young body.

[Avenida105]

I know this is not a crisis, but I think its a mental state that is not normal. I'm 17, junior year (11th grade) of high school. I've been shocked lately, to see that I'm rejecting most invitation from friends to hang out. I don't know but I don't feel like anything they do is fun, last night I didn't go to a friends sleepover because I actually had stuff to do with my family. I asked another friend what they did and he was like o we played polish ping pong and ding dong ditched. He said it was fun, but I think it's plain stupid, I actually expected them to drink because they are pretty dumb too, but surprisingly they didn't. I told my uncle what they did and I told him, 'You see I told you they were going to do something stupid' then he was like, well it's not stupid its juts stuff young people do, and what shocked me was when he said, you are not old and you're only going to be 17 once. So I don't know what to do, I find myself having more fun talking about "old people stuff" rather than go around doing whatever is "fun" I feel kinda depressed now, because I don't know, I'm slowly drifting away from my friends and there is no one my age who shares my way of thinking. Any sugestions? What should I do? Has this happened to anybody before?

[Haunted]

I'm kinda the opposite. I tend to hang out with younger people because our interests and personalities are more common. I say, be with the people who make you happy. If you have more fun with the older age group, hang out with the older age group. Depression isn't good, you don't want to go there because it can lead to other things. So find someone who makes you happy and never leave them. When I finally found a friend I was so happy. Whenever we were apart I would just think about him and what we did and could wait til the next time I saw him.

[Mortal Coil]

While your uncle's YOLO-type comment has some truth to it, it's also important to do what you feel like doing. I agree with you (being about the same age) that the things most of us older teens do is just plain dumb.
Do what makes you happy.

[TheBigUnit]

Find new friends? I haven't ding dond ditched since middle school, maybe u should hang out with them once and think if u enjoyed it, the basic definition of friend is someone who shares ur interests, find someone who shares ur interests and hang ouit with them

[Danny.Robertson]

It's just what happens psychologically to people from time to time. When you were younger did you have a scrap with a friend which lead to you not being friends then being friends again. It's a bit like that.

[Syvelocin]

Try doing some stuff that "young" people do. Just to make sure you're not dismissing it as something bad to do so you won't do it. Your uncle's right, so make sure it's really your personality first and you truly aren't missing out on anything.

I'm an old soul as well but there's a lot of things I like to do that are labelled childish. They aren't really childish, but other people seem to think so. It doesn't matter. Do what you think is fun.

But yeah, I used to have a hard time as a kid because I felt very frustrated—as if my brain didn't belong in a body of my age. It went away though. I mean, I'm still the same way, I gravitate toward people who are mid/late twenties and early thirties more than people who are teens/early twenties, but the outlandish feeling isn't really there in the same way it was. There are people like us; I've met a few. They're just difficult to find.

Worst comes to worst, find older friends. Or befriend some girls your age.

[Cicero]

I'm the same way. I would much rather go to a gourmet restaurant or classy dinner party, than go out partying. You shouldn't feel sad about it, there are tons of people who are the same way. From what I see it, your fortunate. Because for me, I don't have many friends who are like that. When I was a few years younger I attended a party, but it's much more fun attending a banquet or even wedding. I'm sure there are tons of other guys your age who are like that. I'm 17 too. Also, I thought ding dong ditch was something you did in middle school? Haha

I also love talking to the older crowd, I always have. People my age I never got along with, but people usually 10 years older than me I got along with. I would categorize the age group I get along with the most is maybe 40-80 years old. When I was a younger kid it was people in then 20s age range. I also tend to get along with women a lot more than men. Probably because some guys think I'm gay lol

Lastly, just try to connect with the older groups that you get along with. There is no real age limit on friendship, especially when you get out of school. My parents have friends that are 49 years older than them, and they get along perfectly. Just continue doing what your doing, if its making you happy then why stop?

[workingatperfect]

I'm the exact same way, but it's mostly because the stuff all my friends are doing now is the stuff I did when I was 13-15. I hung out with my older brother and his friends when I was younger, so I kind of skipped right to that age and missed my early teens. You should hang out with them a couple times, just to make sure that you really don't enjoy that type of thing. I know sometimes I miss acting like a bit of an idiot (Although we never ding dong ditched or tp'd or anything, that always seemed so junior high or even elementary to me.) And if you find that that stuff bored you, find some older people to hang out with. I find that I tend to get along with people in their early to mid 20's better than people my own age (17).

[StoppingTime]

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