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Perfectly Flawed
September 10th, 2012, 12:11 AM
My only truly good friend who I'm in love with, but can't date because she has a boyfriend just told be she would be fine with not talking to me. Her boyfriend called and threatened me because he knows I love her and now she is telling me I need to find someone else. I can barely breath, I can't do this without her.
Lego
September 10th, 2012, 12:28 AM
That's rough dude. But you're just gonna have to face it. I don't know what to tell you. Tell her you still want to be friends and want to keep in touch maybe and see what she thinks. so you don't lose her entirely :/ Been there though it sucks. Either that or let her go. Thats harsh saying shed rather not talk to you though. If thats how someone felt about me no matter how much it hurts, i dont need em. Id be flattered if a girl felt that way about me. Hope this helps...
May_Star
September 10th, 2012, 12:28 AM
I'd like to help you, and I'm sure the rest of VT would too, but I think it would be better to give more details on how she said that "she would be fine with not talking to you." How did it end up there? What's the story?
Perfectly Flawed
September 10th, 2012, 12:33 AM
I said I don't know if I can trust you anymore, and she when on a long drawn out thing about how she couldn't deal with me anymore and I needed to find other people to talk to or else she wont talk to me anymore... I didn't do anything and her BF starts cussing me out at 11pm because "I'm trying to break up their relationship." this girl is the same one who kept me from killing myself 2 years ago and helped me stop cutting.
Corb
September 10th, 2012, 12:42 AM
I've been in the same position. It hurts bad now, but it will get better. You could try this: Explain to her that you are sorry for making her feel uncomfortable and that you want to remain friends. Tell her how important she is to you and how much she has helped you in life. Make sure she understands that you are happy as long as she is happy and that you don't want to harm her relationship. If she is a true friend, she will understand and remain your friend. If not, she isn't worth the worry anyway.
Mortal Coil
September 10th, 2012, 05:07 AM
Hey, I'm really sorry to read this. Have you considered that maybe her boyfriend put her up to this? He sounds like an insecure asshole who acts like a jerk to get what he wants, and it's pretty likely that he sees you as a threat.
As for you "needing to find other people to talk to", if you are too clingy, then it can smother people. As much as someone loves someone else, there is a limit. Fortunately, you have VT. And probably after a week without contact, she'll realize how much she misses you.
Perfectly Flawed
September 10th, 2012, 01:13 PM
You know I think I'm going to just make her boyfriend's life a living hell for about a week. He has consistantly given me shit and I'm tired of it. I can get a new best friend and I'll use my friends on VT to keep me stable. If he wants to threaten me physically I'll play ball. Thanks for the advice, but this girl has made me weak over time. I hate loving people. Sorry about the rage ventilation, but I needed to let people know.
Corb
September 10th, 2012, 05:34 PM
that's probably not the best idea but I wish you the best of luck with whatever it I'd you do.
Mirage
September 10th, 2012, 06:09 PM
I'm so sorry. I've been in this situation almost more times than I can count but eventually you get over it. I know it's rough at first but it WILL get better.
Perfectly Flawed
September 11th, 2012, 08:20 PM
Okay I'm feeling a little better. I'm just completely ignoring that group of people, and avoiding conflict.
Mortal Coil
September 12th, 2012, 04:20 AM
Good for you! You will get through this, you're strong enough :)
Mirage
September 12th, 2012, 09:47 AM
That's what I'm talking about! Power through it man. Great job!
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