I want him back..badly

[torry]

So, 3 weeks ago I called my boyfriend and he told me he wasn't sure if we should break up or not, because we had been "distant" and he wasn't sure of his feelings for me anymore...anyways, he said he didn't want to talk about it over the phone, I really should have listened to him. I was a wreck and my friends kept telling me I needed to break it off right now. So...I did...over the phone. I hate myself for that. Well, he didn't really want to talk, and then when I wanted to he said he needed to get over me, which made me confused because I thought he was going to break up with me anyway. Then finally he messaged me trying to strike up "old banter" and I told him I didn't think I could just go back to normal. He got mad at me, and that was that. Then, I tried to send him a note telling him I was sorry and that I wanted to be friends. He got really really mad and called me telling me, well,...how much he disliked me for breaking up with him. He wanted his stuff back, and he said "and this to be over". So I gave him a necklace back, and we hugged, and yeah...Well then he put on Facebook that he missed me. I miss him like crazy. I didn't really explain this that well, but try to understand that I didn't want to break up at all. And he told me he didn't want to either, then he did, and then he put that he missed me...I don't know, I'm so confused. I want him back though. I don't know what he wants. I don't know if I should start a convo, or what to do. Help please :(

[Extreme586]

“You can love someone so much...But you can never love people as much as you can miss them.” -John Green

Do you really want what you had back? It sounds like you guys really just need to sit down a evaluate what you had with each other. You said he thought you guys were too distant. Then you found out he never was really going to break up with you after you broke it off with him over the phone. So to me it seems like you didn't want him to break up with you sooo badly and to feel that pain, that you cut it off yourself right then and there in a heart beat. You obviously still have feelings for him and from what it sounds like, even still love him.

Explain to him why you broke up with him. Tell him that you were scared of the fact that you thought he was going to break up with you when you next talked. And that out of impulse you did something you now regret (assuming I'm correct). Then, if there's still something there (which I think there is) talk about getting back together. Don't over think it, do what your heart tells you, not what your brain is trying to make sense of.

[FreeFall]

You've learned now, do not listen to your friends. They're not the ones dating him, it wasn't their call to tell you to dump him unless he was abusive and/or cheating.

he's sending you so many mixed signals he's harder to read than a map.

you both need to sit down and figure out what you want like Extreme said. No more phone conversations, do this face to face. And no, not over skype either. If one of you gets mad it's too easy to just exit out and go into your own little world. In person it's harder to block out words while walking away. let him know you're open to dating him again and you regret what you've done. One shouldn't race to be the one that breaks it off. You totally jumped the shark.
If he doesn't want to date you again, or be friends, respect that. Don't push it, don't try to say 'but this time...' just respect it and accept it.