rockburntm
September 8th, 2012, 02:20 PM
First I would like to apologise that this is a very long question, but PLEASE read it ALL so you get a full understanding of my complicated situation!
So there's this guy who used to be my best friend, literally. And I've always known him as a shy, insecure sort of guy. We were never really popular, we were sort of the strange guys who sort of kept to themselves Then all of a sudden he started working out like hardcore and got pretty damn ripped and strong. Then we fell out over something small and stupid which was admittedly his fault anyway. After a few months he started posting pictures on his Facebook and other places of himself topless, so that his ripped body was on full display. This gave him a lot of attention, mainly from girls, which he was not used to having, and before long he had changed completely. He was surrounded by girls, they thought he was cute and perfect because of his shy sort of personality, and he also got more male friends as well who wanted to be around with him because of his popularity. Soon I noticed a lot of things were changing. He wasn't speaking to me at all, he wouldn't hang with me, but instead with all his new friends who loved him like hell. It was soon that the bullying started. Every day when he would pass me with his friends he would start making comments such as "Hey look it's that ******" and they would all laugh at me and stuff. He would start shoving me as we passed each other in the School corridor. He would spread pathetic rumours about me, yet people would believe them, and he would use me as an example for an idiot or a bad person in his conversations I sometimes would overhear. A few times I have tried to stand up to him, but he's just too powerful, all his friends stand up for him and tell me to leave him alone, and that I'm a freak ect. He has threatened me online saying that he will beat me up if I try talking to him. I'm really confused, I don't know weather I could fight him or not. I mean, a long time ago I would have been able to beat him in a fight easily, but now he just looks so different, not just physically, but mentally. He has an ENORMOUS self-esteem, and reckons he could take down anybody, which is a lot different to how he used to be.
Anyway, Months went by of this bullying, and the only people I had to turn to were a few other people in my class. Then all of a sudden, the bully announced he was moving states. So he left and tons of people got sad and said goodbye to him, I was overjoyed of course and I had been counting down the days until he was going to move out.
After he had gone, my life started to improve, I began to make friends again, but MOST OF ALL people started to realise how much of a dick that guy actually was. Soon people found out that he has been cheating their girlfriends, saying stuff behind their backs, all this stuff which I had never heard of, but yet was not surprised to hear. I started to make friends with the people that used to mock me, they realised that I was not the freakish person the bully had portrayed me as. People started hating this guy, and soon people were saying that if he ever was to come back, they would beat his *** for the mess he had left behind. Meanwhile, this guy was still posting online, writing suggestive messages to girls in our school, and this angered many others. The bully soon realised this so he started sucking up to people on-line, sending them friendly messages and trying to win back his friends, but it wasn't really working for him.
A year later, this bully has announced that he will be moving back over here, to the same school with us. I am unsure weather he realises that people don't want him back, or weather he thinks that everybody is missing him. The girls are DEFINITELY missing him, and no matter what we say to them, they still think of him as a nice guy. The girls are probably the main reason he wants to come back. A lot of boys have said that they want to hit him when he comes back, and I really hope that is what happens, because I have a strange feeling that he is going to simply come back, then start winning back his old friends one by one until he is able to start making my life hell again. I know that a lot of the people who have promised to hit him are likely to wimp out of it and won't actually do it. But this guy is very Seductive. He knows how to win friends and how to make people feel good about themselves.
SO I am faced with a situation. He is moving back here in 10 days, I don't know what he will look like or what will happen, but I want to be prepared. He is quite strong but so am I. I honestly have no Idea weather I am capable of fighting him and winning. I have started working out 3 times a week, but I don't know weather 4 work out days will be enough for me to increase my strength. This came as a surprise to me. What should I do if he confronts me, or how can I get onto his good side? I know that he is an insecure person, he's scared of thunder for f*cks sake... But deep down I know that he is still my friend, and I wouldn't mind being his friend, as long as he starts acting better.
Please guys, I really need help. If he starts f*cking up my life, It's going to affect me so bad. I'll never be able to get a girlfriend, I'm gonna start getting into trouble, I won't be able to be myself without being mocked. Please help me, or give me your guess on what you think will happen when he gets back, because people are saying he's going to get beaten up, but we all know inside that he's gonna try and win back everybody he lost.
