Please get me out of the friend zone!

[dakita7x1223]

Ok well I have liked this girl sence 7th grade (which was my first year at a new school). shes one of my best friends but I have always wanted something more. As soon as she broke up with her boyfriend in 7th grade, I asked her out. But she said she's wanting to wait a while before she can have a boyfriend. So i went through the torture of her dating other people for two years but then I finally asked her to homecoming freshman year. And she said yes! But i knew she only wanted to go as friends. Now im in 10th grade and a couple weeks ago I told her how i really felt about her. But before i told her, i asked my friends (which are her friends as well. Boys/Girls) if we would actually work out. They all said yes and that we both deserve each other. Shes always had the jerk boyfriends, and ive been told im the nicest guy on earth.

Anyway, after I told her how i felt, she said "The only reason that we havent dated is because I dont want to ruin our friendship if we broke up. It would kill me if i ruined ur everyday smile. I love you to hell and back, I wouldnt know what to do with myself." Then i said "Ok I get that your afraid of losing our friendship but think about it, the only reason u hate ur x's is because they are either nerds or jerks. I sit back and watch you date all my freinds and now you like Hunter?!" (i forgot to mention that she likes one of my friends named Hunter who is a serious nerd and shes way out of his league. That really got me mad cuz im way better then him) i said "what did Hunter do that i havent done to impress you?! ive been busting my ass off trying to impress you and i just get forgotten"

The next day she txts me asking if i wanted to talk about it again. I said "well all i want is one chance, thats all im asking" she says "well to be honest i really dont want a boyfriend right now with all the stress im dealing with with other guys asking me to homecoming (10th grade) but as soon as i feel like dating, scouts honor you will be the first to know :)... i dont know whether I should believe her or not. Please guys help me. I try paying less attention to her so she can come up and talk to me instead of vise-versa and it seems to be working. but i need this to happen. i really think shes the one.

[West Coast Sheriff]

I think she's not into you that way sorry
My best advice is cherish the frienship u have together
And ps
Welcome

[dakita7x1223]

thats what i was afriad of but she has been acting different towards me lately in a good way. She wants to hang out more and be by me more but i dont know if shes teasing or what

[West Coast Sheriff]

Well if she said she's not ready to date then listen to her feelings bro. Shell love that and just b great friends with her and give her a reason to chose u over those other fools. Prove to her that ur the best dude
And good luck!

[dakita7x1223]

ya i am respecting her fealings, its just that im trying different ways for her to actually like me and so far, ignoring her a little is actually working

[West Coast Sheriff]

Nice,
I'm gonna ask my best friend Morgan to homecoming for the last week. But every time we talk and I'm about to ask I just get so nervous and advice/tips

[dakita7x1223]

well when i asked the girl i like (Megan) to homecoming, i just asked if she was going with anybody and she said no. she asked if i was and i said no....do you want to go with me? she said hell ya lol. so basically just lead up to it.

[FreeFall]

Wow! My friend zoned experience was; friends since 7th grade, winter formal dance, got my chance (finally) in 11th. He's gay now and we hate each other's guts. That was over a year ago.

Well. You're doing real good so far, so keep that up. But next time you find out about a guy she's interested in, don't ask her what she sees in him that you don't have. As you are is perfect and even if you changed yourself to be like that guy, there's no guarantee she'll go all Grease on you and you both drive away in a flying car from the school fair. Also, that sounds a bit "gift with strings" to me when you said you "been busting my ass off trying to impress you and i just get forgotten". Just because you're working really hard at it, and congrats on your dedication, does not mean she's obligated to acknowledge anything. So just tips, stay away from those.

Really, all I can see in this situation is to keep doing what you're doing, time and space and respect her feelings, all that fun. Time will reveal what's meant to happen, that's all I've got.

I hope you can get out of the friend zone bro, and have a much better outcome than I did!

[dakita7x1223]

Wow freefall. Thanks! That really helped and ment a lot. And I'm sorry about your outcome. But again thanks! I really do think she's the one even tho I'm in 10th grade lol