Sleeping naked in college dorm...

[booboo22]

So have just started college and I have a roommate. I usually sleep naked at home, but didn't want to throw that on him on the first day, but then I discovered that he has a female friend over a lot and even overnight. I have talked with him about her and he promises to not never her sleepover so much, but I'm not sure if I should just go ahead and bring it up or just continue sleeping in gym shorts... Thanks for the help!!!!!

[frankrocky]

You should talk to your roommate about this issue. If he is open enough to have a gf sleep over then he should certainly understand your desire to sleep in the nude.

[TigerBoy]

I'd be pretty pissed off about having him bring her to the room to be honest. I'm not body shy, but I do like my privacy and personal space.

I say you're already being a decent room mate by being ok with it, so you shouldn't feel bad about what you do in your own space. I'd be really surprised if her sleeping over wasn't against college rules so if it did all get messy and she had an issue with you, I'm pretty sure you could just take it to the college authorities and she'd be history.

[booboo22]

It is against the rules for her to sleep over, but this same kid says "eww eww" everytime someone says sex. Its kind of ridiculous what he won't put up with but makes others put up with... :/ but it's to the point now that I think I'm going to talk to my RA about his GF cause she is over way to often and even after talking with both of them about I just. For kicked out again so they can have them time even though her room is empty...

[TigerBoy]

It is against the rules for her to sleep over, but this same kid says "eww eww" everytime someone says sex. Its kind of ridiculous what he won't put up with but makes others put up with... :/ but it's to the point now that I think I'm going to talk to my RA about his GF cause she is over way to often and even after talking with both of them about I just. For kicked out again so they can have them time even though her room is empty...

Yeah they sound like they're taking the piss and being selfish. You can't carry on like that without it building bad feeling on either side, better to get it out in the open soon as poss in my view.

[booboo22]

Yeah they sound like they're taking the piss and being selfish. You can't carry on like that without it building bad feeling on either side, better to get it out in the open soon as poss in my view.

That's what I think I'm going to try and do, I'm going to talk to my RA about GF today and then talk to him about sleeping. He says he went to a boarding school but he doesn't seem to have any roommate skills what so ever...

[TheTopDawg]

Yeah, I would talk to your RA. I had an issue like that last year. My roommate had 3 friends stay in our room one night without warning me beforehand. Two were guys and the third was a girl. He ask if one of the guys and the girl could borrow my blanket I kept at the foot of my bed. I let them. I later heard certain muffled noises comming from the futon between the two beds.... they were gettin it on while using my blanket.... It got washed several times and I had a little discussion with my roommate. It thankfully never happened again haha.

[Luke91]

Isn't half the room yours. Sleep the way you want and report his girlfriend.

[volleyball17]

ask him if he doesnt mind if you do. however if you report his girlfriend you might not be able to sleep naked then.

[this_kids_a_DJ]

I am in my second year of college and I have the same room mate. Last year he had her sleep over and asked me to leave for the night... Now I am over 200 miles away from home and I don't know where the hell he expected me to sleep, so I told him to get a room because I shouldn't have to leave to give him and his girlfriend space. - What I am getting at is that the room is an even split between the two of you. It is just as much yours as it is his. Do what you want... I'd let him know you are doing that though. But having someone spend the night most of the time is not cool... I wold ask him, KINDLY, to limit that. If not, that is actually not allowed at most schools so they may be infact breaking the rules. Where I go to school it is acceptable but, if your room mate gets in trouble in the room, you are equally at fault.

Just my two cents, I hope this works out for you!

[nymets3bdw5]

Its definitely a give-and-take type of relationship with roommates. But since you already went to them, I'd pay a visit to the RA. They are trained to help in those situations. My freshman year I had an issue with my roommate and the RA gave good advice. Fortunetly, the kid tranasfered out after the fall semester.

[dontfiguremeout]

First off, I would talk with your roommate, to make sure that he would be comfortable to know you sleep in the nude, then if he's comfortable with it, then go ahead, and then make sure that she really doesn't come all the time, or at least ask him to go somewhere else with her if he wants to hang out with his gf.

