I just don't get it...

[missisabella]

Hey guys

So I'm 19 and I've never had a boyfriend, which really hasn't bugged me until just recently because I've started to feel really lonely. I don't understand what I do wrong that prevents guys from wanting to date me. I have no trouble finding a guy to hook up with if I feel like it, but I've never found someone who likes me for more than just my appearance.

It may sound stupid but I feel like my personality isn't good enough.

I just need advice on how to make guys notice me as a person, not as pretty much a sex toy. Also just needing some support... I don't know anyone who I can talk to about this in real life so hopefully you guys here can help me

It's really starting to get me down.

[Nihilus]

Branch out from your usual activities to meet new people. Then ASK guys out if you aren't getting anywhere. And don't have sex with them immediately. Eventually you will find someone.

[Taryn98]

Your problem is your self esteem. You allow guys to use you just for sex and feel your personality isn't good enough. You need to be happy and confident in yourself. Once you feel that way, other people will see you in the same light and things will be better.

Don't hook up with guys. Get to know them and allow them to get to know you. Develop a closeness and relationship and after you've had that for weeks/months then take things to the next level. If they bolt because you won't have sex, then you know they weren't the right person for you anyway.

[Wayne92]

I have the same problem but I never had sex. The only time I can say a girl had a thing for me, she ended up cheating on her bf with a friend of mine while leading me on. So what does that tell you? I can talk to girls and a lot of them say im a nice guy but when it comes to dating me, no dice. You aren't alone honey, attractiveness isn't your problem at least. Maybe the guys you try with or like Taryn said, self confidence.

[missisabella]

Does anyone else have any insight?

[jegoss02]

Okay. So your lucky to be able to get whoever you want as in hooking up. If you want to find someone who likes you for who you are, your likely to find that person outside of your social cliche. Something you might consider is finding some people you went to school with or are in school with who aren't/weren't your close friends and get to know them. People can surprise you.