Coming out in school

[The Mockingjay]

Over the past few months I've told a few of my friends and family that I'm gay and so far people have reacted very well. Only thing is, being myself around some people then having to put the act on again around others is tiring and annoying.

I'm thinking of announcing it on Facebook soon so everyone can find out at once, so that I won't have people constantly asking me if it's true. I'd say 80% of my school wouldn't have a problem with it and the other 20% wouldn't go any further than calling me a faggot. What do you think about that?

Also if any of you have any advice on coming out in general, it would be appreciated! :)

[Gandalf]

Over the past few months I've told a few of my friends and family that I'm gay and so far people have reacted very well. Only thing is, being myself around some people then having to put the act on again around others is tiring and annoying.

I'm thinking of announcing it on Facebook soon so everyone can find out at once, so that I won't have people constantly asking me if it's true. I'd say 80% of my school wouldn't have a problem with it and the other 20% wouldn't go any further than calling me a faggot. What do you think about that?

Also if any of you have any advice on coming out in general, it would be appreciated! :)


While Facebook is a good means of spreading information quickly, once you say it on there. It's there. So I would think carefully if that is what you want.

If you told people then it probably has already spread, so I wouldn't actually worry about making everybody know... But then again it is upto you, only do it if the benefits are higher than the issues it may bring.

Hope I've helped

[Cognizant]

What i've done so far is changed my 'interested in' on facebook. I might announce it in April, but i'm not sure. If you think facebook would be a good way of letting everyone know, go ahead with it.
However, as ben said, once it's there, it's there. If you want only certain people to know, just tell them in person.

[The Mockingjay]

What i've done so far is changed my 'interested in' on facebook.

I've already done that, but nobody noticed!

And yeah, I think everyone will know even if I only come out to my closest friends. Things like that spread, especially when you walk through town holding hands with a boy :P

[Stronger]

If you feel that people wouldn't bother you that much, then I said go for it, if your comfortable and ready, but you never know with people, and what they could say around school, give it some good time to think about before your confident about it, or you could just let everyone else figure out on your own.

[Breakeven]

i think if you feel its the right time for you and ready go for it and as long as people in your school wont bother you that's good
and also for tips i would suggest you take a look at this thread :

made by mike it have great tips (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=134627 )

[Extreme586]

No matter what you do, whether you come out on Facebook or not, your going to have people ask you about it. I would recommend you tell people and once word spreads, having people ask you if it's true won't be such a bad thing. I think coming out over Facebook is kind of an easy way out which doesn't have the best results.

Also don't forget, just like it's easier for you to post it on Facebook, it's also easier for people to leave nasty comments when they are sitting behind their computer at home. You might actually have a nicer experience when your face to face with people, believe it or not. Either way whatever you decide, best of luck!!

[The Mockingjay]

Thanks everyone, I'm going to come out to close friends face to face sometime before the October half-term then just let it spread. I actually want people to ask me about it now, I have no reason to be ashamed! :)

[Jamie1515]

Thanks everyone, I'm going to come out to close friends face to face sometime before the October half-term then just let it spread. I actually want people to ask me about it now, I have no reason to be ashamed! :)

Good on you mate! Good luck with it all!

[The Mockingjay]

Good on you mate! Good luck with it all!

Aha, thanks! :) I'm pretty certain people will react well anyway, so yeah :cool:

[Jamie1515]

Aha, thanks! :) I'm pretty certain people will react well anyway, so yeah :cool:

No worries.. Hope they react well for you! Prejudice and Judgement should be abolished, that's what I think.. All the best mate..

[horizonlooker]

Is Facebook the best place? Normally when I see that in my newsfeed, the comments are "haha good joke" or "hacked". But if that's what you wanna do then go for it. I know what you mean. Putting on acts is pretty annoying, or even biting your tongue about what you want to say.

[The Mockingjay]

Is Facebook the best place? Normally when I see that in my newsfeed, the comments are "haha good joke" or "hacked". But if that's what you wanna do then go for it. I know what you mean. Putting on acts is pretty annoying, or even biting your tongue about what you want to say.

Yeah, I'll make it clear that I actually am if I come out that way. I've sorta changed my mind now and am thinking about telling some close friends face to face them asking them to spread it, but I don't know for sure yet. I definitely want to do it soon though, holding it in is getting very annoying. :mad:

[The Mockingjay]

Update: This week I've came out to about 5 or 6 really good friends (mostly boys) and they've all reacted perfectly. Like, they don't treat me any different whatsoever, try to hook me up with boys, basically I'm still the same person in their eyes. Now, I'm not sure whether I should ask them to just spread it, or whether Facebook might be the best idea? If they spread it, people will be asking me if it's true for the next week or two, if I put it on Facebook, people will be able to see it coming straight from me. Ugh, this is confusing me, any ideas?

