Can we wait?

[NoWhereMan]

Hey guys and guyettes? Anywho I am a bit of an issue with a girl I've been friends with since the start of this new school year (Being the new kid and all that jazz). So I've been in school for almost 4 weeks and today she asks me out via note given by a friend of ours (I don't like that method I perfer a more direct face to face approch) So I get the note and she explained that she was embarassed to talk to me face to face which I can understand.

I would like to go out with her, just not now, I would like to wait so we could become closer. So my question is, how do I tell her to wait without making her think I don't like her?

[wild1]

You can be honest and tell her what you just wrote here but she may still think ... Gee, what's wrong with me? It was hard writing Jordan that note and he said no.... if I were you, I'd ask her out now. Don't miss out. She might find someone else.

[NoWhereMan]

You can be honest and tell her what you just wrote here but she may still think ... Gee, what's wrong with me? It was hard writing Jordan that note and he said no.... if I were you, I'd ask her out now. Don't miss out. She might find someone else.
Your a funny one aren't you? Well thanks but my thought process has always been something to the effect of "Friend to date never late, date to friend never again" but you know I'll break away from my usual thinking and just go it. Thanks for the reply:D

[SuperSuraj]

I think that you should explain to her that you want to wait and build a stronger relationship. She can't be mad at honesty. If she is then dating her wouldn't work anyway. If you explain to her in a way that doesn't offend her or hurt her feelings she should understand. It would also help if you acknowledge that she did a big thing for her (in asking you out and not waiting for you to do it, most girls are terrified of rejection, as are most people) and just let her know that it isn't a possibility right now, but you'll ask her when you're ready because you like her. Don't lead her on, but don't crush her hope either (: Good luck!

[NoWhereMan]

I think that you should explain to her that you want to wait and build a stronger relationship. She can't be mad at honesty. If she is then dating her wouldn't work anyway. If you explain to her in a way that doesn't offend her or hurt her feelings she should understand. It would also help if you acknowledge that she did a big thing for her (in asking you out and not waiting for you to do it, most girls are terrified of rejection, as are most people) and just let her know that it isn't a possibility right now, but you'll ask her when you're ready because you like her. Don't lead her on, but don't crush her hope either (: Good luck!

Thanks man, that's what I'm concerned about is dating before we have a strong enough foundation to make it last. I dont want to lead anybody on or crush any hope. I'm not going to try to hurt anyones feelings, but I never know how a person will take it. I plan to try and keep a tighter relationship and make sure we keep more conntact outside of the school atmosphere it will be tough trying to make her not feel locked into the dreaded "Friendzone". So I once again thank you for your help
Sincerly,
NoWhereMan

[ashdyn]

You should just tell her you want to hang out with her a little more so you guys could get yo know each other a little better...then what happens will happen. It's not like you're really rejecting her all together. You just want to test the water first. perfectly understandable