So there's this guy who used to be my best friend, literally. And I've always known him as a shy, insecure sort of guy. We were never really popular, we were sort of the strange guys who sort of kept to themselves Then all of a sudden he started working out like hardcore and got pretty damn ripped and strong. Then we fell out over something small and stupid which was admittedly his fault anyway. After a few months he started posting pictures on his Facebook and other places of himself topless, so that his ripped body was on full display. This gave him a lot of attention, mainly from girls, which he was not used to having, and before long he had changed completely. He was surrounded by girls, they thought he was cute and perfect because of his shy sort of personality, and he also got more male friends as well who wanted to be around with him because of his popularity. Soon I noticed a lot of things were changing. He wasn't speaking to me at all, he wouldn't hang with me, but instead with all his new friends who loved him like hell. It was soon that the bullying started. Every day when he would pass me with his friends he would start making comments such as "Hey look it's that ******" and they would all laugh at me and stuff. He would start shoving me as we passed each other in the School corridor. He would spread pathetic rumours about me, yet people would believe them, and he would use me as an example for an idiot or a bad person in his conversations I sometimes would overhear. A few times I have tried to stand up to him, but he's just too powerful, all his friends stand up for him and tell me to leave him alone, and that I'm a freak ect. He has threatened me online saying that he will beat me up if I try talking to him. I'm really confused, I don't know weather I could fight him or not. I mean, a long time ago I would have been able to beat him in a fight easily, but now he just looks so different, not just physically, but mentally. He has an ENORMOUS self-esteem, and reckons he could take down anybody, which is a lot different to how he used to be.
Anyway, Months went by of this bullying, and the only people I had to turn to were a few other people in my class. Then all of a sudden, the bully announced he was moving states. So he left and tons of people got sad and said goodbye to him, I was overjoyed of course and I had been counting down the days until he was going to move out.
After he had gone, my life started to improve, I began to make friends again, but MOST OF ALL people started to realise how much of a dick that guy actually was. Soon people found out that he has been cheating their girlfriends, saying stuff behind their backs, all this stuff which I had never heard of, but yet was not surprised to hear. I started to make friends with the people that used to mock me, they realised that I was not the freakish person the bully had portrayed me as. People started hating this guy, and soon people were saying that if he ever was to come back, they would beat his *** for the mess he had left behind. Meanwhile, this guy was still posting online, writing suggestive messages to girls in our school, and this angered many others. The bully soon realised this so he started sucking up to people on-line, sending them friendly messages and trying to win back his friends, but it wasn't really working for him.
A year later, this bully has announced that he will be moving back over here, to the same school with us. I am unsure weather he realises that people don't want him back, or weather he thinks that everybody is missing him. The girls are DEFINITELY missing him, and no matter what we say to them, they still think of him as a nice guy. The girls are probably the main reason he wants to come back. A lot of boys have said that they want to hit him when he comes back, and I really hope that is what happens, because I have a strange feeling that he is going to simply come back, then start winning back his old friends one by one until he is able to start making my life hell again. I know that a lot of the people who have promised to hit him are likely to wimp out of it and won't actually do it. But this guy is very Seductive. He knows how to win friends and how to make people feel good about themselves.
SO I am faced with a situation. He is moving back here in 10 days, I don't know what he will look like or what will happen, but I want to be prepared. He is quite strong but so am I. I honestly have no Idea weather I am capable of fighting him and winning. I have started working out 3 times a week, but I don't know weather 4 work out days will be enough for me to increase my strength. This came as a surprise to me. What should I do if he confronts me, or how can I get onto his good side? I know that he is an insecure person, he's scared of thunder for f*cks sake... But deep down I know that he is still my friend, and I wouldn't mind being his friend, as long as he starts acting better.
Please guys, I really need help. If he starts f*cking up my life, It's going to affect me so bad. I'll never be able to get a girlfriend, I'm gonna start getting into trouble, I won't be able to be myself without being mocked. Please help me, or give me your guess on what you think will happen when he gets back, because people are saying he's going to get beaten up, but we all know inside that he's gonna try and win back everybody he lost.