[Abyssal Echo]

You should talk to your roommate about this issue. If he is open enough to have a gf sleep over then he should certainly understand your desire to sleep in the nude.

yup I agree you should talk to your roommate. then if hes cool with you sleeping nude go ahead.

[randomteen]

just sleep naked, see what he says, if he's not bothered about it then keep doing it but if he minds then have a talk with him:)

[Dark Sparrow]

sleep naked mate just do it, even if you juft keep the gym shorts by the bed or you put on off under covers but deffinitly sleep naked

[Gordo]

I think you can sleep in whatever you want or don't want under the covers. Just put your shorts by your bed or under you pillow. No need for either of them to ever see you naked. Personally I don't see a big dif between nothing and basketball shorts.

If I had a roommate, I'd make sure to be respectful at all times because it would make for a better living situation without drama. Given your dorm room is your home, a place to rest, recharge I'd want to keep it as drama free as possible.

[booboo22]

So i finally just got a chance to speak with my roommate without his girlfriend being around and he has agreed to let me know when I shouldn't walk in and that he is cool with me sleeping naked, he didn't seem to thrilled with the idea, but I'm taking the ok a running! So hopefully everything will work out better from now on!

[YOUNGFLYGUY]

it should work better.....im a RA at my school and i let my residents know that im not playing with them when it comes down to the rules. and if they dont like something that the roommate is doing talk to that person about it if they dont agree i step in...at this point u did the right thing and if it still brcomes a problem go to your RA.

[Rukua]

I reckon just sleep naked, he should understand considering he has a girl stay the night,,

[StoneColdNicky]

Exactly. Sounds like you've been pretty reasonable about everything. It isn't like you're saying you're going to be walking around the room nude all day. You'll get out of bed and into clothes. Doesn't seem like a big deal.

This whole room mate thing makes me glad I'm planning to live in a place off campus and not in the uni halls next year.

[Drewtsit]

first off, your roommate shouldn't be having some one of opposite sex sleepover and you shouldn't tel him. just do it. its not lke he's going to lift your sheets up for no reason

[college12]

I would sleep naked and not worry about my gym shorts being close by. I would walk across the room to get them when I needed them. I would also fart if I had to and take care of my morning wood even if roommate had girlfriend over. Maybe girlfriend would think you were too gross to be around and not sleep there anymore.

[redtukr]

i would keep your gym shorts on juston the idea that they are a couple but there has to be certain set days that shes not around or ur roomate is over at her house plus partof the room is yours so you do have some say in what goes on

[superstarB]

Just talk to him

[Boy Cupid]

First off, I would talk with your roommate, to make sure that he would be comfortable to know you sleep in the nude, then if he's comfortable with it, then go ahead, and then make sure that she really doesn't come all the time, or at least ask him to go somewhere else with her if he wants to hang out with his gf.

This dude ^ is taking the words right off of my keyboard. And yes, just tell him, if he has a girl over, I think that he would easily understand that you sleep in the nude. I mean, if he has his girlfriend over, is he not basically sleeping in the nude?

[Eric57]

Out of respect, I would talk to him about it. Seeing as you guys are roommates, you wouldn't want to do anything to make him feel uncomfortable. But when you do talk to him about it, make sure to tell him that it's regular thing and it's how you feel most comfortable sleeping.

Honestly though, I don't see why it would be an issue. It's not like you are completely naked 24/7 and hanging around naked all the time. You sleep naked, which means you are under the blanket. And I'm sure when you wake up you'll put on boxers or some gym shorts or something. I'm sure he'll be more than okay with it just as long as you aren't naked 24/7.

[ThatGuy69]

If that's what you do there is nothing he can do about it just go ahead and do it, maybe you could have a threesome

[Hermes]

Sleeping naked seems minor compared to the potential problems with her being over. For example, is he expecting you to go somewhere else for a while so they can have sex? If so I'd set limits to how often and for how long and certainly I would not expect to have to spend the night somewhere else. If instead they go for having sex in the room while you are in it then I would probably respond by openly masturbating while they do it. Either things will get more open and the concern about sleeping naked will be history or it will lead to a debate on reasonable limits.

[Collegeguy12]

I would like a little warning lol the only nights I sleep naked in my dorm is when I'm the only one staying here.

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