Is He Wrong? or Am I Wrong?

[ggw015]

My friend and I got into a huge fight the other night. To an extent i feel like its a good thing that we aren't talking anymore, but at the same time I'm really dreading it because I love this guy. He's like my brother.

Basically, It all started after he got his new girlfriend about 3 months ago. Ever since they got together he's been talking to me less and less. I would always ask him to hang out, or to come over to my house, and he would always either not respond, or say "Sorry bro I'm with my girlfriend, so I can't"... It got really old because he would never make an effort to hang out with me, his "best friend" But, I never gave up asking if he could hang out. Recently it got to the point where I would have to ask his girlfriend if they were actually hanging out or if he was just lying to me because he didn't want to hang out with me. I would have to ask her because I felt like I deserve the truth... Whether that meant going behind his back or not. But the other day he found out that I was asking her those things and flipped out on me. He sent hurtful messaged over text like things such as, "I never wanted to hang out with you, you're creepy as F$*k, I don't need you as my friend, you never were my friend, its freaking weird how you always want to hang out with me and you act like you're my butt buddy, you're so emotional that it creeps me out too."

The things that were said really hurt and I don't know if he really meant it or not, or if it was just a heat of the moment thing. I'm stuck right now and I don't know whether I should be mad at him, or if I deserve to lose him as a friend. Was I wrong? or Was he wrong? Did I have a right to do what I did?

Help:[

[dontfiguremeout]

Honestly, I would never ever let a friend say that to me ever!!! If someone did, no longer would they be my friend!! But it's both of your faults actually! So it's your fault because you decided to talk to his gf to see if they were doing stuff, but as a good friend I would totally keep their privacy to each other! And his fault for sending that message to you, but also to lead you on as a good friend if he really meant that stuff! So in my opinion, you really need to move on! No one deserves a friend like that, or to be treated like that! It will be tough in the beginning, but you'll move on, and find someone who will treat you so much better!

[FreeFall]

Both of you are wrong.

You should've trusted him, but even so, you're second place in his life. That "Bros before hoes" motto? That's a load of bull, and my bf's quick to put anyone that tells him that crap in their place, I'm not a hoe anyways just the one he loves. I'm sorry you miss him and you feel put aside, but you've dropped in rank in his life. And never, ever, do that divide and conquer. Ever.
You do not go behind one's back and speak to their significant other about them, unless you're throwing some sort of surprise party. She's not his secretary do not ask her about things in his life, where he's really at, anything, if he won't/isn't/doesn't tell you.

He was an ass to say that to you. Whether he meant it or not, heat of the moment or not, does not matter. He should have the maturity and capacity of being able to control himself and his word. had it been in person, I'd give some leeway but when you're texting you have to think about the words you're typing and read them as they pop up on the screen. I don't buy that, 'oh I was typing really angry and had no idea what I was saying'. There's a big difference between blurting things out and taking the time to hit the keys to form the words, to form your sentence, to form your thought. Even if you were wrong, you didn't deserve that.