Significant decisions?

[Drummaster1000]

Hello Internet folks, My name is Sam and I recently discovered that I might be 98% gay, which I was obviously thrilled about. Although this news was great, I had some minor inconviences like any other newly gay individual with this realization. My most challenging issue with this process is that, it has become clear to me that I must break up with my girlfriend for who I've been dating for a year and a half now. When we first started dating, I didn't have a shread of a clue that I would turn out to be gay 1.5 years later but over the course of the relationship I slowly realized while at the same time repressing/denying my attraction for the same sex. I've never experiment unless you count jacking off in the SamE room as ur best friends when I was like 15 but, they're all straight and had an equal desire to jack off too(plus everybody was under blankets). I feel extremely guilty because now I feel like I lied to her when I told her everyday that I thought she was beautiful or pretty (which she is, gay people can tell too I guess) or I told her I loved her and all that sort of stuff. Also, she has a lot of anxiety issues and I feel like if I broke up with her without giving her the "I'm gay" version then she will go into an extreme depression and may not be able to overcome it by the time we go to college. With the tremendous amount of work from school right now and college I don't want to add coming out to this very long list. But if I wait it out then I could steal more experiences away from my girlfriend like her only prom and I've already stole her first kiss boyfriend ,make out, etc. I know in a way what I need to do In the end, which is come out and suffer the judgment and anger I'll receive from all my friends for lying to them accidently. The only reason that I might. COme out sooner than later is because I met this guy and he's the only one I can talk to about this crap and I wish I could date him but, gay straight or donkey I would never cheat so now i feel liked I'm screwed unt college....damnit.....please somebody slap me out of this confusion and make everything seem a lot more simple...

[The Mockingjay]

You need to explain it to this girl. It's extremely unfair not to not tell her and you'll be a lot happier because you can act yourself for the first time. People might be less homophobic than you think!

[Extreme586]

First of all you need to break up with your girlfriend. You might feel like your protecting her but in reality your leading her on. Whether she has to deal with it now or later, now would be better. You don't have to tell her that your gay, but just make sure she understands that it had nothing to do with her and that your confused right now and don't think you can be in a relationship. Or at least something along those lines, just make sure she knows its not her fault and you can't be in a relationship at the moment. As for your friends, tell them you honestly didn't know yourself until recently (if you do decide to tell them your gay). It's not fair to you really if they start getting angry over something you recently discovered yourself.

Now that we got that out of the way, lets talk about this guy you met. Is he someone you are actually talking to with or someone you think you could talk to about all this? If you want to date him go for it! Just make sure you get things concluded with your girlfriend before you start trying to learn more about yourself and your new friend.