some of my guy friends are homo-phobic

[PinkFloyd]

I, first of all am not gay but I accept everyone for who they are. (well in this case not homophobes)

But yeah I was with my friends Nick and Jack in my friend Nick's garage and we were talking about who we're going to home coming with. But my friend nick said something about how he hates gay people. Jack agreed. I just changed the subject because I didn't know what to do...

They have always said stuff like "don't be a homo man." or "You're gay if you think that". I just passed it off as something that means absolutely nothing that a lot of people say because even I say it and mean nothing by it.

Can I have some help please? They're good friends but this is a little far. In my mind it's like calling a toddler short and making fun of them. They can't help it... And even though some people choose to be gay, who cares? It's the person you are. Not the label that's put on you...

sorry bout the rant...

[Nathan Numberless]

Well.... That's who they are. Maybe they are ignorant and you could show them there's nothing wrong with being gay. Maybe they ARE gay, just too homophobic to admit it. I had a crush on a homophobic lesbian once :eek:

[Sky Flower]

There isn't much you can do. They have there opinions doesn't mean you have to agree with them. If there opinions goes from random remarks in private into open hate of gay people then it becomes an issue.

Don't think to much about it, but if it continues then it might be time to find less close-minded friends.

[DerBear]

I understand where you are coming about have homophobic friends. I know people who are rather homophobic and while I am not gay they still occasionally say what would be considered hurtful things if taken outside of context.

To be honest you will probably find it will be a maturity thing, I don't know your age but I think a lot of people can be homophobic in there teen years because if they go against it then they might be considered gay.

In fact you might find that the reason Nick said he hates gays is that he is insecure about his own sexuality and he is insulting gays/having a bad attitude towards them to enforce his own belief that he is not gay and then the only reason Jack agreed with him is to not be thought of as gay.

I don't know your friends but those are some theories/possibilities.

You will find if they are truly homophobic that you will meet people like that all through your life you will always ask that question "its the person that counts not the label" but they won't see it that way.

All I can say to make you feel better is you should not let them bring you down, yes they are your friends but you need to think of what is best for you and if they do start to bring you down then you might need question the friendship and think about your future as being friends with these people. But I am jumping ahead of myself as you are not quite there yet because you still value them as good friends despite there opinion on homosexuality. However, if they do start to bring you down, don't stand for it.

Good Luck.

[The Mockingjay]

That's the thing, a lot of the time you just assume that when people say stuff like "Oh, that's gay!" they don't mean anything homophobic by it, but the words alone can actually be very hurtful to gay people, especially those in the closet. People wouldn't and couldn't go around saying "That's black!" or "That's Muslim!", so why say it about gays? Okay, rant over xD

Back to your question, perhaps your friends are just ignorant, and speaking to them about it might be a good idea? If they assume you're gay because you support gay rights tell them to grow up and accept that you can support the LGBT community without being gay yourself. It could be a maturity thing as Derri said, and they'll grow out of it as they get older. Either way, telling them now you find what they say might be the best idea. Good luck! :)

[Matt_2012]

Just say "cmon guys not cool, they cant help it if there gay" n see what they say.