How to get to know a girl you don't know too well

[Xandle]

So I've just started college, (which isn't the same thing as the US, I'm in the UK - for people in the US when you're 16 you start a new school called college, so the whole year is new), and the other day one of my friends (not one of my really close friends but we talk occasionally) introduced me to loads of their friends, as we went to different schools. There was this one girl she introduced me to that I only really briefly exchanged a few words with, but since that happened, I have not been able to stop thinking about her. I mean, I woke up this morning and within about 5 seconds I was thinking of her - I don't even really know this girl!! I know she's really cute and seems nice but that's about it. I don't have any classes with her or anything so I won't see her much, and even when I do she's just passing me with her friends. Thing is I have no idea if I actually like her - I know that I like the fact that I may like her, but I don't know her well enough at all - HOW DO I GET TO KNOW HER? How shall I start talking to her if there's never an opportunity? I don't want to talk to her over the internet, I want to do it in person. Please any tips? It's so weird how I can't stop thinking about a girl I barely know...
Thanks guys :wub:

EDIT: I can't really ask anything of the friend that introduced me, I really don't know them that well - I just happened to sit down by her and she introduced her.

EDIT: Also, if I do speak to her, how do I avoid being friend zoned?

[audiophile5]

Well you could ask some of your friends to hang out, and tell someone who knows her to invite her too (maybe tell that friend to invite her and other people, if you don't want everyone to know about ur crush).

[DerBear]

The first step is just generally talking to her. You don't need a massive elaborate plan in order to get to know a girl. Simply start a conversation. However we all know that isn't easy.

You could start a conversation online then continue or build on it the next day when you see her. I mean it is a good way to start a conversation. I know you said you don't want to talk to her online but I mean it would be a good starting point for a conversation that won't be entierly random.

Secondly if she has any common interests such as a club, or sports then you could talk to her about that or even attend a club that she goes too.

Also try and find out what she is interested in and if you are interested in it too them you can have a great time discussing common-ground interests.

Overall you need to talk to her more. Yes it can be hard but try and find a way. One last input. You might find an opportunity randomly happens and you have the opportunity to talk to her. If that happens then just speak to her about anything and ask questions but don't come off as too strong as you don't want to come off like you are interviewing or like an interrogation her, just stay calm.

Good luck and I hope things work out.

[Xandle]

Bump :)

[Xandle]

Bump

[Xandle]

Bump

[StoppingTime]

Yes, OP's are allowed to bump their own threads. However, it gets to a point, like this one, where it becomes obnoxious. You received two thought out answers, and more people will see this as time goes on without the constant "bump" message. And for me, at least, that usually wants me want to respond to a thread less.

[Xandle]

Ok, but in this case I've also added more details. There are new members all the time and new people looking who may not have seen it. I'm bumping it every few days, not non-stop.
If anybody does have anything to add it really would be appreciated - I need as much help here as I can get!!

[DerBear]

Ok, but in this case I've also added more details. There are new members all the time and new people looking who may not have seen it. I'm bumping it every few days, not non-stop.
If anybody does have anything to add it really would be appreciated - I need as much help here as I can get!!

You'd be better to quote a reply, as that way it doesn't look like you are constantly bumping a thread and it would allow more replies as some people won't see that you have edited the original post as they might not check.

As to your latest edit.

EDIT: Also, if I do speak to her, how do I avoid being friend zoned?


Well to be honest you do need to start by becoming friends with this person. You'll know when the time is right to ask her out and then if she doesn't want to go out with you then cut your losses and move on. You can't force someone to be in love with you or want a relationship. Just talk to her and see how it goes. You'll know naturally when the right time is to talk to her

[Pierce]

Get close to the person by talking or using humor or doing whatever yu do best

[Xandle]

You'd be better to quote a reply, as that way it doesn't look like you are constantly bumping a thread and it would allow more replies as some people won't see that you have edited the original post as they might not check.

Thanks :) noted, also thanks for the advice

Get close to the person by talking or using humor or doing whatever yu do best

I see what you mean, but how do I get an opportunity to if I never get to see her anywhere? If there's not ever a time to do that, how do I make one?

Please don't double post. Please use the edit button or multi quote feature ~Skyfall