'Feelings' for a friend

[Georgey]

So, I've been wondering about it for a little while.
For about the last year I've had feelings for a friend and they've gotten stronger. Now, I wish I was going out with him and so on. The thing is, nobody knows that I'm bi and I'm not sure if he is either. He has made indications in the past but I think he was just joking + he's had GFs and such.
So what do I do? Ask him, let it go or just sit it out and wait? :what:

Thanks :yummy:

[Aidoon123]

Ahh dude that must be rough. You see you cant really ask him because if he dosent share your feelings it can be really akward and embarrasing especially if he tells so maybe you can do subtle things like while sitting down touch his hand or something or while lying on a bed or something move in close and put your arm around him. If he reacts badly just say you were joking

[MeldieBoy]

Ahh dude that must be rough. You see you cant really ask him because if he dosent share your feelings it can be really akward and embarrasing especially if he tells so maybe you can do subtle things like while sitting down touch his hand or something or while lying on a bed or something move in close and put your arm around him. If he reacts badly just say you were joking
Agreed 100% I do this and always just say 'I was only joking calm down' and it works and I am still friends with them

[sdude]

No, don't listen to the bullocks...If you are close to him, talk to him and see how he feels about u...don't play games, it will backfire...if he is worth being your bf, he will either share your feelings or respectfully tell you he doesn't fly that way.....either way you know and can move on or start something very cool...

[Abyssal Echo]

So, I've been wondering about it for a little while.
For about the last year I've had feelings for a friend and they've gotten stronger. Now, I wish I was going out with him and so on. The thing is, nobody knows that I'm bi and I'm not sure if he is either. He has made indications in the past but I think he was just joking + he's had GFs and such.
So what do I do? Ask him, let it go or just sit it out and wait? :what:

Thanks :yummy:

if you really want to know how your friend feels wait till he starts as you say joking around and ask him if hes joking or not or just joke with him and see where it goes.

[TigerBoy]

No, don't listen to the bullocks...If you are close to him, talk to him and see how he feels about u...don't play games, it will backfire...if he is worth being your bf, he will either share your feelings or respectfully tell you he doesn't fly that way.....either way you know and can move on or start something very cool...

I agree - this is about preserving trust and respect. If you pass it off as a joke now, at some point he'll find out you are bi later on and realise you lied to him.

I think this is one of those times you need to take an honest risk. It may be easiest to tell him you are bi first and see how that goes before you tell him about your feelings. It might feel right to tell him during the same conversation, but depending on his reaction you may want to give him some time for things to sink in (possibly days or longer).

Good luck.

[DerBear]

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My apologies to the original poster, I accidently moved this to p101 archive, however it is now in the right location.