[TigerBoy]

Update: This week I've came out to about 5 or 6 really good friends (mostly boys) and they've all reacted perfectly. Like, they don't treat me any different whatsoever, try to hook me up with boys, basically I'm still the same person in their eyes. Now, I'm not sure whether I should ask them to just spread it, or whether Facebook might be the best idea? If they spread it, people will be asking me if it's true for the next week or two, if I put it on Facebook, people will be able to see it coming straight from me. Ugh, this is confusing me, any ideas?

Well first off, congrats :)

I would imagine word is out and spreading - it didn't take very long for the one person I told to spread it around school, literally only days. Yes I was asked is it true for a while (a week or so) but just because it was interesting gossip.

I expect you'll get people wanting to talk to you whatever you do about facebook. It might help, and at this point I don't think it will change anything. You could wait a few days and if you start getting bugged about it, then change facebook perhaps.

[Pierce]

if i were you i wouldn't make an official coming out statement just act yourself act feminine people will catch on i'd say that would be the best

[The Mockingjay]

Update(2): Came out on Facebook, everything went really well! Literally no hate at all, people have been messaging me all night saying they support me and love me no matter who I am. So happy right now! Thanks for the advice guys, it helped a lot! :)

[TigerBoy]

Update(2): Came out on Facebook, everything went really well! Literally no hate at all, people have been messaging me all night saying they support me and love me no matter who I am. So happy right now! Thanks for the advice guys, it helped a lot! :)

Really pleased for you !!!

Ok just a reality check : don't be surprised if you get the some people being idiots (I did). It sounds like you should have some good support from friends now its all out in the open, so don't keep stuff to yourself if you get any difficulty : talk to friends right away.

[The Mockingjay]

Really pleased for you !!!

Ok just a reality check : don't be surprised if you get the some people being idiots (I did). It sounds like you should have some good support from friends now its all out in the open, so don't keep stuff to yourself if you get any difficulty : talk to friends right away.

If I get idiots I don't care. All the people who matter know, so I'm happy! :D

[Abyssal Echo]

Thanks everyone, I'm going to come out to close friends face to face sometime before the October half-term then just let it spread. I actually want people to ask me about it now, I have no reason to be ashamed! :)

was the best thing I ever did was to come out and yes I just let people at school ask me if it was true.

[jegoss02]

Just get a bullhorn and standup in the cafeteria saying "I like boys and nothing anyone can do is going to change that... That is all". Lol. But Facebook isn't the way to go. I think friends are enough on the lines of telling people. I feel it would be on a need to know basis type thin. Kinda personal and all. But that's my opinion. So by all means, do whatever. It your life. Make the best of it.

[The Mockingjay]

Just get a bullhorn and standup in the cafeteria saying "I like boys and nothing anyone can do is going to change that... That is all". Lol. But Facebook isn't the way to go. I think friends are enough on the lines of telling people. I feel it would be on a need to know basis type thin. Kinda personal and all. But that's my opinion. So by all means, do whatever. It your life. Make the best of it.

It's annoying because since coming out on Facebook, I've started to think the same. Oh well xD

[Alfie99]

I'm 13 and don't feel ready to come out at school yet, I think I will probably leave it for a while. I have told my family who have been great but I just don't feel ready to tell my mates just yet.

[Boricua97]

I did the same thing you did last year, and it's such a help. If you tell your close friends, soon word gets out. By the time your ready to tell everyone, everyone already knows! I have never been treated differently, and they ALWAYS try to hook you up with guys. Just give it time, good luck! :)

[KifoThaKid]

Me personally I just acted myself no different and if and when people asked I answered with confidence as if I always was and it was never hidden. They all, even my homophobic friends, accepted me simply because they new I was always me and even though I was bi I was still me, the same person they came to be friends with in the first place.

[wizard25]

Over the past few months I've told a few of my friends and family that I'm gay and so far people have reacted very well. Only thing is, being myself around some people then having to put the act on again around others is tiring and annoying.

I'm thinking of announcing it on Facebook soon so everyone can find out at once, so that I won't have people constantly asking me if it's true. I'd say 80% of my school wouldn't have a problem with it and the other 20% wouldn't go any further than calling me a faggot. What do you think about that?

Also if any of you have any advice on coming out in general, it would be appreciated! :)
i have told everyone at school-my school is very open so no problem-it makes it a lot easier if get caught staring at boys lol